Actions Over Words
September 15, 2016 11:42pm CST
In a discussion of mine, "Blank Stares and Distractions", ( @DaddyEvil and I wrote how words don't hurt us. He stated, "That is what I usually say, too, but a "nickname" that pisses me off is liable to get me put into jail. " (http://www.mylot.com/comment/2969732/17839090/26290992) I can personally say i've never gotten to that point. People are always amazed as to how I can be called all kinds of derogatory names and not show a hint of displeasement. At a former job of mine, a military welding inspector started to yell and name calling me as if I were an enlisted soldier, nose to nose, I just kept a smile on my face while everyone around me was stunned at the scene in front of them. To me, when someone starts to try to use negative verbiage against me, I just let them get it out of thier system, what do I care? Who knows, I may learn a new word or insult. Verbal bullies is all they are. Far as i'm concerned, a punch to the throat hurts more than unpleasant words to the ears. Next time any of you gets insulted or put down verbally, just smile at them, walk away and go have a cookie. -Photo by me Plethos-
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19 Sep 16
@Plethos .. In our end of the world, it does not work always. The offense comes in form of interference with the way we live not abuse. Then there is no choice. If we smile we have a statement "mouname angikaram", meaning silence signifies acceptance.
• United States
19 Sep 16
@vandana7 - so would it then be fair to say that your end of the worlds interpretation of silence is a bit of a cultural difference? because theres also another saying, that im sure youve heard before, it goes, "silence speaks louder than words."
26 Sep 16
A lot of this depends on our age too I think. If when we are young, our father tells us repeatedly how useless we are, hopeless at everything, cannot show affection, have no brains, and that we have a mind of jelly, over and over, for ten/fifteen years or so, since we were very young, these types of words can kill our inner spirit, and destroy our lives, before they have even ever begun. If we can make it to an adult age, and somebody helps us to remove some of our garbaged programs from our minds, we might eventually see that we are ourselves, and not who these people said that we were. Unfortunately, some of us, live our whole life without ever recovering from being drowned/held under, by such words, when we were younger.
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
18 Sep 16
As a Gay, out, Jewish Teenager in the Bronx in NYC and then a gay activist I learned very early how to deal with name calling, negative verbiage, bullies---I agree with your last sentence BUT that's why I got so fat--eating all those cookies!!!