~It Makes Me Sad-Thought We Were A Loving Group Here~

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@Sabtraversa She is still here actually, just not in the same way that she was. She deleted all of her own discussions and she's hurt... It makes me really sad.

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Sabrina Traversa

@sabtraversa (12924)

• Italy

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies Oh, I see. I'm pretty sure she'll get over it.

I'm a very sensitive person as well, although it is easier for me to deal with the words said online. It's often needed to grow some backbone, we're all different and can't guess the amount of sensitivity each person has. We don't know if that person was rude, and how much rude he/she was, but no offence was obviously meant.

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Sayitnow

@sayitnow (424)

•

2 Dec 16

I agree. Let go and try to heal from the pain.

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Laurel (L_B)

@Happy2BeMe (99399)

• Canada

2 Dec 16

I missed the recipe discussion or want was said but I did see her post today. It bothered me that she was so hurt. If there had been a problem with her discussions admin would have deleted it and that wasn't the case. I wish I could have hugged her. She is a wonderful young lady and she didn't deserve to be treated that way.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@Happy2BeMe I hope so too. =)

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@Happy2beme Yeah, I don't think anything was wrong with her discussion at all. Many have done similar and there's never been an issue with it. =( I feel the same way, she's a sweetheart and I really enjoyed having her here! She is still here but she deleted her discussions now.

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Laurel (L_B)

@Happy2BeMe (99399)

• Canada

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies I hope she will decidentify to start posting again.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (85483)

• United States

2 Dec 16

Some people think they are the boss of the site. They ignore their own inane discussions to judge the posts of others. Their life is so boring they troll the site looking for perceived violations. Last I knew you could talk about food ideas as long as it wasn't just a recipe. And even if it was a violation it shouldn't be met with hostility.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@AmbiePam Yeah, I thought talking about food is fine as long as you don't just put a recipe up. Which she didn't do so it makes no sense to me.

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Juliaacv

@Juliaacv (48415)

• Canada

2 Dec 16

Jenn your rants are just too cute to call rants. You really do care for people, and you're voicing your thoughts on this, and that is sweet, we are blessed to have someone as caring as you with us. I know how that person feels, I received a comment from someone that I thought curt and uncalled for and deleted most of my discussions and stayed off of the site for a while-which you know, but have since returned. I cannot bring myself to post again, I am too afraid of another rude remark. We have to be so careful of what we say and how we say it, with it just being written, there is no spoken softness that may be intended.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@Juliaacv Well thank you. I do care so much and it upsets me when someone isn't treated right. I do remember that you were treated badly as well and that bothers me too. You should post again because you have so many people here that truly care about what you have to say. =)

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

3 Dec 16

@Juliaacv I am so glad too! Your welcome.

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Juliaacv

@Juliaacv (48415)

• Canada

3 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies Thank you, with your reassurance I'm getting out here more.

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Pat Z Anthony

@PatZAnthony (14752)

• Charlotte, North Carolina

2 Dec 16

No clue what happened, but nothing to discourage a person here should happen.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@Patzanthony I agree! She posted a discussion asking about new ways to make chicken since her and her daughter were tired of eating it the same way. Other people have done the same here and it's never been an issue so I don't understand it at all.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (458007)

• Switzerland

2 Dec 16

I am very sorry, I do not know if I missed her discussion, I do not know who she is. I know that posting recipes is not allowed here, but also posting about birthday and personal celebrations, but almost everybody does and I have never seen those posts deleted.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@LadyDuck Yeah it wasn't a recipe for a discussion that's what gets me. She didn't just post a recipe at all actually. She was asking about new ideas she could use for her and her daughter to eat since they always eat chicken the same way. There was nothing wrong with her discussion at all which is what gets me...

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@LadyDuck I think she deleted her own discussions because she was hurt. She thought about leaving the site completely but right now she's been responding-I hope she sticks around.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (458007)

• Switzerland

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies Let's hope she is not going to quit the site.

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

2 Dec 16

Sadly there are those out there that will say things to others without thinking about anyone's feelings. I hope that your friend doesn't give up and leave.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@ElusiveButterfly I hope she won't leave. For now she's just responding but not posting her own discussions.

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies I just tried to look up the message I sent her. My message is there. Her posts are gone and says the member has no bio. Sad. I hope she comes back.

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

2 Dec 16

If it is the person that I think it is, tell her that I do enjoy reading her posts. She is a delight. Don't let one person bring ya down.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@ElusiveButterfly I messaged her but she hasn't wrote back. I tried to tell her not to let a few ruin her time here.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (159008)

• Boise, Idaho

2 Dec 16

Yes, it does help at time. I can remember several discussions on this subject. I feel so badly that something was sad that hurt her so badly. I don't know any of us that would say anything to hurt another person on here. Not intentionally. Kidding perhaps.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (159008)

• Boise, Idaho

3 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies .....I do see where one person I used to see is gone. That is so sad.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@celticeagle I don't know either but it definitely affected her in a bad way and that upsets me. I really liked her discussions and company here. =(

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Toni

@toniganzon (72285)

• Philippines

2 Dec 16

We can't really control how people reacts in here. Mylot is consists of diverse people and the meaning of being NICE or being RUDE can be very subjective. And I'm not blaming you either for reacting this way. It is your right. I too get hurt sometimes by how rude people can be here and when you tell them about that they just blocked you. It got into me for awhile but I don't see it as a reason to leave my lot. I guess mylot isn't for the faint hearted at all.

