I Thought I Wasn’t Invited

Charmaine's cake last night
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
October 20, 2016 11:15pm CST
I suddenly get hurt , yesterday morning at the office , when I heard from an employee that my lady boss is giving a 2nd birthday party to her little girl , as she was already absent .. Why wasn’t I invited , I thought to myself . At past 9:00 a.m., she texted me to attend the birthday party of her little Charmaine, in the afternoon at a fastfood outlet and she apologized that no invitation was issued because they just decided about it the night before yesterday . I told her “ I thought , you are not inviting me “ . She said “you , of all people?” Would you go to a birthday party even if you weren’t invited ?
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
I never go uninvited, at times I get lots of invitations but I'm the one who makes excuses not to come especially if I want to finish a project at home, at times I let my wife and the children attend so as not to look rude. Sometimes we don't have to judge a situation right away like in this case.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
I think everyone of us wouldn't want to go to a party without being invited . I was brought up that way , that's why even at fiestas where everyone is free to come , i still won't go if i am not invited . That's nice of you to just have your representative . It should be that way indeed , if we weren't able to officially tell them you cannot come . Though , with the cellphone age , we can always text or call to thank them for inviting us and offer our apology for not coming . I agree , i am just getting sensitive , for judging why earlier i wan't invited .
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@jstory07 (134267)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Oct 16
No I would only go if I am invited
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
See, most of us do what is the proper thing to do .
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• United States
21 Oct 16
Aww that was sweet =) I don't attend parties if I am not invited. Thats a lovely cake, hope you had fun at your bosses daughters bday party!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
See ? No one would like to attend a party when he /she isn't invited . They might have their reasons and the guests must be limited so we have to just be considerate and understanding . The cake was so lovely indeed , just a small one since this wasn't a much prepared for party .
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• United States
21 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Yes, but I have known of some who show up even not invited. It is very embarrassing for the person & it could be a reason for why there is a limit to invites. It could be the venue is small, or they're maxed budget, or for close people/friends only, etc =) Small parties is okay, you were one of the special ones to be able to attend!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
@infatuatedbby That is true . Some people are shameless in tagging along their friends who were invited . I never do that at all. Yes, i am happy i am one of the special ones our boss will always invite .
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@jaboUK (64362)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 16
I remember you posting about attending the 1st birthday party of this little one - is it a year ago already? I'm glad that you were invited, and no, I wouldn't go to a party that I wasn't invited to.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
Yes, i posted about it . I am so amazed that you still have a very retentive memory because you remembered it. I think all of us won't go indeed if nt invited . It is so shameful to attend a party when you weren't invited.
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@Daljinder (23228)
• Bangalore, India
21 Oct 16
Even if invited, I might not go.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
But why? Don't be a killjoy.
• Agra, India
21 Oct 16
Never...I nevervgo anywhere if the invite is not proper
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
True . Even if an offiçemate wold say just go , i wouldn't go at all .
@hoong143 (1397)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 16
I think I will be not happy if I am not invited. By the way, if I am not invited, I will not attend the party.
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@hoong143 (1397)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Sometimes, people are headache in inviting people.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
Yes, i will too , specially that i am close to her. But you are right, whn we are not invited we shouldn't attend the party.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Oct 16
@hoong143 I agree .
@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
25 Oct 16
Depends on what type of party but I have gatecrashed parties so yeah, I will go even if I wasn't invited.
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@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
25 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD yeah. Gate crashing parties became some sort of a hobby for me and my friends back in the day. It was fine back then but nowadays, not anymore. Getting dragged out of venues by security takes its toll!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Oct 16
@allen0187 Correct in younger days we can do that . But not when there is security that can take you out if you weren't invited .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Oct 16
I guess there are parties where you can gate crash and those are those that are of your friends . ANd fiestas too need no invitation as long as you are a friend of the owner of the house .
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@moondebi (1199)
• Bangalore, India
21 Oct 16
I do not think I'll go to a party if not invited. Anyway that was not the case with you.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
It is so shameful to go to a party wherein you are not invited . The one who gave the party knows that you are uninvited . Yes, i was after all invited . If i wan't texted to go , i really won't attend . So , before going to the McDo at the mall , i went to the department store and bough a doll for my gift .
