One more :(

@topffer (36613)
Singapore, Singapore
January 4, 2017 7:07am CST
My penultimate post was about a death, and this one too : 2016 has been really a bad year. Hugues was a friend since we met in 1986 on an excavation site. He was only 18, the age where normally you end high school in France, and he was doing together a degree in German and another one in law. He was already a very bright guy with a lot of humor, always ready for a practical joke, and we kept in touch. In 1997 he has been laureate of the university of Aix-Marseille for his PhD in public law about "the reverse of courts practice in administrative law between year VII to 1997", a colossal work (200 years of jurisprudence dissected) published in 1999, and the same year he became a senior lecturer at the university of Versailles-Saint-Quentin-en-Yvelines and registered with the bar in Paris during a few years. He wrote later a textbook about administrative proceedings which had several editions and is a reference. He launched in his college a double degree English/Law (he had a Master in German, but was also perfectly speaking English) and a master in administrative proceedings laws. I was seeing him when I was going to Paris where he had a nice appartment in the center, not far from the Seine river, and during summer on excavations sites with our girlfriends of the moment. Well, he had many girlfriends, he was always finding the right words able to melt any woman's heart in a few hours, and I was a bit envious about this talent. I am not surprised to read that he generated several vocations among his students, he was a very talented speaker, able to present with passion and humor the most boring case. I can hardly count the number of excavations we did together. Last time was in 2013, he is the second from the left on the photo I post, and I am the third. We decided to do another excavation in 2015 but it did not happened due to a death in his family. I saw him in Paris last spring and we talked several times on the phone after that, last time was in August. I called him in December, and he did not called back, unlike his habit. On January 1st I called to wish him a Happy New Year, and... the number was no more reachable. I had a bad feeling, googled his name, and the first link to come was an obituary on the website of his college where I found that he was dead in Paris on September 19th. His college has given his name to a classroom last October. I am really sad about his death. He was only 48. It is a nasty joke, Hugues.
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@Fleura (7386)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 17
I am sorry for the loss of your friend, and also that you had to find out that way. It is difficult when you know only the individual and not their family, they can just disappear and you may never know what happened. I hope 2017 will be a better year. I had a bad year in 2011 when I lost 5 friends and relatives, including my mother, at the rate of one a month. I thought I would be next! Well maybe I will, it just hasn't happened yet.
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@Fleura (7386)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 Gosh what a shock! Had you lost touch with your Dad? I am sorry you have had to go through this and to have the same experience several times as well. I hope this will be a better year for you.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Jan 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 I understand the shock you had. It is incredible that nobody in your family told it to you. Humans are not always acting like human beings. Sad story.
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• Pamplona, Spain
5 Jan 17
@topffer Lucky for me and I say lucky that intuition kicks in and lead me to the truth of the situation. I was not bothered about the house that was left or the money which I never got anyway. It was the fact of them being so cold hearted that hurt more than any loss of money or other.
@vandana7 (68972)
• India
4 Jan 17
Aw...so sorry top...I sure understand that feeling. To that extent, my school friend has accepted my friendship request on fb, but she is in a shell, she lost her husband and out here its not easy for widows...people are nasty. So kinda..she seems to be inside shell and though she wants to be friends with me (otherwise why she would accept friendship request after 45 odd years), she is not visiting fb. I am unable to reach out to her. A happy but sad situation..
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@vandana7 (68972)
• India
4 Jan 17
@topffer ... what...I found a friend I knew when I was 7 years old! But she did not want to be friends with me...kinda..it was a stilted conversation. This one I know is shying. She was basically not flamboyant..so I need to be the one to pull her out of her blues, if she'd let me. The loss is recent apparently.
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• Pamplona, Spain
4 Jan 17
@vandana7 Keep trying then if you can. As you are very positive and love her all you can too. She might just see that you only want to help her.
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@vandana7 (68972)
• India
5 Jan 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 ..Yeah...I have never visited fb as often as I am doing now.
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@Drosophila (16694)
• Ireland
4 Jan 17
Oh no! I am so sorry to hear about this
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
4 Jan 17
Well, I lost two very good friends last year. If it continues, I will have no more friends soon, as I have reached an age where you do not make friends.
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@Drosophila (16694)
• Ireland
5 Jan 17
@topffer that's Ok! Friendship is overated at time. Occasionally you get a rare relationship, that's irreplaceable, but when that end for whatever reason, it's ok not to replace it. It's like you can only have one Mum, why try to get lots of mums! And age has little to do with it, am in my 30s and no I don't make friends easily either
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@MALUSE (45802)
• Uzbekistan
4 Jan 17
One shouldn't die at the age of 48.
