Should he stay or should he go?

@Drosophila (16862)
Ireland
December 29, 2016 6:43am CST
I have a friend who's very good at dropping off the radar. I usually give up on him after a while, then out of blue he'd get in touch and we'd be like best friends again for a while. Then, he drops off the radar again. I must admit, I usually don't have the patience or the time for people like this. But somehow we managed to stay as friends. As the end of year approaches, am evaluating whether I need to keep certain things including people in my life. I find his name showing up.., So I wonder, should he stay or should he go? Do you have friends like this? And what do you do with them?
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@DianneN (57344)
• United States
29 Dec
I wouldn't worry about him. I'd take him or leave him as he comes and goes. He seems harmless enough. Didn't you write about him in the past???
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
Make sense, I may have written about him in the past, he's the French guy.
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@DianneN (57344)
• United States
29 Dec
@Drosophila Ooo la la! You never mentioned if he was French or not.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
30 Dec
@DianneN ah! He's the guy who taught me the French potato bake, and visited in France early this year
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@kevin1877uk (36118)
30 Dec
I too don't have time for people like that in my life, it's nice to have friends but then you get people like that who thing they came come and go as they please.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
30 Dec
Ya I usually just let them drift out of my life
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@kevin1877uk (36118)
30 Dec
@Drosophila I know what you mean there.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
@kevin1877uk flakey people aye
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@moffittjc (34757)
• Gainesville, Florida
31 Dec
If he's not causing an unnecessary drama in your life, I see no reason to let him go. Keep him around as a friend...you never know when he will prove useful to you at a later time! Happy New Year!
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
try.. I might have a Xmas tree that needs watering.. Happy NY
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@moffittjc (34757)
• Gainesville, Florida
31 Dec
@Drosophila So are you keeping him or not?
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
@moffittjc maybe for now, we shall see
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@just4him (89245)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec
I keep them on the back burner. They prove to be very good friends.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
30 Dec
I guess it depends on whether they are good at keeping touch or not, some people are just terrible
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@just4him (89245)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Dec
@Drosophila He sounds like he's been a good friend, even if he doesn't get in touch very often. I have a few friends like that now, but would never give them up.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
@just4him fair play
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@Orson_Kart (4032)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec
Friends don't have to account for their whereabouts to each other. He can come and go as he pleases without telling you. I guess it might be good practice to tell you when he is disappearing and gor how long, but it shouldn't stop you remaining friends. I have friends I often don't see for years, but it's always great to see them. Never greet someone you haven't seen for a long time with a snarly "Where the hell have you been? "
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
30 Dec
lol you made me sound like a nagging wife hahaha
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• United Kingdom
30 Dec
@Drosophila That's because you DO sound like a nagging wife.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
@Orson_Kart lol.. man that's a new one
• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Dec
Yes, Out of sight out of mind. When the person shows up I pay attention, when they leave, I just forget and take up the threads of my old life. No problems.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
30 Dec
That's pretty much what I do, thought I don't know why I am a bit perplexed when this one drops off the radar
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• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Dec
@Drosophila Well, as long as he is not harmed, then until next time you meet. Life goes on.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
31 Dec
@Gita17112016 agreed, life goes on regardless
@DWDavis (11147)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
7 Jan
If he's someone you enjoy spending time with when he's around, and his leaving doesn't leave you in the lurch, I'd say keep him as long as you understand this is how he is and he isn't going to change. As long as your not expecting to settle down with him, what's the harm in enjoying him being around when he is?
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
7 Jan
you're right here. I usually do a "spring cleaning" every year, and basically pull back the energy/time I invest in things/people if I don't feel it's being utilized appropriately
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@LoriAMoore (9724)
• United States
1 Jan
I have some of each - some that I only see once a year but it's like we never missed a beat and I keep them in my life and others that aren't worth the occasional emotion when they're back in my life.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
1 Jan
I love this sentiment.. the "occasional emotion".. :D
@BelleStarr (31226)
• Portland, Connecticut
29 Dec
I think you needn't worry about him, he will go on his own and later you can think about whether he is worth welcoming back!! Happy New Year
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
You have a point here for sure! Happy new year to you as well
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@Lisa810 (48)
• Tampa, Florida
29 Dec
sometimes people just get stuck in a routine and don't get around to reaching out to friends. If the friendship is worth keeping it will resolve itself. And if not I would not worry to much as if he just disappears maybe he just stays gone? Good luck.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
That is true, maybe I should think less of it
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@JudyEv (97153)
• Bunbury, Australia
29 Dec
I guess if you enjoy his company and he doesn't make waves, maybe just put up with him. Sort of 'take it or leave it' approach.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
I guess I do have some unrealistically high expectations for my friends at times
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@topffer (29974)
• France
29 Dec
I do not judge my friends, and this kind of behavior would not dissuade me to not keep him as a friend.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
You have raised an interesting point, am I judging my friend? If so why? Hum... this has never occurred to me, how interesting
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@MALUSE (31753)
• Denmark
29 Dec
If he's not your only friend, I'd keep him out of curiosity and for his entertainment value.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
No, he's not my only friend. Now am curious, what would you recommend I do, if he was
@shaynas (5562)
• India
29 Dec
Did u ever ask him the reason of such behavior? I feel, i would keep such friend.
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
He rarely explains his bolts of absence.. and I don't usually feel I should persist with the line of questioning
@masood72 (4173)
• Amersfoort, Netherlands
29 Dec
i don't have such kind friend
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@Drosophila (16862)
• Ireland
29 Dec
Well I usually don't either... he's the first one