A year on

@kevin1877uk (36108)
September 20, 2016 6:45pm CST
A year on A year ago I landed back into the UK, I came back to the UK to nothing. I sold up and move for love to the USA which didn’t work out, we had run out of money and I had no choice but to return to the UK and to nothing. It’s been a long hard year and I do have a roof over my head very little else has changed. It’s been hard trying to find work, far too many people looking for work and too few jobs. There are jobs out there but it seems you really need to know someone within that company to gain work. I’m still single and no one wants to even date me, I’ve tried, which is depressing, people say you will find someone one day, how about now, been on my own way tooooo long. I really need someone in bed with me. A year on and still not that much has changed, I been back into education which is a step in the right direction one would hope. I guess I’m just had enough, you only can take so much.
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11 responses
@Happy2BeMe (66456)
• Canada
20 Sep 16
Giving up is never an option. You just have to keep believing that better days are ahead. I am sorry that you ended up in a bad situation because love didn't work out. You took a risk and if you hadn't you always would have wondered. I know how it feels to be alone and just want to have somebody to love and to hold. I was there for quite some time and then I met the man of my dreams. Everything takes time and you have to be patient. There is somebody out there for you and you will find each other. Have you tried online dating? I know it is not for everybody but it worked for me. We have been together five years now and are engaged to be married.
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@kevin1877uk (36108)
20 Sep 16
Thank you, glad things worked out for you. I've tried online dating they are horrible.
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@Happy2BeMe (66456)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
@kevin1877uk sorry to hear that. I only tried not the once so I had no bad experiences but I have heard horror stories from some people.
@inertia4 (26878)
• United States
21 Sep 16
Look. I know a year is a long time and I know you had a hard time this year with things. But looking at the big picture, a year is not all that long. You have to really settle yourself first. Then I am sure things will start to turn around for you. One thing at a time. I know how frustrating it could be after a bad relationship. But I guess I was lucky to fond someone a few years later that I am still with. But it did take me two whole years to bounce back. So there is still time for you.
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@toniganzon (39808)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
Dear Kevin, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I have to agree with @inertia4 though. A year may seem too long when we are sad and lonely. But i think you have to be happy being alone first before you can be happy with someone else. You might end up getting hurt again if you try to push things too fast just because you're lonely. Things will come at the right place and you'll find that person who's really right for you. Wish I could help you not to be that sad.
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@inertia4 (26878)
• United States
21 Sep 16
Thank you @toniganzon. I appreciate the mention. Yes, I think he needs a bit more time.
@toniganzon (39808)
• Philippines
21 Sep 16
@inertia4 you're welcome. I do understand how Kevin feels at the moment and I know you do too. But we both know that it's best we resolve our personal issues first and love ourself more before being with someone we can commit and be in a wonderful relationship with.
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@inertia4 (26878)
• United States
21 Sep 16
@toniganzon I totally agree with that statement. And he needs more time to get to that point.
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@franxav (3617)
20 Sep 16
Don't lose heart. Things will be better.
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@kevin1877uk (36108)
20 Sep 16
Thank you, but I think I already have.
@Morleyhunt (15929)
• Canada
21 Sep 16
Maybe you need to focus on friendship before worrying about the next step in a relationship. Time passes, we all move on. Hopefully you can get a good job that will improve your circumstances.
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@Drosophila (16863)
• Ireland
21 Sep 16
The irony of life is that, you often meet that someone when you don't expect that someone to show up. Like @inertia4 says you just gotta give it more time
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@inertia4 (26878)
• United States
21 Sep 16
Thank you. I think he will be fine in time. The normal time frame they say is like three years. Some people bounce back sooner or later.
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@Drosophila (16863)
• Ireland
21 Sep 16
@inertia4 ya or 5 depending on how messy the break up is
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@inertia4 (26878)
• United States
22 Sep 16
@Drosophila I don't think he will need 5. But maybe one more. Time is a funny thing really. And we do eventually come to a point when we think and say, that was what was bothering me? And then we are fine once again.
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@NJChicaa (28141)
• United States
21 Sep 16
Chin up. Someone special will come along in good time.
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@jaboUK (49988)
• United Kingdom
21 Sep 16
So sorry that you feel like that Kevin, and that things didn't work out in the US. I remember reading about you being there and you seemed so happy. I hope things turn around for you soon.
@5thHouse (1703)
• Sheffield, England
21 Sep 16
Sorry to hear you're so down. Sometimes all you can do is keep going. After years of struggling with depression, I know how tough it can be. When things seem really bleak, you have to just grab what little snippets of happiness come your way. Once I stopped thinking being happy was about having the 'big' things, I started appreciating the little things more and if I couldn't feel absolutely full of joy, I could at least feel peaceful, and that in itself was something. I have a friend who found himself unemployed at 50 and thought he would never work again, but recently an opportunity came up and he's back on his feet again, not earning anything like what he used to earn but he's happier in many ways. He feels as if all the trauma that brought him to that position happened for a reason, to eventually set him on a path that was more suited to him. So, I do feel your time will come. Just hang in there. Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans, John Lennon said.
@Jessicalynnt (48190)
• Centralia, Missouri
21 Sep 16
it's been a rough year indeed, I do hope you find a nitch and start getting some needs filled!
@vandana7 (57182)
• India
21 Sep 16
Aw..Kevin...hope things work out for you...your name brings up Kevin of home alone...I think you will get somebody this year for sure...god is not continuously bad. He can't afford to be. Otherwise, he will lose his popularity.