How do you feel about loved ones who smoke?

Dundee, Scotland
October 21, 2016 6:53pm CST
I owe the idea of this post to@ tammys85. Ok. I was a smoker. Only been free of the evil things for 8 days. Never really gave much thought to friends and relatives who smoked. As a smoker that may be normal enough. But I wonder how relatives and friends viewed me as a smoker and if anyone actually was really concerned that I might actually kill myself. I think im glad that none of my boys smoke or my brother or sister. I have one friend who I really do worry about and I told him because he smokes more than a pack a day. Didnt stop him smoking. Anyway. Friends and loved ones who smoke. How do you feel about them smoking? Do you even mention it to them? Please discuss
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 16
My dad smokes but he never listens. Even my son draws him the dirty lungs and tell him how bad smoking is but it all fell on deaf ears. Let's be frank, every smoker knows smoking is bad even without anyone keep telling them and reminding them. I find one of the things is smokers are really selfish. One is the secong hand smike which is even more harmful to the people around them, then there's the cigratte butts which are even causing the cockroaches cancer, lol!~But above all, they always fail to realize that they are not only hurting themselves but the people who care for them as well, not just the smoke but the concern for their well-being
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman sorry but when I said selfish I was making a general statement through observation, not with a condemning tone as like you mentioned, the nicotine addiction there is real. The ciggies here are already very expensive but yet I don't think just hiking up the price would help. Like what you wrote above - taxation, cigratte companies happy then can sell to make profit, government happy they get loads of money. Let's watch and see if there will be ever any country that would ban it Even by banning it, the root of the problem is not addressed. Until and unless the root cause is addressed, people will still continue in their bad habits
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 16
@yugocean the heck....this world is so twisted and it's getting worse by the day
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 16
@saulgoodman CoolI might want to do some research on that. That's good to know
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• United Kingdom
23 Oct 16
I hate everything to do with smoking. Cannot stand the stuff
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• United Kingdom
24 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Weed is awful too lol
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
@annaroselock No its not Anna. Relatively speaking that is. And lots of my relatives would agree with you!!
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
Try weed!! Only joking. Now I am a non smoker I dont like anything about it either
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• Bournemouth, England
22 Oct 16
I have had close relatives who were lifelong smokers, even after developing serious health problems, and did not live to a good old age. They knew the dangers but it seemed just too difficult for them.to stop. I consider myself lucky that I never liked it much and kicked the habit when I was young.
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
I am glad to hear that you kicked the habit at a young age. I do wonder why intelligent people just cant quit. Im a perfect example. But this time I am stopping. Into day 9. Never got this far before. No cravings and although I have a bit of a wheeze i am confident my lungs will recover a bit.
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@1creekgirl (40093)
• United States
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman You can be proud of yourself. Just take it day at a time. It's a powerful addiction.
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• Bournemouth, England
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Well.done - I think they'll recover a lot more than a bit.
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@Daljinder (23222)
• Bangalore, India
29 Oct 16
No one in my family...even the distant relatives smoke. In fact, religiously speaking, it is strictly forbidden.
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@yugocean (9975)
• India
30 Oct 16
Good thing is No Smoking, but there is no proper ban either
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• Dundee, Scotland
1 Nov 16
Strictly forbidden sounds like a good plan. The longer I go without smoking the more I realize how bloody stupid smoking is.
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@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
22 Oct 16
I 've never smoked. But I hope others who smoke can get rid of that bad habit too.
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@Ayuriny (5144)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Yes, some of my relatives as well as friends of mine are smoking. Some of them smoke heavily. I tried to persuade them to quit smoking for several times, tell them that it could harm them. But, they seem wouldn't listen. So sad seeing them smoking...
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
@Ayuriny It is sad. I hope none of them die because of smoking
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
Good for you for not smoking. Have you ever worried that any of your friends or relatives could die as a result of smoking? Did you say anything?
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@ms1864 (6886)
• Bangalore, India
22 Oct 16
My home has very strict rules for smoking. It is not allowed indoors at all. Only my dad smokes...we have tried many times to make him quit...but if he doesn't want to...nothing we say or do will stop him. So there are rules...if a person wants to ruin his lungs..go ahead..but do not make us second hand smokers. Our health is precious to us.
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
Our health should be precious to us all. I think my health is important to me now. Hope its not too late. Maybe your dad will be like me and just decide to stop. Smoking is becoming so anti social that one day it may be that smoking is only allowed in the smokers own property
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@youless (112054)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Oct 16
I don't like my love ones smoke. As I love them, I care about them and I never want they have any problems, especially the health problems. I hope they will quit smoking.
