December 7, 2016 1:42pm CST
We often hear of women being abused, but check the statistics for men ill-treated by wives or girlfriends. The true number of cases may never be known , because most victims would be hesitant to admit being knocked around -- and so they suffer in silence. Now suppose the abused man plucks up enough courage to lodge a complaint at the police station, who do you think would be more sympathetic to his plight-- a male officer, or a female?.
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• United States
8 Dec 16
Don't forget there is emotional abuse, too. My DIL and I watch a British cartoon (Peppa Pig) with my granddaughter. The father is always put upon in subtle ways like he is searching in the dark for a flashlight and hurting himself while the wife finds it and doesn't tell him, saying to the kids he'll be alright. Little slights like this and put downs are common with this cartoon and a bad example to the children watching it. Many men are taken for granted and verbally abused when they don't measure up to what women expect of them. Both men and women are verbally, emotionally, and physically abused. Unfortunately, they often don't think of verbal and emotional abuse as what it is. I think a female officer might be more sympathetic to a male abuse victim. All too often, men laugh at the men who are abused and cast doubts on their manhood. Perversely, if the man hit the woman back he would probably be quickly arrested for abuse when he was defending himself. It's always a bad situation and a tough call for officers.
• Fairfield, Texas
8 Dec 16
It is true and I think for the abused man refraining from telling the police is that sometimes that kind of abuse starts at an early age (most likely the mother) and the man winds up thinking this is the way it's suppose to be and that's why they say nothing. In the man's case, he should document the bruises and possibly record any verbal abuse. That way going to the police, at least he has proof of what is happening. No woman or man should stand for it @Kandae11 . The best thing for the person to do is to leave the situation.
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 16
I would hope that both male and female officers would act professionally. I think women, in general, are natural more sympathetic (or, at least, more willing to show that they are). On the other hand, there are plenty of women who would not take a man seriously if he is abused, while another man might see it as brave to admit to being a victim. So, I really don't know.