When you can see it coming.

@AmbiePam (49126)
United States
December 10, 2016 10:14pm CST
I heard someone use this phrase once, "They buy what they want, and beg for what they need". I hadn't ever thought about that before, but it reminded me of a girl I grew up with. She texted me one day about waiting for a guy to come install cable in their home. In the next text she told me they had had to ask her husband's mother for money to get by the rest of the month. It reminded me of how she declared bankruptcy when she was 21 years old. At the time she was single, but had a great job. She just bought thing after thing after thing. When she went to college she used part of her student loans to buy clothes, and a newer car. She told me that years later as we weren't in contact at that time. I feel bad for her husband as he's a hard worker. But she'll take new credit cards he doesn't even know about. She's got two boys, a great husband, and he's got a good job. But she spends so much on other things so at the end of the month she has to ask others for money. It's sad because even with all that she clearly is not happy.
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@bunnybon7 (36548)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Dec 16
just what i try to explain to daughter here. my mom used to say you can't get ahead spending more then you make. i know this and been trying to get it through everyones head. especially in the economy and times we are living in. my late hubby used to say it depends on a persons priorities. like we paid bills first then saved what we could to waste on Vegas. one couple we knew though always borrowed from us if we let them at the end of their month. one month they bought a brand new tv and gave their older one to their kid. end of that month they were trying to borrow money for food. i just took her shopping for food because of the kids. it amazed us the things they bought at beginning of their pay period. as mom said, they had a steak appetite on a hamburger budget. today though both costs about the same i think
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@TRBRocks420 (77830)
• Banks, Oregon
11 Dec 16
She needs to realize what is really important in life.
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@deadreak (694)
• Dagupan City, Philippines
11 Dec 16
so sad, contentment can not find in the thing that we want, its just our want. Just be contented of what we have, we have to learn how to appreciate good thing that happen in our life. Appreciate blessings. and of think about how we spend our money, even though it comes from our own. we still need to manage it.
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@paigea (22198)
• Canada
11 Dec 16
I had a friend who was always buying buying buying too. I don't know if they had troubles paying bills though, but I am guessing they might have. She had a huge room packed full of brand new unused stuff. And she was always insisting on giving stuff away too. Anyway, that is a good saying. I never heard of it before.
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@GardenGerty (99477)
• United States
11 Dec 16
It is sad, and she seems to have no contentment. I worry about people like that. Sometimes they hate themselves and try to buy happiness and self esteem. No amount of money is enough.
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@DianneN (78466)
• United States
12 Dec 16
How awful. This sounds like an illness. They say that money can't buy happiness!
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@DianneN (78466)
• United States
12 Dec 16
@AmbiePam That is so sick! I couldn't live that way.
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@DianneN (78466)
• United States
13 Dec 16
@AmbiePam Now that is impressive. Those medical bills are outrageous. Your parents taught you the value of the mighty dollar, as did mine.
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@SIMPLYD (79762)
• Philippines
15 Dec 16
Then her husband must do something to stop her wife from being that .
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
15 Dec 16
It's a sad situation. She cheated on him years ago, so I think he's just trying to keep her around and happy.
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@SIMPLYD (79762)
• Philippines
15 Dec 16
@AmbiePam Oh my , she cheated on him years ago , yet it's still him who would like to make her happy and keep her . He is crazily in love with her .
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
16 Dec 16
@SIMPLYD I think it's important to him to have their sons grow up in a two parent household.
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@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
11 Dec 16
I can relate. We've kind of always been that way. Used to be we'd spend all our money and figure out the bills later... some things got shut off, but usually we'd manage to pay them before it got to that point, but everything was always late. We've gotten better and the bills are being paid on time now.. but we still like to spend a lot. My credit cards are hurting right now after what we did this summer and what I did for Christmas shopping. We are to the point where we just can't spend anymore because there's nothing left to spend... and of course when that happens, that's when things tend to go wrong like car troubles etc...
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
11 Dec 16
It's like a little gremlin waits for all the money be gone and then sabotaged the car or made someone sick.
@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
12 Dec 16
You know, you're very unique. You're open about the good stuff and bad stuff, and you own any baggage you may have. I'm always hesitant to talk about my many faults.
• United States
13 Dec 16
@AmbiePam We all have faults. People who pretend to be perfect are nothing but fake. I do love when good things happen, and I do fear I brag a lot, especially about my kids.. but we're not perfect.. not even close!
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@Shellyann36 (9886)
• United States
14 Dec 16
That does sound sad. She does not sound happy. I know a few people like this.
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
14 Dec 16
You can even see it here on mylot.
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@PatZAnthony (12663)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
12 Dec 16
Some do not learn. We really can't help those who will not listen.
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
12 Dec 16
True. And it's frustrating, but we can't will them to do better.
@jstory07 (67233)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Dec 16
She will never be happy. I always say be happy with what you have and save for what you want. Credit cards to me are only for emergencies.
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@AmbiePam (49126)
• United States
12 Dec 16
We'd all be better off.
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• Philippines
16 Dec 16
Wow, she wasted it in material things, she's not being practical.
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@Fishmomma (11504)
• United States
14 Dec 16
That is sad to know its happening round us. I use cash for groceries, clothes and other items in the stores. No cash, then I find a way to stretch out the food that is in the house or barter food I grew with other people to have some variety. She doesn't sound happy and I'm hoping she is able to find a way to be happy with what she has now.
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@just4him (117471)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Dec 16
She needs to get her priorities in place.
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@marlina (73881)
• Canada
12 Dec 16
Sad that she buys things to find some kind of happiness which she will never find that way.
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@JudyEv (123432)
• Bunbury, Australia
12 Dec 16
This is very sad but I guess there are a lot of people out there who go through life in this way.
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@LadyDuck (157859)
• Switzerland
11 Dec 16
This is horrible, it's almost a sort of illness, people cannot refrain to spend. My father used to tell me that "before" you earn the money and you spend only what you can afford. This is what I try to do.
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@averygirl72 (16656)
• Philippines
11 Dec 16
We should live within our means. I guess there are really people like that who spend so much then needs to borrow because they are short
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@allen0187 (33143)
• Philippines
11 Dec 16
Hopefully, she realizes her shortcomings and mends her ways so she won't find herself in a financial mess.
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