My Daughters and Granddaughters are Heartbroken
@DeborahDiane (40049)
Laguna Woods, California
November 9, 2016 5:35pm CST
Most of the people I know who are pleased with the outcome of the U.S. political election have been gloating all day and telling everyone how they knew they were right.
That may be true.
However, my daughters and granddaughters have sought me out for comfort all day. Their husbands, boyfriends and sons are also upset by the election. My Jewish grandson did not want to go to school. My niece who is married to a Brazilian did not want to send her daughter to school, because there has been bullying by white students against even the children of legal Latino parents. Racism is running out-of-control in our public schools.
They are all devastated ... despite my encouragement that we will survive this and life will go on.
My daughters are all strong, capable, competent women. They have had successful careers as teachers, a buyer for a major department store, and a business manager for famous entertainers. One was even a very successful fashion model in her late teens and early 20s.
They all wanted to believe that a woman could become President.
Ironically, Hillary Clinton actually won the popular vote. By the time all of California's votes are counted, Clinton will have won the popular vote by millions of votes.
But she still will not become president.
While I accept it, my heart breaks for my upset daughters, my granddaughters and their families.
They are especially upset that she was beaten by a man who was so self-centered, unkind, uncharitable and cruel towards women and the less fortunate.
I wish I could fix this for them. 
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26 responses
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
10 Nov 16
I feel for you, your daughters and granddaughters. I feel the same way. We lost and it hurts. We are all in trouble though. He is a maniac and a self centered a-hole. He also could start a major world war. Which, by the way, would be the end of it all. One push of a button and that's it. America is now totally divided. And hate crimes will only get worse. A sad day in american history.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Exactly. He is and so are the tea party a-holes. Nothing is going to stop them now since they run the house and senate. Sad for everyone in this country.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I agree that this is more than just feeling sad because our side lost. This is scary because he is dangerous.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@inertia4 - the next four years are going to bring about a lot of changes. I hope they don't run the economy into the ground like Bush did ... and then had to have it rescued by the Democrats. Their economic ideas simply do not work, although they keep trying them.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
9 Nov 16
when the right gal comes 'long, she'll be president. i fear that mrs. clinton jest didn't fit the bill. i know what'cha mean by young'uns bein' bullied 't school - so many're misinformed by their parents'n the media. my eldest grandson t'was quite 'pset when fellow students told him that his grands (their adopted side) 'n the rest 'f the family'd be deported coz their hispanic. a bunch 'f hooey, 'f course, they've been legal citizens 'f this country fer o'er 40 years.
i encourage folks not to be so down-trodden by the election results, to give that fella a chance. sadly i've seen more bashin' 'f him 'n americans'n general via social media than those gloatin' that he won.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
10 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane e'en the grands from the hubs step-daughter who're half black 're feelin' the pinch. sadly these ugly comments 'n rumors 're spread by the parents, social media 'n the news folks who're 'pposed to remain unbiased by but seem to lack that sorta self-control.
folks need to start facin' the responsibility 'f their words 'n actions'n order fer that ugliness to change. i doubt such'll occur'n my lifetime, but i remain hopeful fer the future generations - when folks can look 't what folks 've to offer'n the inside.
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
10 Nov 16
That fella is a fool with zero experience who is a terrible danger to the Republic. He is taking power the same way that Hitler did in Germany.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
10 Nov 16
@crazyhorseladycx - Thank you for your comments that you have also known of Hispanic children being threatened with deportment. Kids are so upset, and that just makes me mad.
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@crossbones27 (48417)
• Mojave, California
9 Nov 16
I am heartbroken also and love this because it really explains the reality of the situation. Problem is most people hate reality these days. Kids involved, they better get real quick.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
10 Nov 16
@crossbones27 - Thank you for your comment. I was hoping there were people out there who understood how I felt.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
@JudyEv - I'm sorry to hear that they do things the same way in Australia. I'm doing better, but two of my daughters and my niece are still very upset. My niece is married to a Brazilian man and she is concerned about prejudice in school against her adorable little girl.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@JudyEv - Apparently, Trump's followers believe they can be blatant racists. Kids have been filmed walking through schools yelling "white power" and "go home" and "build the wall," while minority children are sitting nearby, crying. It is horrible. Some white people keep telling everyone to "relax, everything will be fine" or "get over it." However, the sight of those children just breaks my heart. When Trump was asked if he regrets the racist tone he took, he said, "No. I won." Disgusting. When people ask why we are still upset three days after the election ... that is why.
