You can lead a horse to water

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United States
September 8, 2016 6:37pm CST
September 8, 2016 I've been emailing back and forth with an old classmate of mine who lives in Texas, not far from Austin. Every time I have an email exchange with her, she complains about all the work she does in her yard and garden. She complains about the weeds and how her flowers aren't doing well and about how much work it all is. So I asked her if she'd visited the Lady Bird Johnson Wildflower Center in Austin and shared with her that in the past I'd gone there twice a year for the native plant and seed sale, with a goal of totally landscaping my place with plants native to the state. Once that was accomplished, the yard maintenance was minimal, just mowing and thinning. Beautiful, too, and attractive to birds, bees and butterflies. Nope, she wasn't interested in that, she said. She's content with what she has. Except for invasive morning glories, and complaints about the spread of the ash tree, and complaints about the birds spreading the morning glories, and that the people she'd hired destroyed her flowers. And yet the solution is right there. The utopia of a low-maintenance landscape. I guess she'd rather live with frustration? You can bet I've led that horse to water for the last time, lol.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
some folks jest love to complain 't seems. not always wishin' fer solutions, but somebody to jest listen. fer myself, i'd love to be able to 've access to native plants/seeds'n my area that didn't cost'n arm/leg 'n my first born.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
What state are you located in?
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• United States
13 Sep 16
@blitzfrick new mexico, the eastern high plains.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
@crazyhorseladycx I've been through NM a number of times, loved it.
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@LadyDuck (152357)
• Switzerland
9 Sep 16
What a stubborn woman. There is nothing you can do, just let her alone with her complains.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
Yes, I've dropped the subject. I think she'll eventually find a way out of her dilemma, without my help. It's really difficult to watch/hear someone struggling this way. Maybe she's just searching for a reason to sell her home and move into an apartment and hasn't yet given herself permission to do that.
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@LadyDuck (152357)
• Switzerland
14 Sep 16
@blitzfrick This surely is very possible.
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• United States
14 Sep 16
@LadyDuck Fingers crossed that she'll find a way out of her frustration.
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@TheHorse (63988)
• Pleasant Hill, California
15 Oct 16
Some people prefer to complain. They'd be lost without something to complain about.
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• United States
19 Oct 16
Yes they would. I guess I need to (re-)learn this lesson from time to time.
@DianneN (76157)
• United States
14 Sep 16
Sometimes it's difficult to make someone see the light. Save your breath/emails. Some people just love to complain and hear themselves talk. So frustrating for us!
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• United States
14 Sep 16
This is so very true. We are old high school classmates and neighbors, and email maybe once a year and these complaints always come up.
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• Eugene, Oregon
9 Sep 16
Can't blame you with the solution handed to her. Strange are some people.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
Ah well, I gave her one solution. There are others. I trust she'll eventually find one that suits her, other than complaining.
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@shivamani10 (11233)
• Hyderabad, India
9 Sep 16
how can you make her listen when she has determined not to?
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• United States
13 Sep 16
No way. Horse to water. Fageddaboudit.
@sharon6345 (121728)
• United States
9 Sep 16
LOL That is not easy when people don't listen.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
Yes, pretty much talking to the hand there.
@Susan2015 (20413)
• United States
9 Sep 16
It sounds like she doesn't want to stop complaining about it.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
Yes, at least for the moment. I'll check in with her again in a few months to see if she's made any progress.
@jaboUK (53541)
• United Kingdom
8 Sep 16
Love your last sentence! Yes. leave her to her moaning now.
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• United States
13 Sep 16
Done!
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