HIDDEN ABUSE.

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@Kandae11 (35041)
December 7, 2016 1:42pm CST
We often hear of women being abused, but check the statistics for men ill-treated by wives or girlfriends. The true number of cases may never be known , because most victims would be hesitant to admit being knocked around -- and so they suffer in silence. Now suppose the abused man plucks up enough courage to lodge a complaint at the police station, who do you think would be more sympathetic to his plight-- a male officer, or a female?.
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@Happy2BeMe (74286)
• Canada
7 Dec 16
I really don't think it is taken seriously by either if it is reported. I would think maybe a female officer would be more understanding and sympathetic but I know of cases where it was just looked over and nothing done.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
7 Dec 16
I tend to agree with your view, the female officer might be more sympathetic.
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• United States
9 Dec 16
@Kandae11 only if she has ever experienced any kind of abuse and allows her emotions to guide her instead of her badge
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@Kandae11 (35041)
9 Dec 16
@enlightenedpsych2 Indeed, that is a valid point to be considered.
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@JudyEv (118657)
• Bunbury, Australia
8 Dec 16
I know there are numbers of men out there who are 'battered'. Hopefully the police would act professionally whatever their gender.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
8 Dec 16
Yes they would need to act professionally especially when dealing with sensitive cases such as those.
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@xstitcher (11074)
• Petaluma, California
10 Dec 16
@Kandae11 I would hope they would be professional, too--but sadly there are many who would not.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
10 Dec 16
@xstitcher Sad indeed.
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7 Dec 16
I would think the female, because men tend to want to apper to be manly around other men
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@Kandae11 (35041)
7 Dec 16
So far it is one hundred percent for the female
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@just4him (109888)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Dec 16
Hard to say, I can see sympathy arising from both.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
9 Dec 16
There would be some male officers who are sympathetic and may even offer advice.
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@just4him (109888)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Dec 16
@Kandae11 I'm sure there would be.
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
8 Dec 16
I think men when abused can very well resist it . They are stronger than women . Men who succumb to women's abuses means they love their wives so they permit the abuse .
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@Kandae11 (35041)
8 Dec 16
Well let's face , being male doesn't mean all men are strong.
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@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
10 Dec 16
@Kandae11 I agree .
@lokisdad (4267)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Neither unless they were someone who understands it from some kind of personal experience or has some kind of educational background on the subject. Otherwise I think the victim might be seen as laughable by either gender.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
27 Feb 17
I think so too.
@dragon54u (31608)
• United States
8 Dec 16
Don't forget there is emotional abuse, too. My DIL and I watch a British cartoon (Peppa Pig) with my granddaughter. The father is always put upon in subtle ways like he is searching in the dark for a flashlight and hurting himself while the wife finds it and doesn't tell him, saying to the kids he'll be alright. Little slights like this and put downs are common with this cartoon and a bad example to the children watching it. Many men are taken for granted and verbally abused when they don't measure up to what women expect of them. Both men and women are verbally, emotionally, and physically abused. Unfortunately, they often don't think of verbal and emotional abuse as what it is. I think a female officer might be more sympathetic to a male abuse victim. All too often, men laugh at the men who are abused and cast doubts on their manhood. Perversely, if the man hit the woman back he would probably be quickly arrested for abuse when he was defending himself. It's always a bad situation and a tough call for officers.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
9 Dec 16
I agree with your views.
@nanette64 (17103)
• Fairfield, Texas
8 Dec 16
It is true and I think for the abused man refraining from telling the police is that sometimes that kind of abuse starts at an early age (most likely the mother) and the man winds up thinking this is the way it's suppose to be and that's why they say nothing. In the man's case, he should document the bruises and possibly record any verbal abuse. That way going to the police, at least he has proof of what is happening. No woman or man should stand for it @Kandae11 . The best thing for the person to do is to leave the situation.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
8 Dec 16
I agree, no one - man or woman should be expected to accept a life of abuse.
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@ms1864 (6995)
• Bangalore, India
8 Dec 16
That is actually a very concerning thought... I recently heard of a man being abused by his wife in my neighborhood.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
8 Dec 16
Yes, it does happen.
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@Madshadi (8953)
• Brussels, Belgium
8 Dec 16
Its interesting because no one ever thinks about it happening the other way around.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24897)
• United States
8 Dec 16
Perhaps if there was any sympathy at all it would be from the female officer.
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@Kandae11 (35041)
8 Dec 16
My thoughts exactly.
@jaboUK (53407)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 16
I would hope that police officers would be impartial, whether they were male or female.
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@1hopefulman (26019)
• Canada
7 Dec 16
I've never been physically abused by a woman. But if I was I would prefer to report to a female officer, hopefully a young one as I think they would be most sympathetic.
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@HazySue (19991)
• United States
10 Dec 16
I have heard that with society the way it is today, the abuse of men is steadily rising. e may never know the rate of abuse because of the feeling of shame that goes with it.
• United States
9 Dec 16
Neither of the officers would be sympathetic if neither or the one that has been assigned to the case never experienced abuse in any form
@DianneN (74247)
• United States
9 Dec 16
I would venture a guess that a female officer would be much more sympathetic.
@pumpkinjam (5768)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 16
I would hope that both male and female officers would act professionally. I think women, in general, are natural more sympathetic (or, at least, more willing to show that they are). On the other hand, there are plenty of women who would not take a man seriously if he is abused, while another man might see it as brave to admit to being a victim. So, I really don't know.
@Bluedoll (17075)
• Canada
8 Dec 16
Either that of other forms of torture.