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@JudyEv (325594)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Surely just changing the president won't mean free slather for blatant racism. That would be terrible.
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@franxav (13601)
• India
10 Nov 16
Many many of my friends, relative, women, children in our home, people in general wanted Hillary to be President. India had a woman Prime Minister long ago. Sri Lanka had a woman president long ago. Even Israel had one woman PM. Why a superbly developed country USA couldn't elect a woman president even in the 21st century?
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
10 Nov 16
Sexism is a powerful force in this "developed" country.
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
12 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Yes, it seems that they neglect the New Testament a lot.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
@franxav and @JamesHxstatic - Yes, sexism and racism are very strong in the U.S. ... especially in the middle part of the US known as the Bible Belt. Isn't it ironic that so-called Christians are the most unkind, racist and sexist ... despite Jesus telling them the story of the Good Samaritan, which is about a foreign man with a non-Jewish religion.
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@JohnRoberts (109857)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Nov 16
But would you have felt any sympathy for those whose hearts would have been broken had Clinton won? Been understanding and compassionate of their being upset? Do you claim that your side would not have gloated had she won? Do you understand than many had good reason to consider your candidate a despicable person? Your side always accuses the right of hate yet I have seen nothing but venomous hatred by many on your side over the outcome.
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@JamesHxstatic (29242)
• Eugene, Oregon
10 Nov 16
I would have been glad is Hillary had won, because Trump is a dangerous fool with the temperament of a four year old.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I have a number of Republican friends who grappled with this decision ... as I wrote about in another article. Yes, I would have been sympathetic. However, my candidate was NOT a despicable person. She has spent her entire life helping other people. The Republicans did a smear job on her. They had hearings almost non-stop for years and never ONCE were they able to convict her of a crime. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? The Republicans crucified her with innuendo.
@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
15 Nov 16
@JamesHxstatic - I agree that Trump is a dangerous fool with the temperament of a four year old. In addition, I don't think he had any idea what he was getting into. He seems completely surprised by what the job entails. He didn't know that it would involve hiring 4,000 appointees. As a result, his advisors are making a awful lot of the decisions for him ... and I don't trust his closest advisors, either.
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@Letranknight2015 (51499)
• Philippines
10 Nov 16
Maybe that endorsement from the media and holly wood somewhat backfired some how. I still don't get it how he won.
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@Letranknight2015 (51499)
• Philippines
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane My relatives are probably furious by his win
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@Letranknight2015 - A lot of people here are furious about his win.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
You could be right. People in the Midwest do not like Hollywood people...which makes it even more surprising they like Trump!
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
10 Nov 16
so do many of us, so do many of us. We are the one's that are terrified that the things they said they'd do, like stoning the trans and such, will come to pass. Really, all women everywhere should be terrified, but not white, not straight women even more so
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Watch him touch his daughter, it makes my stomach roll in protest
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@Jessicalynnt - I agree ... and the things he said about his daughter are absolutely disgusting!
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
So many women in Middle America have been raised to have low self-esteem ... and they don't even know it. They grew up being told that all they had to do is look good, act nice, dress pretty, worry about their hair and makeup ... and a big, strong man will take care of them. They accept what they are told, and don't know how devastating that is to a woman's self-esteem. Our new president even believes that the most important aspect of a woman is how she looks.
