People who did better than you

By Sky
@skysnap (17652)
September 2, 2016 7:45am CST
I remember the time when I had trouble with jobs whereas some other folks who scored less than me did better in interviews. I think that was the time I lost most of the self esteem and the confidence. It took years for me to get back on my feet and get to work. I wonder how would you feel for the people who do better than you do and they being younger? I just learned to live with that. I am just focusing on my plate. How did you learned to get over the setback where you see other people doing better and you being talented failed?
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18 responses
@Macarrosel (7577)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
I seldom have that feeling for I believe in myself and I know I did a lot better than them.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
yes believing in yourself is the only option.
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@scheng1 (24815)
• Singapore
2 Sep 16
I live with that long ago. I have worked in HR department, so I know that many bosses hire people they like, not the ones who are best qualified.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
yes that is what I have noticed too. so that is one reason I never treat my jobs success or failure as strong measure in real life.
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@scheng1 (24815)
• Singapore
2 Sep 16
@skysnap Yes, that is the same reason that I want to gain financial freedom. It sure is annoying to see those suckers get job promotions when they cannot do the work at all.
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• Australia
2 Sep 16
@scheng1 agreed, they must have done something right to get the job
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@Corbin5 (96145)
• United States
2 Sep 16
I would just keep working on getting better at those things for which I was lacking.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
yeah that seems to be one thing to be done.
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• New Delhi, India
2 Sep 16
I completed my graduation in B.Com, I have persume IPCC group level two cleared. ITI ELECTRICIAN with 75% marks, diploma in Information Technology 78% and still jobless, I know a person who is 12th pass and doing government job in public sector
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• Australia
2 Sep 16
Doesn't surprise me probably knows someone there who recommended him.
• New Delhi, India
2 Sep 16
@IlijaMarkovski this is a fact especially here in India,
@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
I can relate. I know my neighbor girl who is 12 th fail and done massage course married to NRI guy and now in US. It is all about luck in India.
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@PainsOnSlate (19902)
• Canada
2 Sep 16
My husband and I made a pack when we married, he had a big plan to become a big man in his field. We moved every time he got a better opportunity in his field.. We never looked back and after over 25 moves, each one a better job and more money,he got the dream job that he was looking for. It was worth it. We lived a fun and interesting life, our kids became strong and positive because we moved the all so often, and now even retired, he still works part time in his field . If we hadn't decided to move like gypsies, it would never have been as much fun and profitable. I hope you find what makes you happy...
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
Looks like you embraced change and got strong over time :)
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• Canada
3 Sep 16
@skysnap It worked for us.
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@AkoPinay (11542)
• Philippines
12 Sep 16
I am not affected. I just think of it as I am OVERLY QUALIFIED for the position.
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@skysnap (17652)
12 Sep 16
yeah that happens to for some people.
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@Shavkat (54208)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
I will just do my best on the next time around.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
yeah that we all have to do.
@toniganzon (47891)
• Philippines
2 Sep 16
Comparing myself to others made me vain and bitter so i quit. I just stopped looking at them and focusing only on my own abilities. Fortunately, I don't have to really complete with anybody but myself.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
yes competing with your own self is good idea.
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• Australia
2 Sep 16
I wanted other people to fail so i don't look like the only one who couldn't do the job.
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@skysnap (17652)
2 Sep 16
govt job is for you then.
@Shiva49 (11512)
• Singapore
3 Sep 16
I am almost retired after forty years of working life. I just do my work, make sure I give more than take, and leave it at that. I do not bother about others at all as I am just grateful for my blessings - siva
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@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
5 Sep 16
I am sorry that happened to you . But it shouldn't have bothered you but just keep trying and getting a job where you can shine too , in your own way . I never felt that way . I don't compare myself with other people that 's why .
@skysnap (17652)
5 Sep 16
yes just trying harder and hoping for things to get better :)
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@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
6 Sep 16
@skysnap That's good to know then .
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• Saudi Arabia
10 Sep 16
When I was younger I tend to try my best to impress other people , work hard to excel and please my parents. But there will always be other people that can be better than us but it doesnt mean we are less.. So I stopped comparing myself to others and just kept busy on my personal improvement. In that way I never have time anymore to feel envy of others. Actually I use other peoples success as my guide to find my own success too.
@skysnap (17652)
10 Sep 16
true we have to focus on our own improvement.
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@cahaya1983 (10067)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 16
I avoid comparing myself to others and focus more on improving myself instead. Sometimes we can't dwell too much on what we lack. I'm sure you're better than they are in other aspects. Good luck!
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
that is good avoiding to compare with others is a good thing.
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• Australia
3 Sep 16
We can only do the best we can and let faith take care of itself.
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
thats true.
@simone10 (21696)
• Louisville, Kentucky
3 Sep 16
I have never let things like that bother me at all. Even though I don't work anymore, I always did really well in interviews and have been lucky to get just about every job I have ever applied for.
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
you're lucky.
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3 Sep 16
I am trying to prove that I can convert all my talents to money but still here I am . . . struggling
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
yeah pretty much same story on my side.
@epiffanie (9052)
• Australia
3 Sep 16
I can imagine how hard it would be .. I've never had problems getting a job.. And being self-employed is the best thing I did for myself ..
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
yes for a lot of people that actually works well.
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• Philippines
3 Sep 16
I just move on to other things, it's just horrible sometimes in my case that after attending english classes twice, people still tend to be more better than you.
@skysnap (17652)
3 Sep 16
yes. that happens with almost everything in life.