Call me "Boss" and I might cut you.

@TheHorse (65833)
Pleasant Hill, California
December 17, 2016 12:25pm CST
I was just reading @Maluse's post about MyLot etiquette, and having some fun in the Comments, when I realized there IS one "term of endearment." that really ticks me off when people use it in the real world. Call me "hon" and I'm fine with with that. I think of blue-haired ladies at the ma and pa dinner. Call me "Sir" and I might feel "old" for a second, but I'll just "Sir" or "Ma'am" you right back, whether you're 25 or 85. Call me "Dude," and I'll respond with "Yo." Call me "bra" and I'll make sure my wallet is deep in my pocket. But where in the world did "Boss" come from? Over the past three years, I've heard an increasing number of people (males in particular) calling each other "Boss," and I don't like it one bit. It feels disingenuous, flip, and even sarcastic to me. I'm not your boss. I'm your customer or acquaintance. Have you noticed the "Boss" trend where you are? (I'm in the San Francisco Bay Area.) Are there particular real-world terms of endearment that tick you off?
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@andriaperry (50864)
• United States
17 Dec 16
LOL, I know where this comes from. Prison. I hate when people call me "hon" or "sweetie" because they do not know me at all, I am far from sweet, besides being a diabetic, I am not their hon - honey. I prefer being called by my name or if in a business ma`am.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Even if it's that blue haired lady who's been waitressing for 47 years?
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@Rohvannyn (3118)
• United States
17 Dec 16
Just what I was thinking about "boss!" I've gotten used to endearments since I moved to AZ.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Who calls whom "boss" in prison?
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@pgntwo (21652)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
17 Dec 16
"Buddy" gets my goat. As does "mate".
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
I think of "mate" as Australian. Is it used in Ireland?
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@pgntwo (21652)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse Yes, even moreso in and around London, alas. The local colloquialism here in Derry is "mucker". It does not tend to annoy me as much as the two mentioned above, for some reason.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@pgntwo How does one properly use "Mucker"? To me it sounds like the contraction for a term often used to refer to me and my friends by ruffians on the South Side of Chicago in childhood days.
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@JolietJake (51144)
• United States
17 Dec 16
I remember when things were 'Boss' and it was a way of saying top or high-rated. Isn't Springsteen 'The Boss'? It doesn't really bother me (much) but I can't seem to get used to being addressed as 'Sir' other than by waitstaff. "Sir' was how you were supposed to address your elders, and I don't wanna be old!
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@JolietJake (51144)
• United States
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse I can't even think of the last time I saw a Johnny Quest episode, but I can still remember what Bandit looked like. (Edit; Oh hell...looks like it was Jonny...)
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@JolietJake Dang it! I'm going to resist editing it. I haven't seen an episode in decades, but I still remember Bandit as well.
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• United States
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse I love to Johnny Quest. My father played the guitar on that show
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@vandana7 (64930)
• India
17 Dec 16
Yes, I noticed...its not new..dad has been using it for one of his friends for ages...smh...as to addressing you ..I prefer Pony...it sounds cute.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Pony is fine! But you already know me!
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@vandana7 (64930)
• India
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse ...Yeah...we have gone as far as your sexy legs..so that is pretty intimate..
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@vandana7 Don't tell the others that I actually have six.
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@Bluedoll (17069)
• Canada
17 Dec 16
I've heard boss but it usually is said with jolly. Look what the cat dragged in is a common expression too. People tell me it is an acceptable greeting and not to worry. But talk about degrading. A fairly recent phrase I've heard is "you're not going to hit me are you"? Now that is almost intimidating. One region of the world close to me does use the nick name "boy". It is believe it or not equal to being referred to as "buddy" both names friendly calls.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
I've heard "Look what the cat dragged in!" all my life. It's always used affectionately before a hug, in my experience.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
"You're not going to hit me, are you?" Very strange! When would that be used?
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@Rohvannyn (3118)
• United States
17 Dec 16
If I ever hear "you're not going to hit me are you?" I'll probably just shut my mouth and walk off. I won't tolerate that kind of rudeness. I don't call people "boy" because it's something people used to call servants or slaves!
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@Corbin5 (106414)
• United States
17 Dec 16
I have not heard the "Boss" term used here, but I am sure being called "Boss" would annoy many. I remember a political appointee said to my husband when he worked for the U.S. Dept. of Labor as a regional director, "OK, Sparky." When my husband and the appointee were in the elevator, the appointee said something to my husband, and my husband replied, "OK, Skippy." The political appointee never used any slang term with my husband again.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Glad he made his point!
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@Corbin5 (106414)
• United States
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse Political appointees, for the most part, were always a bit full of themselves.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@Corbin5 I meet a lot of people who are full of themselves...and other things...these days.
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• United States
17 Dec 16
I hear it a lot especially at the casino, they'll call the men 'boss'.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Ask the guys how they feel about it! I don't care for it.
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• United States
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse I just asked my bf who is beside me. Do you like it if someone calls you Boss? My boyfriend said I am not paying you money don't call me boss.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@infatuatedbby I agree with him.