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@sallypup (57812)
• Centralia, Washington
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Generational harm is not acceptable. Your poor family. If Trump had raised one finger to stop the vitriol in his audiences it would have helped me to remotely think about respect toward him. Instead he continued to be a power monger and bully.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@sallypup - I agree completely. Trump's followers believe they can be blatant racists. Kids have been filmed walking through schools yelling "white power" and "go home" and "build the wall," while minority children are sitting nearby, crying. It is horrible. Some white people keep telling everyone to "relax, everything will be fine" or "get over it." However, the sight of those children just breaks my heart. When Trump was asked if he regrets the racist tone he took, he said, "No. I won." Disgusting. When people ask why we are still upset three days after the election ... that is why.
@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
My entire family has been in mourning since the election. One of my daughters cried so hard that her two-year old son was trying to comfort her. I'm so sad ... not for myself, but for all the young women in my life.
@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
10 Nov 16
As with the Brexit vote this was a statement by the people that they are sick and tired of a ruling political elite who live in a political bubble where, unlike many ordinary working people, they remain completely unaffected by the day to day consequences of their own policies.
Regarding the fact Hillary won the popular vote then I have said elsewhere on here that it in the case of a straightforward popularity contest, which is effectively what the presidential election is, then I believe it should go purely on the popular vote. But the rules are the rules. Everyone knows them when they decide to run.
Maybe, rather than everyone feeling sorry for themselves and assuming the worst, this result should be used as a catalyst for electoral reform.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
That is the one bright spot here. I do see people demonstrating in the streets and insisting on reforms. While they won't get everything they once, they have mobilized a powerful force.
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@just4him (305864)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Nov 16
When I went to bed Trump had the popular vote. I just checked and he's only behind the popular vote by a couple hundred thousand not millions.
I understand what you are saying, and although I voted third party, I am VERY happy Clinton is not our president elect. I have a lot of misgivings about Trump and fears too regarding him, but if he does what he intends to do things could turn around. I don't say they will, but they could.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
The votes across the country are NOT all counted, even now. Here in California they announced on the news today (Nov. 10) that it would be at least another month before all the votes are counted in our state. In our little California county alone, there are still 400,000 votes to be counted and she has been winning those votes two to one. By the time they are finished counting, the California government department responsible for counting votes estimates she will have won by a minimum of 2,000,000 votes ... and probably more ... because other states which she won, such as Washington and Oregon, have not finished counting, either. With our crazy system, however, it doesn't matter.
In addition, Clinton was NOT a bad person. She has spent her entire life helping other people. The Republicans did a smear job on her. They had hearings almost non-stop for years and never ONCE were they able to convict her of a crime. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? The Republicans crucified her with innuendo.
The bright spot is that I am sure she will go on to do good things for other people ... just like she always has. Trump, on the other hand, didn't even give to a charity for the past 8 years. It is hard for me to think that he is going to change the lives of more than a few thousand people ... and he will promote those things endlessly!
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@just4him - Yes, and when another month has passed and they have counted all the mail-in and provisional ballots (which happen when someone votes at a place near where they work rather than near their home), she will probably have won the popular vote by 2,000,000 to 4,000,000. I still believe that it is a principal of American law that people are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law ... unless Fox News and the Republicans decide to smear your name. Then, you're a goner.
@just4him (305864)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane I'm not a Trump fan. I didn't vote for him. I'm sorry, you can't convince me of Hillary's innocence. I did my best not to listen to all the campaign rhetoric and the slander from both sides. I didn't vote for either of them as I do not feel either of them are fit for the presidency. She did carry the electoral votes for California, Oregon, and Washington.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I have been encouraging my family members to work towards a better future four years from now. That is our best hope!
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
9 Nov 16
I don't think she would have won by millions in the popular vote, not even a million.
More like hundred thousand or so between them in the popular vote so very tight.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
10 Nov 16
@Mike197602 - You are wrong Mike. The popular vote is still being counted here in California (the electoral votes were awarded to her before they were finished counting the votes.) When they are done, they estimate that she will have won the popular vote by between 3,000,000 and 4,000,000 votes. It is so sad. My daughters and granddaughters called me in tears all day today. They are heartbroken and so discouraged that such a cruel, uncaring, insensitive man could be moving into the White House, despite losing the popular vote. One of them is married to a successful scientist and she begged him this morning to accept a job in another country. They may move ... and take two of my grandchildren with them. The Trump supporters who are gloating literally make me want to vomit.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
10 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane I really did not know that
I thought it was done and dusted and she won the popular vote by a hundred thousand or two.