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• United States
5 Jan 17
I am so sorry to hear about your friend! You know that I can't speak french, so what happened to him?
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• United States
5 Jan 17
@topffer Heart attacks and strokes are scary, because they can happen without any signs. I know someone who had a stroke over the summer. She is less than ten years older than me (we have children the same age), and I had spent the day with her about a week before she had the stroke. She is still recovering, and I am afraid she will never fully be herself again. She is still alive, though, so she is doing well. You know that if anything serious happened to me, then you would know, because Phyrre would contact you. If something happened to you, though, I would not know and would be left wondering forever.
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• United States
5 Jan 17
@topffer You should add a codicil or request that someone send up a smoke signal or something, although hopefully we will not have to worry about such things for several more decades! Speaking of your phone and pin codes, can you still Skype with it?
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
6 Jan 17
@purplealabaster I am starting to be cautious about things that should happen only in a few decades. You have installed Skype again ?
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@scheng1 (24741)
• Singapore
31 Jan 17
That is a very young age to pass on. Any idea about the illness that takes him? The article mentions health concerns, but no specific. I just hope that he has no family history of any health conditions, else more of his family members will suffer from it.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
31 Jan 17
He never spoke to me of a health disease and he was not looking. He was a big smoker and a hard worker, it is why I think it was a heart attack. He had only a sister living in Southern France that I never met.
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@scheng1 (24741)
• Singapore
1 Feb 17
@topffer Either that or he had lung disease. I think more likely he suffered from lung disease due to heavy smoking.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
1 Feb 17
@scheng1 You do not die suddenly from a lung disease. Last time I talked to him, in August, he was going to Brittany to search a holiday house to buy. You do not do that if you think that your days are counted. I will know if I manage to reach his sister.
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@allknowing (72751)
• India
4 Jan 17
A great write up on your friend. When was the last time you two met?
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Jan 17
I lost two good friends last year. If it continues I will have no more friends in a few years. Last time we met was last year in March or April in Paris. Last time I talked to him with a phone was in August. I am going to Paris tomorrow and I wanted to invite him to dine.
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@allknowing (72751)
• India
5 Jan 17
@topffer It is not too late to meet new people and I hope you will.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Jan 17
@allknowing To meet new people, certainly, but I have reached an age where you do not make easily new friends.
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@much2say (40818)
• United States
25 Jan 17
I'm so sorry to hear this about your friend - and how you found out about his passing. He sounds like he was the type of guy who was good (if not great) at everything he did. What an accomplished person - and to think what more he would have done in his life had he been able to continue. It makes me think today too, as he was my age.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
25 Jan 17
I was stunned when I saw the obituary. He was 9 years younger than myself and I could not imagine that. Last time I spoke to him, he was going in Brittany to look to buy a holiday house ; if he found one, he did not benefited of it long. I think we became immediately friends because we were made on the same model, with an ability to learn fast and adapt, and to apparently not take things too seriously. Sorry, I stop here, I am wiping a tear.
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@Beatburn (3959)
• Philippines
5 Jan 17
May he rest in peace. Thanks for sharing this tribute to him. He has done so much at such a young age.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Jan 17
Maybe some people are doing a lot of things when they are young because they have the feeling that they will not live long ? He was a very hard worker, but also a nice person dedicating a part of his time to his friends.
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@Beatburn (3959)
• Philippines
6 Jan 17
@topffer May he inspire others to do the same make the most of the time as well as spending it with friends.
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@JudyEv (140959)
• Bunbury, Australia
5 Jan 17
That is very sad and would have been a shock to you if he had seemed in good health last time you met. 48 is much too young. My condolences.
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@celticeagle (121017)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jan 17
Sorry to hear of his passing. And at such an early age.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
4 Jan 17
I was certainly not expecting that. I do not know what happened, I suppose it was a heart attack.
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@celticeagle (121017)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 17
@topffer .......Could very well be.
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@JESSY3236 (7760)
• United States
10 Jan 17
That's sad. 48 is too young.
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@topffer (36613)
• Singapore, Singapore
10 Jan 17
He was very young and I was not expecting that. I suppose it is a heart attack.
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@valmnz (13168)
• New Zealand
5 Jan 17
That is sad news for both your friend and yourself. He was far too young.
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@cahaya1983 (10036)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 17
I'm sorry for your loss. Naming the classroom after him is a great honor, I'm sure you're proud of him as well.
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