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@TheSojourner (17454)
• United States
17 Dec 16
I absolutely hate it when I hear people call their wives the old lady or the wife
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
How about "the boss", speaking of "boss"?
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• United States
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse When a husband/bf refers to a woman in any of those ways...drives me crazy.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
18 Dec 16
@CoralLevang I take it "ball and chain" wouldn't please you.
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@ms1864 (6986)
• Bangalore, India
18 Dec 16
yes...my dad uses that term to address weiter and such...i've never really thought much of it...though i have never used it myself.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Dec 16
"Boss"?
@ms1864 (6986)
• Bangalore, India
20 Dec 16
yep.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
20 Dec 16
@ms1864 Do you know where he picked it up? Others in India are saying they've never heard it.
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@yugocean (8366)
• India
18 Dec 16
No Horse, nobody call here boss. Sir, Mr, Name and Surname is enough here, even ill words, but no boss.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Dec 16
Glad to hear that, actually.
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@yugocean (8366)
• India
21 Dec 16
@TheHorse BTW nobody will be glad if ill words are used Mr Horse, yet you are happy with all this 'pony' word described for you.
@JudyEv (123229)
• Bunbury, Australia
18 Dec 16
At my age, I don't like 'babe' but I've never liked that anyway.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Dec 16
I only use "babe" with tongue in cheek.
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@Nihil90 (358)
• Indore, India
18 Dec 16
I have mostly heard people utter it at workplaces as a sign of sycophancy and as a way of making the other person feel important with the aim of getting their work done. The word has a hollow superlative ring to it. I do not mind if somebody addresses me "Boss". but I will if it is overused.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Dec 16
Sincere sycophancy? Or disingenuous sycophancy? To me it sounds almost sarcastic.
@rusty2rusty (6769)
• Defiance, Ohio
18 Dec 16
I tend to refer to people as sir or mad'am. As I am bad with names. As long as someone isn't cussing or putting me down. It doesn't bother me what slang word they use.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
19 Dec 16
I still use "man" when dealing with hipsters or people (males) who may be a tad rough around the edges.
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Dec 16
I have not noticed that here yet. Oddly enough, eons ago when I sold women's shoes in southern Calif, the regional manager was fond of addressing everyone as "Boss," as in "It takes a lot hard work, Boss." I always thought that was very strange.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Dec 16
Did you like being called "boss"? I still can't adjust to it.
• Eugene, Oregon
25 Dec 16
@TheHorse No, it would bother me too.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Dec 16
@JamesHxstatic Even "dude" or "bro" are OK with me. I've never been to Hawaii, so "bra" might scare me, or make me think I'm about to be taken into custody by Dog the Bounty Hunter.
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@STOUTjodee (3440)
• United States
17 Dec 16
I'm never heard that one, other than when I was a "BOSS." The term of endearment I don't like is being called "Dude" when I'm clearly NOT a "dude!"
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Dude. Hmm. Depends on the situation, I think. But I wouldn't use it to address a female. Unless it was one I knew really well and she knew I was joking.
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
17 Dec 16
that must be an age thing, because i have no issue s being called dude, even though i rarely call anyone else dude, unless weve been drinking or im just being really silly
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
17 Dec 16
Yeah it gets said a lot here, usually by construction workers, or places where the workforce is majority of males.I hate beng called m'am.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
Ah, so I'm not the only one who has noticed the "boss" thing.
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• Ponce De Leon, Florida
17 Dec 16
@TheHorse nope, it is common. also when i worked at a rehab it was often used by the patients. so i dont know if its a street thing too, or what
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
17 Dec 16
@thislittlepennyearns Maybe it has a street element to it. I've been "outa Oakland" for about four years.
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@valmnz (12758)
• New Zealand
18 Dec 16
Here in New Zealand Boss is used more amongst Maori and Pacific Island people, as an alternative to Bro.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Dec 16
Hmm. Maybe it has spread from our Pacific Island population.
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@valmnz (12758)
• New Zealand
26 Dec 16
@TheHorse I think our guys got it from American TV
@nanette64 (17612)
• Fairfield, Texas
18 Dec 16
I haven't heard the "Boss" one @TheHorse .
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
18 Dec 16
I don't hear it that often. But when I do...
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@nanette64 (17612)
• Fairfield, Texas
19 Dec 16
@just4him (117059)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Dec 16
I hadn't heard that one before. I have heard all the others. I get ma'am a lot in particular from people who have been in the military. The problem with courtesy is that it's something that doesn't happen much these days and to have a comeback with it is pleasant on the ears, but I don't think I would like it if anyone called me boss.
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
21 Dec 16
I don't mind "sir" that much. I just respond with "ma'am" or "sir." But "boss" is weird to me.
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@just4him (117059)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
22 Dec 16
@TheHorse Yes it is. The only time I was called sir was when I was in the Navy and the reason was because they called everyone sir regardless of gender.
@fishtiger58 (30338)
• Momence, Illinois
18 Dec 16
I don't care for hon at all cos I ain't your hon
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@TheHorse (65833)
• Pleasant Hill, California
18 Dec 16
Is it something I said? Heh.
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@fishtiger58 (30338)
• Momence, Illinois
19 Dec 16
@TheHorse lol don't think so