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
I think most people would think the same as you do. Smoking kills people we love. Lets try and persuade everyone to stop smoking.
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@youless (112054)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Long time ago my dad was a smoker. He finally got rid of it and it was not easy. But he might not only quit smoking because of the health, but also the family
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
@youless The good thing is that he did quit. Reason maybe not the most important thing
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@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
22 Oct 16
I sometimes mention this issue, but my words are not heard by those einvolved, as they continue with smoking
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@quantum2020 (12040)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman That´s true
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
Someone really has to want to stop before they will stop.
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@yugocean (9975)
• India
22 Oct 16
No one in our family some, so never had any fell about it. However some of my relatives smoke. I used to object in a way to make them quit smoking, thats all.
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@yugocean (9975)
• India
23 Oct 16
@saulgoodman no, I never liked it. it smells bad even if a smoker's air comes to me
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@yugocean (9975)
• India
25 Oct 16
@saulgoodman thats good, you noticed it
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• Dundee, Scotland
23 Oct 16
@yugocean Now I have stopped I notice that as well. The smell is awful.
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25 Oct 16
My husband smokes (not a chain smoker) . I told him many times but I guess, old habits are really hard to break. Sometimes, he smokes inside the baby's room, which is soooooooooooooo annoying even though he smokes inside the toilet it still stinks and the smell lingers not in the baby's room but also in the other part of the house . It jeopardizes the our baby's health too.
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• Dundee, Scotland
25 Oct 16
It is a really hard habit to break. 11 days for me now without a ciggie and I think I wont smoke again. The e-cig helps. Maybe your hubby could invest in one of these things. Smoking in the babys room is not good. I think he should not be smoking in the house with any kids present. He must know its not good for baby.
@Jenning (2016)
• Nigeria
22 Oct 16
I have a compassion towards them because I know that smoking does more harm than good.
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@Jenning (2016)
• Nigeria
24 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Uhmmm. That's as plain as true.
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
It doesnt do any good
• United States
22 Oct 16
I don't like it I would like for them to stop, but unless they want to stop or change they want.
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• Dundee, Scotland
23 Oct 16
True. If they want to stop they will I thought that I wanted to stop sevetal times before but if I had really wanted to I would have. I do want to stop this time So i have
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
@CaseyRoss9966 You are very wise. If someone doesnt care about their own life why should anyone else care.
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• Defuniak Springs, Florida
22 Oct 16
I smoke. But a pack lasts me two weeks.
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• Defuniak Springs, Florida
22 Oct 16
@saulgoodman Ive quit before.
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
@thislittlepennyearns Me too but not for very long. This time I know its for real
• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
Ah well. You are not a heavy smoker. Have you ever tried to stop smoking? Habe relatives or friends suggested that you stop?
@5thHouse (1678)
• Sheffield, England
22 Oct 16
I used to be the only non-smoker in an office of 12 smokers. It was a tiny office and when they were all puffing away it was a nightmare. I can't believe I was expected to work in those conditions. If people want to smoke, that's up to them. I'm not going to preach at them to stop because that's up to them but I am so, so glad that we had the smoking ban. One of the few good things that the Labour government did for us.
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• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
You make an obviously valid point with regard to your office. Now we need a total ban on smoking outside. Need rid of these groups of drunks standing on the street outside pubs
• Dundee, Scotland
24 Oct 16
@5thHouse I have noticed in the last 10 days how much more pleasant our house is now it is free from ciggie smoke. Ciggie smoke pongs things up and I have become more aware of it. I havent been in a pub since the ban came into force. My mother was an usherette in a cinema in thr 60,s and early 70,s and clouds of smoke floated above the seats like a grey mist in front of the screen. It does seem insane now but much of everything else in the 60,s and 70,s seems insane now. Progress is wonderful. Smoking needs to be banned outside. Keep it in the smokers own property. No where else. 20 quid per pack. That would do the trick.
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
22 Oct 16
I just feel irked by smokers but have learned to keep my mouth shut. As for loved ones... I never loved anyone so much to care for their good habits, or the ones I may feel concerned about, well.... they didn't smoke.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48786)
• United States
23 Oct 16
I have never been a smoker and have a strictly no smoke zone in my home and in our cars.
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• Dundee, Scotland
23 Oct 16
Well done on that Marie. When I see people smoming in cars with kids on board thats when I get annoyed
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@1creekgirl (40093)
• United States
22 Oct 16
My husband smoked for about 35 years. I was used to the smell, although I never smoked. Now I can't stand the smell, makes my throat close up.
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• Dundee, Scotland
22 Oct 16
Did he manage to stop smoking? Only 8 days in and I cant stand the smell either. Wont be a smoker smell in our house again