It's Better To Forgive

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@HazySue (16686)
United States
October 4, 2016 2:24pm CST
I was running around the internet when I can upon this little quote: "I don't forgive people cause I'm weak I forgive them cause I'm strong enough to understand people make mistakes." - Heidi - To spoke right to me. I have been withholding forgiveness back for something someone said to me. She hurt my feeling, she made me mad. I didn't want to forgive, I wanted to punish her with my unforgiving nature. I have now forgiven but it does not mean I will forget. I understand that she may not have meant her nasty little words. I am pretty sure our relationship will not be as close as it was before but we will be friendly. It is the realization that I needed to forgive and move on that moved me to do so. It's not good to keep resentment holed up inside your heart. Do you sometimes have a problem with forgiving someone?
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@FayeHazel (10881)
• United States
4 Oct 16
Yes for certain things I do struggle ... however there are many reasons people act certain ways... sometimes it's better to move along and forgive
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
4 Oct 16
I had to forgive so I could move on. I was stuck in the strong dislike mode.
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@lhgchau (157)
• Vietnam
5 Oct 16
You` re correct !. We should have the tolerance to forgive ... .
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
@lhgchau everyone makes mistakes
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@MALUSE (31825)
• Denmark
4 Oct 16
I think everybody knows this feeling. If we didn't, we would be saints.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
4 Oct 16
And I know I am not a saint.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Oct 16
It depends what they have done. I know I need to do it for myself, than more for them. But it is hard sometimes.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
4 Oct 16
I did it for myself. It is hard sometimes.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
11 Oct 16
@bbai16kg you need to take one step at a time.
@celticeagle (114391)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 16
I am a very revengeful person. I don't mean for petty things. My kids are the most important thing in the world to me. If there has been an injustice to them I will track down and take vengeance on the person. I had a good friend that I had had for twenty five years. She accused me of stealing from her when I went to stay with her back in 2009. I had stayed with her before and she had never acted this way. She and I emailed back and forth and discussed it. I needed an apology for this untrue accusal. She would not give it though we had known each other for so long and she knows I am not a thief. So, needless to say, we are no longer friends. And, no, I won't forgive her. There are just some situations and behavior that I won't forgive.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I understand why you feel the way you do. I have a much harder time myself when it involves my children or grandchildren.
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@celticeagle (114391)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 16
@HazySue .....Yes, children have enough to contend with when growing up. They don't need injustices along the way.
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@RitzzView (2576)
• India
5 Oct 16
I, personally, forget and move on quickly.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
8 Oct 16
you move on and leave them behind or stay friends?
@RitzzView (2576)
• India
8 Oct 16
@HazySue Stay friends. I move on from the problem or issue. Or the thing which hurt me. But never I've thought of getting rid of the person all together.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
11 Oct 16
@RitzzView I will say hello but it will never be the same.
@moffittjc (34793)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct 16
I will generally give people the benefit of the doubt. I am a very trusting and forgiving person. So far, it hasn't backfired on me in life!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Oct 16
I have never been that lucky.
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@moffittjc (34793)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Oct 16
@teresatrotter Sorry to hear that.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I usually am a forgiving person.
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@KristenH (19920)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
4 Oct 16
I do. It's sometimes hard to do.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
4 Oct 16
Yes it is. If for no one else you need to forgive for your own well being.
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@KristenH (19920)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
4 Oct 16
@HazySue So true.
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@teenspirit (1611)
• Israel
5 Oct 16
"Do not forgive people because they deserve your forgiveness Forgive them that you deserve to live in peace of mind " almost the same
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I like that saying. I forgave this time for my own peace of mind.
@OreoBrownie (3358)
• Winder, Georgia
4 Oct 16
It takes a strong person to forgive and mean it. It doesn't mean you have to be linked in any way, in fact forgiveness breaks the link that holds you prisoner.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
If you can't forgive the action, forgive because of your own self.
@meowch (1007)
• United States
4 Oct 16
I still have those memories of upsets, resentments. But I know keeping it inside will be harmful. I wish it is easy to forget but I'm trying to forgive so that I can move on from my negative experiences.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
It does affect you adversely to keep things bottled up inside. I forgave so I could move on.
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@1creekgirl (8381)
• United States
4 Oct 16
We know as followers of Christ that we have to forgive others. But it sure isn't easy, is it? I wish after forgiving that we could also forget. Hard to do.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
4 Oct 16
It becomes very hard to forget at times.
