September 23, 2016 3:46pm CST
There really is nothing I can do. Mum rang at the end of her tether with Dad again. He winds her up, but is in a wheelchair, incontinent and de pendent. As usual I have no idea what the issue is and no solution. My parents are in their eighties and I live 70 miles away. Mum is Dad's carer and gets wound up and he can be really nasty. Most people in my Dad's position would be in a home. Telling Mum to let the carers who come morning and evening do the work doesn't help as she won't leave them alone to do it as they do not always do all that should be done. I wish I could help make life happy for them, -but I can't. This has happened for maybe 30 years now. I love them, but I wish there was a way to make my Dad speak out that he is grateful, I really do.
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23 Sep 16
It is hard to watch your parents get older and even more so when you are at a distance and you can't help them. Is you Dad of mind that you talk to him and make him understand how difficult he is being. Your mom is clearly not ready to put him in a home even life would be easier for her if she did. As they get older they get more stubborn and set in their ways.