would you be away from a friend that loves you and you dont feel the same way?

Portugal
November 1, 2016 6:59am CST
Hi guys If you had a friend who is in love with you and you didnt feel the same way back would you be away from him? I wouldnt do that. I would be honest of course and tell him that i dont feel the same way but i wouldnt waste our friendship because of this. What about you guys? Please share
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@Happy2BeMe (74353)
• Canada
1 Nov 16
I would let him know how I feel. I am sure then the friendship would change even if I didn't want it to. He would feel rejected and things just wouldn't be the same after that.
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@Jenning (2023)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 16
This depends on his level of maturity...
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
Yes the friendship would change for awhile but i believe that with time he would like someone else and maybe the friendship could be ok again
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@Happy2BeMe (74353)
• Canada
1 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve Maybe so but I guess it would be one of those time will tell situations.
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@Ayuriny (5178)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
1 Nov 16
I would not leave him. I'd tell the truth, eventhough it would hurt him.
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@Jenning (2023)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 16
And I think this action will lessen the hurt instead of explode it...
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@Ayuriny (5178)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
1 Nov 16
@Jenning Yeah,...at least it wouldn't explode..!
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
It is good that you wouldnt leave your friend behind i think that sure we have to be honest and if we dont feel the same way we cant give him hope we have to say things as it really is.
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@ms1864 (6995)
• Bangalore, India
1 Nov 16
I did that once .....then we just drifted apart...now we don't even talk....though i still see him as a friend. I learnt from that mistake though...and the next time it happened i made sure i was delicate and spoke to him explaining exactly how i felt...and it worked. We are still friends.
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
That is great manisha it shows how a good person you are.
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@ms1864 (6995)
• Bangalore, India
1 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve thank you...it is sweet of you to say.
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• Portugal
3 Nov 16
@ms1864 have a nice day sweet friend
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@skysnap (17818)
1 Nov 16
I think it depends on circumstances.
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
Yes it depends also depends of the personality of the persons involved.
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@louievill (18118)
• Philippines
1 Nov 16
In my opinion most likely he would stop being your friend and avoid you once he already devulged his feelings and gets turned down, not unless he is the persevering type and is really interested in winning you, sorry but most likely your friendship will never be the same again again it's only what i think
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
The friendship would change at first but to end it? I just think that we shouldnt let go of a true friend because of this. At first sure it would be normal if we didnt see each other so often but to stop being friends? I think that shouldnt happen.it is so hard to find true friends.
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@louievill (18118)
• Philippines
2 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve i hope it is that way but at my age and experience, I would know more, besides I'm a man and I would know more how my kind ( at least mostly) would react when rejected, nice if your friend belongs to the few.
• Portugal
3 Nov 16
@louievill i understand what you mean there are only a few guys who are strong enough to let go of their feelings and keep being close to a girl who broke his heart
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@Jenning (2023)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 16
I love your approach. And if he's matured, he will not be offended at that. Maturity in Love is the ability to respect other people's opinions...
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
Thanks yes even though his heart would be broken he would have to accept the reality
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@Jenning (2023)
• Nigeria
1 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve Lolz. He can walk away not heart broken...
• Portugal
1 Nov 16
@Jenning if he really loves her of course he will walk away heart broken.
3 Nov 16
You are absolutely right for not ruining your friendship I really appreciate it! Coz I know not many people will do ..informing him that u don't feel the same way is absolutely correct atleast your not giving him false hope.. it's just I hope he's mature enough to understand your friendship because not many people do!
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• Portugal
3 Nov 16
Thanks so much for your kind words yes i think that to lose a friend is good only if he turns out to be a fake friend. If that is not the case then it is very sad
3 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve exactly.. if he really cares for u he will definitely try to save his friendship! N if he doesn't..I think there is really nothing to be saved! I m glad I could be of help :)
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• Portugal
4 Nov 16
@Girlwithredboots a true friend doesnt turn his back
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
1 Nov 16
If the friend is not being creepy or weird, it's best to tell him upfront and be honest about it, and not lead him on. Hopefully the friendship will not be awkward or if it did hopefully it will not last. But when the friend gets weird and did not take it well, I think it is better to distance yourself from the guy and let him process and get into terms with it.
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
Yes if he doesnt understand and acts the same way and wants to like force himself into us that way the friendship will end but what usually happens is that after the friend that doesnt feel the same says it to the friend who is in love, this person tends to be afraid of the friend's attitude and sometimes steps away and that is really hurtful i believe. Because the person understood that would never be more than a friend and then neither a friend he can be that must be a nightmare
@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
1 Nov 16
@sweetloveforeve that is to be expected. After all, feelings and emotions are involved. We can just do what we can and hope for the best that somehow, the friendship will get past it and move on. Who knows we'll look back to it after a long time and just laugh about it. Worse case scenario is we have to bid the friendship goodbye.
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• Portugal
1 Nov 16
@Raine38 yes the worst is to lose the friend forever
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Nov 16
too m any problems as romantic love would still intrude and you would feel lost if'o0u did not return those feelings it just does not work really
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• Portugal
6 Nov 16
I understand what you mean i think it would intrude yes because it would be very hard to let go of love feelings and see my friend everyday.
@Nihil90 (358)
• Indore, India
2 Nov 16
I would definitely tell my friend about how I feel(or not feel). Because the emotion is one-sided, my friend would be devastated, and that will be the most vulnerable and testing stage of our friendshp. If that person is indded my friend, that person would UNDERSTAND my point of view and hence our friendship. But if that isn't the case, I'd have to let go, however painful that is.
• Portugal
3 Nov 16
Yes you are right we have to be honest and say our feelings as they are. If he cant accept it then sure we have to be away and probably the friendship will be ruined
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@Daljinder (21025)
• India
1 Nov 16
As long as the person doesn't hold any kind of hopes of things changing, I wouldn't mind being a friend.
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• Portugal
3 Nov 16
Yes they would have to accept that you would never be more than friends. It hurts sure to love someone who doesnt love us back but we have to move on.
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@digiguru (421)
• Bangalore, India
2 Nov 16
This becomes a difficult one when there are many who love you sincerely.. I guess the def for love should be there
• Portugal
3 Nov 16
It is hard to break someone's heart even more if the person is your best friend it is so hard to find good friends nowadays and lose him because of love is devastating