He Said He Was Sorry

@just4him (67330)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
December 25, 2016 10:11am CST
It took a lifetime, literally, for him to say it and it took another just like him to realize what I've gone through since he was born. My oldest has ADHD and is bipolar, something I didn't know when he was little, but just the fact that he was hyper was more than I could handle on a good day. Most times I was ready to pull my hair out. Add to that ADD and you have a child who can't sit still, is always on the move, always into or doing something, and easily angered. He called me last night and said he was sorry. You see, his girlfriend has a little boy who is hyper, no doubt has ADD from what I witnessed on Thanksgiving, and is everything my son was and is. He found he met his match with him and also realized how difficult I had it while he was growing up. Right now I wouldn't trade anything I went through with him just to hear those words. It was perhaps the best Christmas gift I've ever received. He came by last night with the kids so I could give them their presents since they will be spending time with their fathers today. So today is adults only. I have the boneless beef ribs in the crock pot and should be putting out tantalizing aromas shortly. So for now I have a little bit of time to spend here. I hope you all are having a Merry Christmas, to those who are celebrating, a Happy Hanukkah to those celebrating that wonderful season of light, and a wonderful day for all those who aren't celebrating either holiday. Thanks for reading.
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@marlina (51002)
• Canada
25 Dec
You are right, it is a beautiful Christmas gift for you.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
It really was. It's nice to know he appreciates what I went through with him.
• United States
25 Dec
Merry Christmas!! Glad everything worked out with your oldest :)
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you. Merry Christmas to you as well.
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• United States
26 Dec
@just4him Thank you!!
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@HAPPSINGH (83958)
• India
26 Dec
@infatuatedbby thank you , merry christmas
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@HAPPSINGH (83958)
• India
25 Dec
Merry Christmas friend, enjoy your time
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you. It was a good day.
@HAPPSINGH (83958)
• India
26 Dec
@just4him That's nice, have a great time
@PatZAnthony (9512)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
25 Dec
It is really nice that you could have that conversation with your son.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
It really was.
@NJChicaa (17810)
• United States
25 Dec
Merry Christmas! Enjoy your day!
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you, it was a great day. Merry Christmas to you also.
@Happy2BeMe (53379)
• Canada
25 Dec
Merry Christmas to you and your family.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas as well.
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@Happy2BeMe (53379)
• Canada
27 Dec
@just4him thank you I did
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@allknowing (52825)
• India
26 Dec
That priceless word 'sorry' never comes that easily Am glad for you that you got to hear it
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
It was a great moment.
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• United States
25 Dec
@just4him Merry Christmas! It is wonderful that he shared that gift with you.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Yes it was. We also had a good laugh over it at dinner today with my youngest son.
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@marsha32 (6575)
• United States
25 Dec
I know that made you feel so good to hear! Sounds like what we are going through with the grandson who is 7. He was even suspended from school before the holiday break due to his behavior--which is violent and he is easily angered.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Wow! I'm so sorry. Yes, it was good to hear.
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@Corbin5 (55011)
• United States
25 Dec
That apology was a gift to you, I am sure. So glad he finally realized the struggles you endured raising him.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Yes, it was a priceless gift.
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@Susan2015 (16289)
• United States
25 Dec
Yep now that he has some responsibility for a child, he can see that it's not always that easy. Merry Christmas.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
He certainly does see it from a whole new perspective. I hope you had a Merry Christmas as well.
@amadeo (35845)
• United States
25 Dec
very Nice
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
It was, thank you.
@celticeagle (102193)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Dec
What a nice gift for you to receive. My daughter wasn't diagnosed with bi-polar disorder until she was an adult and had gone through some awful things. Then she had a daughter who was bi-polar. My daughter's dad was bi-polar but had never been diagnosed. I just know now looking back on his actions. My daughter had ADHD and was hyper when young. Luckily her first teacher spotted this right away and I had her tested. I learned ,with her, to get kids tested as early as possible. Am having a nice day.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Aaron was tested early too and was in special ed classes all his school life. I'm glad you had a good day.
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@celticeagle (102193)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec
@just4him ......That's great! The earlier the better. Yes, a good day for both of us.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
@celticeagle I'm glad you had a good Christmas.
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@DianneN (42394)
• United States
26 Dec
Now that was the perfect gift! I've taught so many students with ADD and ADHD, among other disabilities. I feel for you, your son, and his girlfriend's little boy. I hope he gets the treatment he needs to succeed in school and in life. My own nephew is a shining success story. Hugs to you and enjoy your adult only Christmas dinner!
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you, it was great. I went all out with presents for each and they were happily shocked with their presents. I hope you had a good day as well.
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@DianneN (42394)
• United States
26 Dec
@just4him That's what a loving mommy does! Yes, thank you.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
@DianneN I'm glad to hear it.
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@Jessicalynnt (48003)
• Centralia, Missouri
26 Dec
that's really neat that he recognized it, and knew he needed to say something
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
After I told him that Gavan acted just like he did when he was small, he had that epiphany moment and realized just what I went through with him, since he is now dealing with it with Gavan.
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• Centralia, Missouri
26 Dec
@just4him I hope his and your knowledge helps
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
@Jessicalynnt I'm sure it does.
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• Boone, North Carolina
25 Dec
Having a great connection with your son like that is fantastic and a reflection on some solid parenting.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Thank you. It wasn't easy while he was growing up, but that phone call made it all worth it.
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• Boone, North Carolina
27 Dec
@just4him Relish the moments - it's like gathering fresh rose blooms in winter
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Dec
@SunnyShores Yes it is, and I do.
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• Los Arcos, Spain
25 Dec
So his Son has the same as what he had got? Its good when a Son can get to talk to his Mother even if many years go by its always good.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
No, it's his girlfriend's little boy who is just like he is. Yes, it was good for him to tell me he was sorry.
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• Los Arcos, Spain
26 Dec
@just4him Now I see it. He is seeing what you went through but because of his GirlfriendĀ“s Son and now feels for all that happened.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
@lovinangelsinstead21 Yes. He has his hands full and cherishes those times when Gavan is in school and he has a break.
@Tampa_girl7 (24141)
• United States
26 Dec
So glad that he talked to you and realizes what you went through.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Me too. It was a nice gift.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24141)
• United States
26 Dec
@just4him yes, it was
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@fazelath (1180)
• India
29 Dec
That sounds great have a great time
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec
Thank you.
@averygirl72 (8957)
• Philippines
26 Dec
It's nice to hear he appreciated your effort to take care of him when his a kid.
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@just4him (67330)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec
Yes it was.
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