It's Better To Forgive
October 4, 2016 2:24pm CST
I was running around the internet when I can upon this little quote: "I don't forgive people cause I'm weak I forgive them cause I'm strong enough to understand people make mistakes." - Heidi - To spoke right to me. I have been withholding forgiveness back for something someone said to me. She hurt my feeling, she made me mad. I didn't want to forgive, I wanted to punish her with my unforgiving nature. I have now forgiven but it does not mean I will forget. I understand that she may not have meant her nasty little words. I am pretty sure our relationship will not be as close as it was before but we will be friendly. It is the realization that I needed to forgive and move on that moved me to do so. It's not good to keep resentment holed up inside your heart. Do you sometimes have a problem with forgiving someone?
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• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 16
I am a very revengeful person. I don't mean for petty things. My kids are the most important thing in the world to me. If there has been an injustice to them I will track down and take vengeance on the person. I had a good friend that I had had for twenty five years. She accused me of stealing from her when I went to stay with her back in 2009. I had stayed with her before and she had never acted this way. She and I emailed back and forth and discussed it. I needed an apology for this untrue accusal. She would not give it though we had known each other for so long and she knows I am not a thief. So, needless to say, we are no longer friends. And, no, I won't forgive her. There are just some situations and behavior that I won't forgive.
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5 Oct 16
Most small trespasses I don't really care enough to remember so no need for forgiveness. Things that requires forgiveness tend to be major offences, like betrayal, theft etc.. It takes me a very very long time, but I eventually get over it completely. By that I mean the complete package, forgive & forget. move on, as if I've never experienced it in the first place. I don't want any part of the experience to taint my future life. It's not protection, it actually is secretly damaging my future prospects. Do I repair relationships with the said offender? Mostly no, my move on is complete. I simply don't trust the offender again. What do I hope to "learn" from a negative experience like this? People do stupid things. But don't like hatred consume what you once loved about people, relationship, the world, and yourself! That's the real damage of "holding onto the hurt".
5 Oct 16
If you read this beautiful story as seen in Matthew 18 vs 23 - 35, you sill understand why I say this; 'When I am grievously offended by someone, I call to remembrance how much I have been forgiven by the LORD, immediately I am empowered by that knowledge, and forgiveness becomes cheap to me.' Do likewise!
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Oct 16
not forgiving someone is not only a punishment to others, it is more of punishment to self...for something that you have not done wrong...so i tend to forgive...not cos i want to but cos i don't wish to punish myself for others' mistakes.
• United States
5 Oct 16
I believe we all struggle with forgiveness in our lives. I know I don't feel right when I am harboring in unforgiveness in my heart. When I forgive it doesn't mean things go back to how they use to be, but they go on. And when I forgive others I feel peace in my heart.
10 Oct 16
Forgive is for give. When you live your life just for giving and don't care about what you get, just go on and on without looking for awards or respect because you have enough respect for yourself and you don't need it from the outside. Than it is more easy to forgive.
• Jamshedpur, India
6 Oct 16
Well, it took very long time for me believe in forgiveness, but then I realized that people take the advantage of others forgiveness. Then I realized that forgiveness is a spiritual way of letting things go, so i felt that i have to forgive somebody because they are wicked or innocent to the ways of the World. Why brand somebody's acts as bad and forgive them. In order to brand somebody as bad for their wicked deeds I have to develop negative feeling for them and then forgive them, now it means I have to develop positive feelings for them. Then I learn from the GURU of Isha Foundation that life consists of only two things Pleasant and Unpleasant, If people make me feel pleasant then I thank Lord , if people make me feel unpleasant then then again i thank Lord for blessing me with enough power to let things go. So its always win win situation for me, no need to forgive anybody.