Will you tell this lie?
By Ivan Sin
September 8, 2016 3:51pm CST
I am a teacher. I do not want to tell lie. But...... If your nephew, 3 years old, asks you "My doll love me? Will my doll be unhappy if I do not play with him?" they what will you say? Will you tell lie to say "Your doll loves you. Your doll will be unhappy if you do not play will him."? Or you will tell your 3-year-old nephew the truth scientifically?
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8 Sep 16
This os not a case of truth or lies. And even scientists know that eyes (and heart or the hypothalamus if you wish) make absolute scientific truth impossible. The doll will be happy to play with your nephew. If dolls did not have emotions (looked from the eyes of a 3 year old) then why would you buy toys? Yet toys are an important part of learning.
8 Sep 16
I have to agree with M.-L. The child is only three years old let him enjoy his childhood. He will figure it out soon enough. Tell him that his doll loves me. You don't have to tell him that the doll will be unhappy if he does not play with it. You could explain that the doll doesn't expect him to play with it all the time that it will still love him if he doesn't.
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
8 Sep 16
@ivansin Sometimes knowing how to respond to a child can be tricky. We don't want to hurt them with the harsher side of life, but at the same time I have always been committed to being honest with my children. We played "pretend" with dolls when my children were younger, but they always knew it was pretend.
9 Sep 16
nawwww, don't ruin their childhood. Soon they'll grow up and are finally able to tell reality from fantasy. There is a stage in every child's life where he has imaginary friends and this is normal. Instead of saying yes or no, explore the child's feelings instead. So reflect the question back to them. "Do you think your little doll will feel sad if you don't play with them?" Or "How would you feel if you don't play with them?" This way, you focus on their emotions. Children project their feelings on dolls. Many psychologists use dolls as a tool to explore what's going on in children's heads. So it's not really the doll but what they feel. And this is what you should be addressing. I am no psychologist but at least that is what I would say in this situation