If You Were in My Shoes...

By @n.J
November 2, 2016 1:34am CST
What would you do? So my husband has been giving me cold shoulders after posting cryptic shout out on his FB. (If you have been my follower, you must have read it in one of my discussions ) The day I saw his shout out I immediately sent him a private Message.He did not reply.Instead,he deactivated his account.Since he is a mariner,our means of communication is by SMS,chat or video call. I immediately sent him several SMS to ask what the problem was but he did not dare to reply. I have been clueless until now. The last time we chatted everything waa smooth. The next day he was that strange. I continued to send him information about my day and ny visits to the doctor and so on even though he does not reply. After 12 days he replied to my kakaotalk with a devil emoticon .I sent her a video of our daughter but his reply was a devil emo?? I replied "happy halloween" he just typed "I will be very busy due to inspection" Durimg those days that he was acting up, many things came into my mind like maybe somebody else is using his account because my lappy was stolen last month.Perhaps his mobile phone was stolen and so on. Yesterday,I sent a message to him, I asked him to write his mom's name in English characters.If he won't be able to reply or do it then somebody must have been using his mobile phone.But after 24 hours his reply was correct. I really do not know what made him cross. Why is he giving me tbis attitude? I asked him just now through chat what was wrong. I don't know if he would reply.
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• United States
2 Nov 16
Hard to tell.. Maybe he's having a hard time hence the mood swings? Will you see him anytime soon?
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2 Nov 16
No.His contract is until June next year.
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• United States
2 Nov 16
@Iam_jauntyjen oh he's been away since June this year. That's a hard call. Is this common for his work to go away or maybe he's just had a rough day and taking it out on you
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2 Nov 16
@infatuatedbby he is a mariner/sailor. I don't know he is not telling me exactly what the problem is. I am getting impatient because he is acting like a little child again
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@epiffanie (9658)
• Australia
2 Nov 16
Sorry that your husband is ignoring you like this... I would be very upset if I were you.. But maybe he is planning a surprise for you...
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2 Nov 16
No. I am sure he is not @epiffainie :)
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@epiffanie (9658)
• Australia
9 Nov 16
@Iam_jauntyjen Well, I hope by this time ,you would have an explanation from him ..
@XinfulThotz (4187)
• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 16
how often does he come home? have you done anything to make him cross? if not, i would only say the behaviour is a little weird...
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2 Nov 16
That is why I have been asking him because I do not know what made him cross.
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• Singapore, Singapore
2 Nov 16
@Iam_jauntyjen hope you would get a genuine reply from him soon
• Japan
2 Nov 16
Wow, it must be hard to be in your situation right now. Even I am confused as to what I would do if something like that were to happen to me. But growing up in a Christian community, if there's nothing I can do to confirm my own suspicions, I just pray, and let God do the work if He wills it. But anyway, with what is going on with you right now, I can only hope that you will get through it eventually. God bless!
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2 Nov 16
Thanks for your comment Bady @GopherDanny. I really appreciate your gesture. I am also a Christian (Catholic). Yes, prayers help a lot. I asked for the intercession of St.Therese. After three days I received a reply from husband but unfortunaty a devil emo hahahaha. But atleast ,I know he is still alive and kicking lol.
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• Japan
2 Nov 16
@Iam_jauntyjen Maybe, in the Spirit of All Saint's Day he is trolling you with those silly little devil emoticons? Ha ha, all the best!
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@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
2 Nov 16
I have been in a long distance relationship which the main means of communication comprises of text messages and IMs. And I have to admit that in texts and messages, it is hard to gauge if a person is joking, being silly, or mad or just being neutral. You cannot hear the intonation or see the gestures to actually see how the message is conveyed that it is very easy to misinterpret the message. Maybe he just needs some time to get over it and calm down and eventually he will be ready to talk about it. Just keep giving him updates and do not disconnect with him.
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2 Nov 16
Thanks for the comment. I have been keeping him updated every day but honestly a while ago, I thought of disconnecting with him. He is so annoying. lol
@moondebi (1223)
• Bangalore, India
2 Nov 16
Are you sure about the reasons behind his withdrawn behavior? This is a difficult situation to be sorted through a distant communication.
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2 Nov 16
@moodebi I am clueless actually. The night before his behavior,we chatted and there was no issue at all. The next day,I saw his cryptic shout outs
@LadyDuck (146633)
• Switzerland
2 Nov 16
I cannot understand, I do not think he was offended because he shout out about his cryptic posts on FB. May be he is stressed due to his work. It's hard to know because he is far from you.
@ms1864 (6996)
• Bangalore, India
2 Nov 16
It is sure confusing ....it is best to clear the air.
@mesbakh (175)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 16
it is very complicated condition to comment. just hope the best