An accident waiting to happen...
By Joliet Jake
October 6, 2016 2:54am CST
Sometimes I wonder...if abortion had been legal in the USA before 1973, would any of us 7 kids in the family be here today? It's a valid question...none of us were planned, we were all 'accidents' according to Mom...and I never heard her state that any of us were actually wanted... So I have spent 56 years as an 'accident', and 36 of those knowing I was an accident. I don't know if the other 6 kids are aware of this or not...so I probably won't tell them. But there are some days when I am really curious...would I be here if Mom had been able to get an abortion? I'll never know...since she's dead, I can't ask her, and I don't think this is a topic I could really discuss with Dad. "Accidentally like a martyr The hurt gets worse And the heart gets harder"
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• United States
6 Oct 16
I have a friend who is the youngest of all his many siblings . . . I don't know exactly how many but apparently the gap in his age to the next oldest is really big - so they are all way older than he is. He says his parents had a "hiccup" when he was born . . . so he calls himself a "hiccup" !
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6 Oct 16
One accident I can understand, but seven? Surely by then they knew what was causing these accidents? My parents had eight children. The first was the 'perfect' child. None of the rest of us ever measured up. Oh, the damage parents can do to their children. Surprise or planned, all five of my children were loved (an knew it). Sometimes Gods plan and mine were not quite the same....
6 Oct 16
@JolietJake that is sad. My husband and I always said, we couldn't get divorced...neither of us was willing to be only a part time parent...our youngest was an oops. We referred to her as our bonus. She is unique. She's one of five but it many ways she is an only child..... From the moment I knew I was carrying her, she was loved and wanted.
6 Oct 16
Me and my brother are only year and half apart but the second brother of mine wasn't planned according to my Mom. He is almost 10 years younger than me. My parents had taken care of one other pregnancy before he was born as they didn't want any more kids. But the existence of this brother of mine was found late so they had no choice but go along with the pregnancy. I am not sure if my brother knows this or not. I hope he doesn't. He and Mom are very close. But knowing things like that can ruin pretty good relationships.
• Fairfield, Texas
6 Oct 16
Since I was born in '51, Mom didn't have a choice @JolietJake , however I know that she wasn't happy with having 6 kids. Dad's plan was to have a football team. Unfortunately he only had 2 boys out of the 6. He would have continued if Mom hadn't told him, "Oh hell no!"
• Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
7 Oct 16
@jolietjake I always breathed a sigh of relief i was born almost in 1972 (my birthday is the last week of December 1971) if she would have aborted, I just figure my grandma on my dad's side were very religious, and if found out she did that she would be kicked out of the family. My mom had told me once she didn't want kids she was having a fun time without them. But I like to think i am wanted at least by my dad because he was perfect and loved me so much! He showed it every day of his life. I don't have either parent to ask anymore, but i do have my sister and my uncle acts like my dad taking me to doctors appointments and therapist appointments as I am too afraid to drive! My aunt and sister also treat me like they are my mom!
6 Oct 16
I'm 11 months younger then my brother Mike, and I was told on numerous occasions that I was an accident. And I believe that part of it was because of the timing, but the other part was because I was a girl and they needed another farm hand-nice thing to tell a child repeatedly over the years. I remember my mother talking about my mother-in-law in the days after she passed. There are 8 kids in my husband's family, and my mother made a comment, well at least she didn't resort to abortion because she could have given the fact that they couldn't afford all of those children. Harsh words, but the last time that I checked you didn't need a credit check to have kids. I wouldn't think that anyone who would tell you that you are an accident is perfect themselves, sorry, I don't normally talk like that about someone who has passed, but that is my experience.