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
22 Oct 16
I would never go to any party without being inviting by the people who are holding the party..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
I am very happy to knw that, my friend . It's never a good thing to a party wthn not invited.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 16
@epiffanie You are so correct . Good for them they were invited . but then , it will be shameful on their part too because the clebrator when it's for a limited numbe only would be in a compromised situation. I don't go. when somebody just wan me to tag along .
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
23 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD I noticed too that some invited guests take the liberty to invite others without telling the hosts of the party ..Have you noticed that with some of our fellow Filipinos?..lol..
@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
21 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD No, I will not go or attend if there is no formal invitation.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 16
@antonbunot Really, are you seious? Bu you are thir father so i guess it means you don't have to be imvited anymore since it's agiven situation already .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
That's good to know . But when it's an occasjsion of the family l no need for an invitation.
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@antonbunot (11091)
• Calgary, Alberta
22 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD No, if my son or daughter does not invite me formally, I will not attend.
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@magallon (19280)
• Philippines
27 Oct 16
I really would not go if I am not invited. I like the cake in the picture. It is so nice...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Oct 16
I know that you would say that too . Yes, the cake was just small , only for the celebrator and her family . But i bet it is delicious because the one who makes it is my former architect officemate who resigned to be full time in business , architectural projects and baking cakes as orders .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Oct 16
@magallon Yes. She turned to cakes for her architectural ability .
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@magallon (19280)
• Philippines
27 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD So instead of designing buildings , your former officemate decided to design cakes.... She is a very good designer.
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
21 Oct 16
No...i wouldn't. I would assume the person had reasons for not inviting me. Maybe they wanted it to be just family.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
Yes, that is true . It could be that it will just be an intimate one . And it turned out that it is just for few of us , those employees directly under her office , like us her EAs , the grandparents and some family members .
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@XinfulThotz (4140)
• Singapore, Singapore
21 Oct 16
normally I won't go uninvited. but there are times whereby you may already be with one of the common friends and he/she drags you along...
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
@XinfulThotz Besides you seem to choke when you eat the foods in the party , uninvited .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
Well, that also happens to me at times . My friends will drag me along , but i really refuse specially that i don't know the one who invited . When it comes to occasions , i am so strict to myself - not to go if not invited . I fear being watched by the one who is giving the occasion with dagger eyes .
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• Singapore, Singapore
21 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD dagger eyes. normally if i don't know the person who invited, i won't go too.
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@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Oct 16
Of course I will not attend to a birthday party without invitation. It will be very embarrassing as I am not sure whether they welcome me.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
I so agree . When it comes to going to a party we really should be invted no js agged alog ith friends .
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
No, if not invited I will not come to any party.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
I so agree. It's so shameful , specially when you were ju tagged along by af friend .
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
22 Oct 16
It's so hard sometimes to figure those out. Like in your case it was just a failure to get an invite out. If it was a fancy thing where money for meals were being paid for I won't even think about it but sometime people you know well are just happy to see you.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Oct 16
@Bluedoll I so agree .
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
Yes, i must say , i was thinking that she just have forgotten, because they werei now busy preapring for the occasion.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
22 Oct 16
Not everything is so well organized unless it is very formal. A verbal invite sometimes means so much more too.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
21 Oct 16
such a cute cake! so what did you eat? any giveaways/take homes?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
Yes , the cake was so cute , with Hello Kitty design . There are lots of giveaways. I was also given a bag of candies. and goodies. But , i gavej it to me officemate who brought her two kids . at lest now, they each have a bagful of goodies. It was a simple occasion, so the food is McDo. fried chicken , fries, sundae and softdrink .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
@hereandthere So true .
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD it's much easier on the host. nothing to prepare, nothing to clean up.
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@LadyDuck (457295)
• Switzerland
21 Oct 16
Well, finally she invited you. Of course I would not go to a birthday party if not invited, this would be extremely rude.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
That's what i a, waiting for, her text inviting me . Had she not texted , i really won't go. I guess people like us value our dignity .
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@LadyDuck (457295)
• Switzerland
22 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Absolutely, I would never dare to auto-invite myself to a celebration.
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@DianneN (246334)
• United States
23 Oct 16
I would never go anywhere uninvited. I'm happy you were invited.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
Me too. Even f i want to go because i am anyway close to her, i won't go . And i am happy indeed , when she said Of all the people , when i told her i thought i wasn't invited. l felt importan .
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