Confusing Facebook Connections

Rochester, New York
October 21, 2016 8:55pm CST
One of the ladies I'm connected with on Facebook is from Bulgaria. She has been living here in the USA for a few years now and considers herself an American citizen. One thing she said that she finds racist is when someone asks her about her accent. If anyone were to ask her (especially when it comes to a business she is attending, ex. grocery store, YMCA) she tells them that they are discriminating against her and goes to a manager and files a discrimination complaint. She is writing a book about some of the things she has experienced while living here in the USA and from what she posted on her Facebook, she is not going to get a good reception from her book. She posts personal things on Facebook regarding her family and former colleagues from the school she taught at in Bulgaria. She even uses names of these co workers and accused one of stealing from her and the other teachers. She has no children of her own and is quick to judge parents based on how their children act both in school and in public places. She doesn't believe that children could have disabilities she just thinks that they need to be disciplined by their parents more. She says that those children go to school just to cause trouble for other children and the teachers. I'm connected with her via our love of History and actor, Adian Turner. I love the posts she makes about History, she comes up with some amazing websites. If you were living in another country would you get offended if someone asked you where your from? I admit I am one who always asks that question, not to be rude, but because I'm curious about them.
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@jaboUK (53936)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 16
There is nothing wrong with being interested in where someone is from, she sounds far too touchy. I too ask people that question, nothing offensive about it. She doesn't sound like a nice person.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I enjoy finding out where people are from. I don't ask to be rude, but I ask because I'm interested.
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@jaboUK (53936)
• United Kingdom
23 Oct 16
@LisaSteinmetz Exactly. I agree 100%.
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@Happy2BeMe (74743)
• Canada
22 Oct 16
I don't see anything rude or racist about asking somebody what country they are from.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I don't either, I would see it as kind of a compliment.
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@Happy2BeMe (74743)
• Canada
22 Oct 16
@LisaSteinmetz that is how I would feel too if somebody asked me. I would be proud to tell them where I come from.
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@ms1864 (6986)
• Bangalore, India
22 Oct 16
wow...sounds a little ungrateful and judgy. I do not find the question rude....curiosity of people is normal. Sounds like she has misunderstood the whole concept of discrimination.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I think she misunderstood it as well.
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@jstory07 (67145)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Oct 16
I ask people where they are from because I find them to be interesting people. I never though of any bad reason to be asking them that.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
She is the only person I have met who gets offended when asked about her accent. It's baffling as to why she gets upset.
@LadyDuck (157635)
• Switzerland
22 Oct 16
I am Italian and I have lived in France for 30 years, NO I was not offended if people asked where I was from, even if this is an all American habit.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
Is asking International folks where they're from an American thing? I've never heard of that before. lol
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@LadyDuck (157635)
• Switzerland
23 Oct 16
@LisaSteinmetz Yes, when you travel through Europe nobody ask "where are you from"? But I remember that in the United States everybody asked.
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• Rochester, New York
24 Oct 16
@LadyDuck Oh wow I didn't know that. Thank you! I learned something new today. lol
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@hereandthere (31110)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
doesn't she herself get curious and ask people when they don't look or sound like her back in her homeland, even if the encounter is brief? it's harmless and part of human nature. i wonder if children with disabilities aren't allowed to be educated or even have basic life skills where she's from. as a history lover, i guess she's more interested in events than people?
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
She's writing a book on Winston Churchill so it should be interesting. Her views on children are completely opposite of mine. From what I have picked up on various posts on her page, she thinks children should be seen and not heard. I have yet to see her post a kind thing about someone she knows other than her husband on her page.
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• Philippines
22 Oct 16
@LisaSteinmetz sounds like only she and her husband are 'perfect' and 'superior' in her eyes.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
@hereandthere In her eyes they are.
@acelawrites (10961)
• Philippines
24 Oct 16
No I won't be offended and would be happy to share beautiful things about my country.
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• Rochester, New York
24 Oct 16
Thank you. I think most normal people wouldn't get offended at all.
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
How can she make an opinion about children when she herself don't have children.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I don't know. I'm thinking that because she feels she was a school teacher she knows what she's talking about.
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@andriaperry (50897)
• United States
22 Oct 16
She would hate Tony he would ask right off, but people like her makes me mad because its not racist.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I try not to let it get to me when she talks about it. She would hate meeting me as well because I ask folks all the time.
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@AkoPinay (11809)
• Philippines
22 Oct 16
Nothing is wrong in asking but something wrong with her if she finds it offensive. If you ask me where I am from because of my grammar I don't find it rude.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
I would see it as a compliment and would be proud to talk about where I come from.
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@yukimori (9047)
• United States
22 Oct 16
It's not something I'd find offensive, but it could get old quickly when one is a long way from home. It sounds like she might not really think things through before she publishes them... I'd probably keep my distance from her considering the sort of things she's been posting.
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• Rochester, New York
22 Oct 16
Like I said she posts a lot of great links on Historical sites and stuff and that's why I really follow her. I very rarely post any comments unless it on one of those links.