Should he stay or should he go?
December 29, 2016 6:43am CST
I have a friend who's very good at dropping off the radar. I usually give up on him after a while, then out of blue he'd get in touch and we'd be like best friends again for a while. Then, he drops off the radar again. I must admit, I usually don't have the patience or the time for people like this. But somehow we managed to stay as friends. As the end of year approaches, am evaluating whether I need to keep certain things including people in my life. I find his name showing up.., So I wonder, should he stay or should he go? Do you have friends like this? And what do you do with them?
17 people like this
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 16
Friends don't have to account for their whereabouts to each other. He can come and go as he pleases without telling you. I guess it might be good practice to tell you when he is disappearing and gor how long, but it shouldn't stop you remaining friends. I have friends I often don't see for years, but it's always great to see them. Never greet someone you haven't seen for a long time with a snarly "Where the hell have you been? "
• Pikeville, North Carolina
7 Jan 17
If he's someone you enjoy spending time with when he's around, and his leaving doesn't leave you in the lurch, I'd say keep him as long as you understand this is how he is and he isn't going to change. As long as your not expecting to settle down with him, what's the harm in enjoying him being around when he is?
• Tampa, Florida
29 Dec 16
sometimes people just get stuck in a routine and don't get around to reaching out to friends. If the friendship is worth keeping it will resolve itself. And if not I would not worry to much as if he just disappears maybe he just stays gone? Good luck.