What is the difference between love & in-love?

Perth, Australia
September 20, 2016 4:05pm CST
Just randomly thinking about this. I don't have anything fascinating to say here. I didn't read an article or watch a crappy romantic movie. Was just thinking about the differences between loving someone & being in-love. How can you tell when you're in-love? And how can you tell when the other person is in-love with you? My Aunty once said to me "You just know." And I have had a feeling before with someone. A feeling I've never had before and it felt so special and peaceful. Anyway, what are your personal thoughts on this. Differences between love and in-love and how to tell when you are in-love etc?
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• Jacksonville, Florida
20 Sep 16
I also think you just kind of know. When you can't imagine your life without someone in it for a second your in love. If you would choose that person over anything else in the world you could have your in love. When that person is so beautiful with the flaws they have, your in love. It's this amazing feeling that your heart would tear in half at the thought of losing them. That person completes you in a way you never thought possible.
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• Rochester, New York
20 Sep 16
That is the Perfect explanation!
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@TRBRocks420 (77850)
• Banks, Oregon
21 Sep 16
She took my answer lol.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
21 Sep 16
@LisaSteinmetz Thank you. =)
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@Daljinder (21606)
• India
20 Sep 16
When you love someone, however much you care about them, you almost always come first. When you are in love, they become your first priority. "Love" can be passionate and all consuming while "in love". it is steady, deep and calming. It brings a sense of security "Love" is selfish and makes you want them with you because they make YOU feel good while "in love" is unselfish and you want them to be happy wherever they are or whoever they are with. You can walk away from "love" if necessary but you can't completely walk away from "in love" "Love" is a choice while "in love" is not. It just happens. Lastly, if you can't bear to live in a world where they don't exist even for a second then you are probably "in love" coz you can possibly move on from "love" With lots of love Love Guru: DJ
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@TheHorse (66034)
• Pleasant Hill, California
29 Sep 16
It might vary person to person. I tend to put others first anyway. It's a character flaw.
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@Daljinder (21606)
• India
5 Oct 16
@TheHorse Yepperz!
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@vandana7 (65116)
• India
5 Oct 16
@TheHorse ..now...that flaw is lovable..
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@jaboUK (54036)
• United Kingdom
20 Sep 16
You are in love if you can't imagine life without them. Look ahead a few years and try to imagine them older - do you still like what you see? Take any little fault that they may have and magnify it tenfold - could you put up with it?
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@Daljinder (21606)
• India
21 Sep 16
@jaboUK I loved it
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@vandana7 (65116)
• India
5 Oct 16
Wow...this is really litmus test...loved the reply ..
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
21 Sep 16
no idea,
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@vandana7 (65116)
• India
5 Oct 16
Time you joined some love school
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
6 Oct 16
@vandana7 really? do the love school exist?
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@Daljinder (21606)
• India
4 Nov 16
@kamruzzaman5ndc Of course they do! I am the Love Guru there
@TheHorse (66034)
• Pleasant Hill, California
29 Sep 16
Well, love can have a bunch of definitions. Love of God. Love of self (in a good way). Love of your kids. Love of your Grandma. But in-love is a feeling. I'm OK with your Auntie's description. But it's easy to be fooled too. Especially when you're young (under 90 or so).
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@vandana7 (65116)
• India
5 Oct 16
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@ms1864 (6986)
• Bangalore, India
21 Sep 16
Well Love is quite a wide term.....you can love family, friends, some person you admire, some concept, some thing, even an idea. Being in-love is used more as a term one would use to acknowledge the ONE special person ... and i think your Aunt was right...you just know ...because it will not feel like hard-work to keep it going.
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@vandana7 (65116)
• India
5 Oct 16
Nice and unique point...it would not feel that hard..to keep it going..
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@hora_fugit (5442)
• India
5 Oct 16
I am a trouble but never in trouble.... Being in love is like being in mess, you lose control. But loving.... could be of 50 shades. As DJ said, more flexible. She said so, right? If not, let me be!!
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• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Hmmm. Good question @VivaLaDani13.. I still have to figure it out myself.
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@Daljinder (21606)
• India
21 Sep 16
@crafty01 (338)
• Jamshedpur, India
21 Sep 16
Loving someone means the other person makes you feel special or you think he or she will make your life special, at times you wish to runaway from something for eg. first you hate icecream and second you hate anything with chocolate flavour to the extreme, it means your hatred for chocolate flavour is more than any thing . Now If I say you have to choose between the two, 1 is Chocolate Cookies and 2 is Strawberry Icecream. You will choose Strawberry Ice cream to avoid Chocolate Cookies, You hate Iceream but Chocolate can make your life miserable so suddenly you will fell in love with Strawberry Ice cream. Big Car, Big House, Big Bank Account is a statement so you love some body is also a statement. Its more about you, you want to possess the other person for some psychological traits or for some reason. Its more like a transaction. If you are lucky other person may love you, You loving somebody may lead other to love you, chance are 50-50. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Being in Love I believe is very special, it can empower you, It means you love somebody and you dont care if he or she loves you because the very thought of him or her makes everything so special , such happy mood brings all the right answers to those lingering of your life or your opponents, and you begin to see a potential friend in every one including your opponents. GOD Bless you with LOVE
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