Who didn't experience heartbreak? / myLot

Philippines

October 23, 2016 9:43am CST

My sister broke up with her long time boyfriend of seven years and she was a wreck. For the first few weeks, social media was her outlet. Posting stuff which intentionally (or not) pointed out her being jilted. I advised her against doing so. A heated conversation climaxed when I told her pointblank that the world doesn't care about her heartache. At all. Instead she just made herself a laughingstock. She cried buckets and I offered her a virtual hug. I did experience heartbreak. Many times. And I was even more pathetic than my sister. But of course I won't tell her that. I just wish that she will come out of this tragedy in one piece.

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rachz_kisses

@rachz_kisses (3798)

• Philippines

24 Oct 16

Heart broken, frustrations, disappointments... people nowadays chose social media to air out their pain. What happened to serious girl talks with girlfriends?

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

No more serious girl talks where we plot a cold bloody end for the lowly guy who hurt our girl friend.

crazyhorseladycx

@crazyhorseladycx (39515)

• United States

23 Oct 16

bless her heart, i feel fer her. 7 years's a long time to've invested'n a relationship. i hope she realizes once the smoke clears that she's better off. noperz, facebook 'n all other social media aint the place to air that dirty laundry. love the pic! makes't nice to know that some're still happy 'n takin' those picnics together'n the park'n their 'well-seasoned' years.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

That's what I told her. That 'forever' still exists. :)

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fazelath

@fazelath (1174)

• India

23 Oct 16

I think most of the persons at one point in life would experience it. And how they cope up is different. Though it's very difficult to come out of a long break up. After a break up, the more the person cries the more the person becomes weak.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

Sounds like you've been there and done that.

fazelath

@fazelath (1174)

• India

28 Oct 16

@fazelath sorry this response by mistake

Morning Girl

@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

27 Oct 16

I'm glad your sister has a wiser sister like you. Using the social media as outlet for heartaches will not do her any good.

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Morning Girl

@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

29 Oct 16

@sol_cee Getting wiser while aging

, well that should be the case.

solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

Wiser..Aging..lol

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minisam

@miniam (9154)

• Bern, Switzerland

23 Oct 16

Many reasons l do not care about Facebook.People going there to announce their sadness/happiness.Come on, no one cares,people have their issues to deal with,they dont go crying in facebook. Im NOT active privately on facebook and don't care about it, but l do go look from outside (like looking from a window outside in)to see what people are talking about.Saw my sister`s message that her husband is having an affair and i thought *grow up no one gives a hoot. Another time l saw my cousin just broke up with her boyfriend, she kept going on and on about it and l thought what a sad lonely world we are living in,what happened to sharing your heartache with a friend who cares.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

The human emotion is one post away on FB.

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minisam

@miniam (9154)

• Bern, Switzerland

26 Oct 16

@sol_cee I hope it never gets there for me,i`d hate to share my breakup with people who couldn't care less.

Laurel (L_B)

@Happy2BeMe (99399)

• Canada

23 Oct 16

FB is her way of dealing with it. We all handle heartbreak differently. Maybe she needs for her family and friends to help her through it. She is hurt and reaching out. She will be fine. It just takes times. Seven years is a long time to just get over.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

Seven years is like forever. Time will be her foe and friend.

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Laurel (L_B)

@Happy2BeMe (99399)

• Canada

28 Oct 16

@sol_cee that is true

Pat Z Anthony

@PatZAnthony (14752)

• Charlotte, North Carolina

25 Oct 16

Everyone feels heart ache or a broken heart in live. This is not something that can be escaped.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

No one is exempted. True.

DianneN

@DianneN (246603)

• United States

25 Oct 16

I love your photo and the elderly love birds! Time heals all, and I hope it heals your sister soon.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

It delights me to see elderly love birds. Surely warms the heart.

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Canadian Archer

@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)

• Canada

28 Nov 16

It can be difficult:/

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

14 Dec 16

Because?

@acelawrites

@acelawrites (19273)

• Philippines

24 Oct 16

It could really break her heart because they had been in a relationship for 7 years! Yes, you are right when you advised her not to post about it in social media. There's lots of trolls there!

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

Trolls. lol I guess 'trolling' will become a new word in the dictionary.

Bhem

@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

24 Oct 16

She will eventually heal in no time.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

In time.

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ARM

@responsiveme (22926)

• India

26 Oct 16

That is a great photo. It must be bad for your sister , wishing that things get better soon ...as they definitely will for her.Her Mr Right is somewhere around.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

Or she can focus on her dreams. The heart can rest for a while.

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Manisha

@ms1864 (6886)

• Bangalore, India

23 Oct 16

Yeah...after a while...people will stop caring...they have their own lives to get on with. photo is cute.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

28 Oct 16

Sto caring and continue gossiping.

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5th House

@5thHouse (1678)

• Sheffield, England

23 Oct 16

Oh, your poor sister. Seven years is a long time. I agree though, social media is not the best outlet. She would be better off just pouring things out in private emails and phone calls to her closest friends. Facebook is just one big audience and the best thing you can do for yourself is put on a dignified face and not let them all see how you're hurting, because it only invites gossip and rumor-spreading and people taking sides, which often turns ugly and makes an already tough situation worse. I hope in time she will feel stronger.

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solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

You just have painted the bigger picture I wanted her to see.

vanny

@vandana7 (98787)

• India

23 Oct 16

Aw...to each his or her own way...I don't think the world does not care...but it helps to let the pain out.

solxee

@sol_cee (38223)

• Philippines

26 Oct 16

She can have a diary.

rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

8 Nov 16

That's good that you have told her that . Sometimes , we have to give one a lashing or a reprimand so they can wake up from their being in that sad state . I hope by now , she has already gotten over that failed relationship . Sometimes what is best is for us to think of the things that that somebody has done badly at us , so we will get angry and come out from it instead . You still look good in the picture , even if your face is just the other half .