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@Drosophila (16860)
• Ireland
5 Oct 16
Most small trespasses I don't really care enough to remember so no need for forgiveness. Things that requires forgiveness tend to be major offences, like betrayal, theft etc.. It takes me a very very long time, but I eventually get over it completely. By that I mean the complete package, forgive & forget. move on, as if I've never experienced it in the first place. I don't want any part of the experience to taint my future life. It's not protection, it actually is secretly damaging my future prospects. Do I repair relationships with the said offender? Mostly no, my move on is complete. I simply don't trust the offender again. What do I hope to "learn" from a negative experience like this? People do stupid things. But don't like hatred consume what you once loved about people, relationship, the world, and yourself! That's the real damage of "holding onto the hurt".
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
People do stupid things and people do make mistakes. It's when they deliberately do or say something hurtful that I have to take a step back, distance myself, try to forgive what they did, and not let myself be as close.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
8 Oct 16
@Drosophila if someone does do something that is out of malice or jealousy I may say hello and be polite but they will not be my friend any more.
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@Jenning (2027)
• Nigeria
5 Oct 16
If you read this beautiful story as seen in Matthew 18 vs 23 - 35, you sill understand why I say this; 'When I am grievously offended by someone, I call to remembrance how much I have been forgiven by the LORD, immediately I am empowered by that knowledge, and forgiveness becomes cheap to me.' Do likewise!
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
8 Oct 16
I will forgive and I do move on. I just don't like to give someone the next chance to do the same thing.
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@Jenning (2027)
• Nigeria
8 Oct 16
@HazySue Sure. Forgiveness doesn't make us stupid! Enjoy your life friend. Unforgiveness has never been worth it...
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@XinfulThotz (4224)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Oct 16
not forgiving someone is not only a punishment to others, it is more of punishment to self...for something that you have not done wrong...so i tend to forgive...not cos i want to but cos i don't wish to punish myself for others' mistakes.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
You are right, you keep that resentment in your heart if you don't forgive. It can affect you in so many ways.
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@Jenning (2027)
• Nigeria
5 Oct 16
@HazySue I believe the one holding the unforgiveness suffers even more than the one not been forgiven. Unforgiveness gives pain and depression. Who is a witness to this?
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• United States
5 Oct 16
nah, i don't 've troubles fergivin' 'em. they've jest troubles comprehendin' that don't mean i've fergotten nor that their behavior/words 're acceptable.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I feel the same way usually. This time was harder than normal for me to forgive.
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• United States
7 Oct 16
@HazySue some folks can cut'cha purty deep
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@Dena91 (3621)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I believe we all struggle with forgiveness in our lives. I know I don't feel right when I am harboring in unforgiveness in my heart. When I forgive it doesn't mean things go back to how they use to be, but they go on. And when I forgive others I feel peace in my heart.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
It does give you peace of mind to forgive another.
@Jenning (2027)
• Nigeria
5 Oct 16
@Dena91 Exactly, and we'll realize that the pain is not worth the unforgiveness, therefore we forgive and receive Peace!
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• Israel
10 Oct 16
Forgive is for give. When you live your life just for giving and don't care about what you get, just go on and on without looking for awards or respect because you have enough respect for yourself and you don't need it from the outside. Than it is more easy to forgive.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
11 Oct 16
I think the big part of forgiving someone very close to you is forgiving the betrayal.
@crafty01 (293)
• Jamshedpur, India
6 Oct 16
Well, it took very long time for me believe in forgiveness, but then I realized that people take the advantage of others forgiveness. Then I realized that forgiveness is a spiritual way of letting things go, so i felt that i have to forgive somebody because they are wicked or innocent to the ways of the World. Why brand somebody's acts as bad and forgive them. In order to brand somebody as bad for their wicked deeds I have to develop negative feeling for them and then forgive them, now it means I have to develop positive feelings for them. Then I learn from the GURU of Isha Foundation that life consists of only two things Pleasant and Unpleasant, If people make me feel pleasant then I thank Lord , if people make me feel unpleasant then then again i thank Lord for blessing me with enough power to let things go. So its always win win situation for me, no need to forgive anybody.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
8 Oct 16
I think fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I will forgive the first time but the second time they do not get another chance. I just release them from my mind and life.
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• Delhi, India
6 Oct 16
I have always had a problem forgiving people who have hurt my core of my being. Although, lately I have realized that forgiveness is easier than holding on.
@HazySue (16686)
• United States
8 Oct 16
forgiveness is easier on you than holding on. If you hold on you tend to become bitter.
• Eugene, Oregon
5 Oct 16
I have always had a problem with forgiving, though it has gotten better lately.
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@HazySue (16686)
• United States
5 Oct 16
I find that the older I get the more I am able to forgive.
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