That's what is showing up on graphics I've searched and seen here, I didn't know counts were still going on.
That just makes it even more unfair than I thought as winning by millions is just wrong if you don't become president.
I thought it was done and dusted and she won the popular vote by a hundred thousand or two.
That's what is showing up on graphics I've searched and seen here, I didn't know counts were still going on.
That just makes it even more unfair than I thought as winning by millions is just wrong if you don't become president.3 people like this
@crossbones27 (48417)
• Mojave, California
10 Nov 16
@Mike197602 People are impatient and some for good reason so they can go to sleep. If they know for sure something has won they will call it while still counting the scraps so to speak. It is not really a shocker California went to Clinton one way or another. I do get your point, ethically probably should wait, but there was nothing moral or ethical in this election.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I think minorities of all types are fearful. It is very, very sad!
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
17 Nov 16
@thelme55 - Yes, a lot of Americans do not realize that he will not only be bad for our citizens, but his decisions will affect people in other countries, too.
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@thelme55 (76476)
• Germany
16 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane yes, indeed because most did not know what the future brings with the new president.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
10 Nov 16
Really interesting reading this lot of info I would never get to hear about living here. Surprising about that Popular Vote did not know about that either.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane
We have one here too more or less.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
Yes, we have a crazy system!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane I thought as time goes by , people will be treating them rightly already . But sad that it's the opposite .
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@SIMPLYD - Things have been pretty rough for people since the election ... especially minorities. I am so sad about that.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
Yes, I think a lot of minorities are very concerned about how they will be treated. So far, there have been a lot of terrible things being done to minorities already. It is a horrible situation.
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@yugocean (9965)
• India
13 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Then I have to wait and watch because he is now President of USA. But you all must not feel yourself down. Try to be strong and bold, People will unite (expect Jihadis)
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
15 Nov 16
@yugocean - Here in the U.S., we can object to anything illegal, immoral or dishonest that he does. Believe me, a lot of us are just waiting to do speak up loud and clear.
@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I don't think Trump is pro-anything, other than making money for himself. He is not even going to put his assets in a blind trust, so he can make decisions that will help him personally. He is not a good man, I am sorry to say. I think his policies will hurt India because he wants to end trade agreements and stop giving aid to other countries.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
15 Nov 16
@DianneN - The election was very disappointing. I am trying to be open-minded about it, but his choices in people for the cabinet just seem to be getting worse and worse ... like an EPA guy who doesn't believe in climate change, an advisor who is extremely right wing, etc. He also keeps changing his mind about what he supports and doesn't support ... and some of his statements seem to be the opposite of what the establishment Republicans think, which means even his more moderate statements could be overridden by them. The bond market has lost $1 trillion in the past week. I don't think I am alone in being perplexed about what will happen in the coming years. (sigh)
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@DianneN (246550)
• United States
15 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane Sigh is right! He is a jerk!
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
19 Nov 16
Yes, I wish we could protect children by bullies and racists. It is horrible.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
10 Nov 16
Its a reality that cannot be changed....try to accept it
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
12 Nov 16
@amitkokiladitya - It has been very upsetting. Trump's followers believe they can now be blatant racists. Kids have been filmed walking through schools yelling "white power" and "go home" and "build the wall," while minority children are sitting nearby, crying. It is horrible. Some white people keep telling everyone to "relax, everything will be fine" or "get over it." However, the sight of those children just breaks my heart. When Trump was asked if he regrets the racist tone he took, he said, "No. I won." Disgusting. When people ask why we are still upset three days after the election ... that is why.
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@DeborahDiane (40049)
• Laguna Woods, California
11 Nov 16
I accept it, but I do fear what Trump could do.
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@amitkokiladitya (171936)
• Agra, India
11 Nov 16
@DeborahDiane yes that is true and unavoidable
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