Single and loving it

United States
December 5, 2016 11:45am CST
On the love life side, I have been single for several years now. I have learned to enjoy my time alone. In fact, I treasure it. No drama-drama. No negativity. Many suitors have crossed my path but the minute I see any negativity or drama, I kick them to the curb. I don't need it and I don't want it. I would rather be alone, walk alone and be happy than to deal with crap others carry in their lives. I am aware I am extremely guarded, maybe, even jaded. How do you protect your heart from hurt?
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• Peoria, Arizona
5 Dec 16
I made my mistake of living with negativity and I haven't had enough experience with other people after that relationship to know if I am doing alright again haha I know when to just say no to people, and know what I want. I like being with someone, having the bond, and being able to grow together is nice. But, not everyone needs it or wants it, and that is okay
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@nomus24g (17392)
• India
5 Dec 16
that's the spirit...one should enjoy life n be content to be happy
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@Happy2BeMe (70755)
• Canada
5 Dec 16
My daughter was like that too. She was alone for a lot of years. Very independent and enjoyed her alone time. She dated a bit but as soon as there was any drama she was gone. She didn't want any part of it. I kept telling her when the right one came along she would know and she always laughed at me and told me she would rather be alone the rest of her life. Well almost a year ago a man came along and stole her heart. I have never seen her this way before. She is so happy and they get along so great. She said to me the other day, "So is this what you meant? Is this what it's suppose to be like?" I am so happy for her. I knew she would be just fine alone and she didn't need a man in her life but when she least expected it there he was. He is a lot older then her but it works. They have a blended family and everybody gets along great. I am happy for you in the fact that you are content with your life and yourself. That is a great way to be. So many people can't handle being alone and end up in far from ideal situations because of it! Good for you!
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• United States
5 Dec 16
I agree. I have watched friends get into relationships simply out of desperation cause they don't want to be alone or don't know how to enjoy being alone. It never works out and they end up unhappy or fighting to regain their freedom. It is better to be cautious and take relationships slowly.
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@Happy2BeMe (70755)
• Canada
5 Dec 16
@royal52gens I totally agree!
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@Plethos (5450)
• United States
5 Dec 16
a relationship is better in the long run when its built around friendship first.
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@rina110383 (24253)
6 Dec 16
I do the same thing.