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Toni

@toniganzon (72285)

• Philippines

5 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies It's a fact that people can be judgmental here plus the fact that we are from diverse culture, misunderstandings cannot be avoided.

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@toniganzon We just never know what someone is going through offline and we should treat others the way we would like to be treated. That is what I try to live by.

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Gruffydd Rhydderch

@Orson_Kart (6108)

• United Kingdom

2 Dec 16

Never mind all this soppy, sloppy, girly stuff, what is the best way to cook chicken?

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Kristen Howe

@KristenH (33351)

• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio

2 Dec 16

Rant away, Jen. That's sad. How rude for her to leave and delete her posts? Has she left?

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@KristenH She hasn't left, but she did delete her discussions because she felt attacked. =(

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Kristen Howe

@KristenH (33351)

• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies Oh dear.

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Nick R Thomas

@asfarasiknow (3341)

• Bournemouth, England

2 Dec 16

So if someone used the phrase 'recipe for success/disaster' in a discussion they could, in theory, get reported? Ridiculous. Some things on here obviously need reporting quickly (spam, blatant selling, etc) and the quality of a site does need to be protected, but I do sometimes see what appears to bef self-righteous overreaction, not to mention inconsistency in terms of what stays up and what doesn't.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@asfarasiknow I guess so, I have never seen it happen before now. She said someone messaged her in a hateful manner about her discussion.

I just feel bad because I honestly don't think there was anything wrong with what she wrote at all.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (325759)

• Rockingham, Australia

2 Dec 16

That is very sad. I do hope she realises that most of the people here are considerate. Some people can be really unkind sometimes.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@JudyEv It is sad. I did tell her not to leave because of a few that aren't nice. I hope she stays and posts again.

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Heather Echola

@GardenGerty (157552)

• United States

3 Dec 16

That should not have been a problem, the word recipe, that is. Being mean and hateful to others IS a problem and admin usually does not tolerate that if they observe it. Early on I asked Alex about including recipes in discussions, and basically, if the post is not just a list of ingredients and instructions, it was not a violation. So I could tell you "this is what we eat on cold wintery nights and we make it THIS way. I like it because . . . " I am so sorry someone was hurt over this.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

3 Dec 16

@GardenGerty Yeah she didn't do anything wrong at all. They just don't want a recipe and nothing else. That's not even close to what her discussion was. She asked for other ways to prepare chicken for her and her daughter. I have no idea why anyone would be mean to her about it.

Mike

@Mike197602 (15487)

• United Kingdom

3 Dec 16

that's absolutely true, recipes are fine as long as they form a part of a larger topic rather than purely a recipe.

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (71664)

• United States

2 Dec 16

Oh man I am so sad to read this as well. Most of us here are kind but there have been times I have been hurt by other mylotters in the past. I would miss you if you left and I would love if you could send me a private message who deleted all their posts. If I know them and interact with them I would like to encourage them to stay here and ignore people who upset them or report them depending!

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (71664)

• United States

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies I always do the same thing think how I would want to be treated if I was that person. Yes it would make a much better world. Thank you for your private message. I went and looked and see she has no posts and no picture and her username is just user. I do not recognize the name. A lot of times I only recall people by their photos.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@shaggin Yeah I have been hurt by comments as well before. I just try to always treat others the way I want to be treated. If only everyone would do that...this world would be a MUCH better place!

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (95001)

• United States

2 Dec 16

I hope it isn't who I think it is.

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Michelle

@infatuatedbby (95001)

• United States

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies I'd personally ignore the person who attacked.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@infatuatedbby Well yes but if your new here and your treated badly it makes you not want to stay or participate as much.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@infatuatedbby I'm not sure, but she is a sweetheart and didn't deserve to be treated badly...

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S George

@shshiju (10342)

• Cochin, India

2 Dec 16

I can't able to guess her. If some one hurt or comment her bad there may be other myLotters comments obviously on that topic. I think she deliberately move from here for some time for here personal reason or busy schedule.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@shshiju No, she said she was going to leave in a discussion. She didn't leave fully but she did delete all of her discussions. =(

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S George

@shshiju (10342)

• Cochin, India

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies That is very sad to take such decision.

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306113)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

2 Dec 16

Oh my, that's too sad. I don't know who you're talking about but to delete all your posts because someone was mean, is awful.

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@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

2 Dec 16

@just4him It is sad. That was basically her "first" impression of the site pretty much since she hasn't been here long.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306113)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

2 Dec 16

@LovingMyBabies It's tragic when that happens.

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Becky

@mommymonky (325)

•

2 Dec 16

Your post made me want to try to find this rule, and I cant find a link to any rules at all.....from what you have described, that just sounds unreasonable. Why wouldn't you be able to write about recipies without posting one?

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