Pain means you care...

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I was driving through this neighborhood yesterday, and came across this lady screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs at someone. Yelling things like I hate you...etc. etc. I happened to pause for a moment, and I heard the Lord speak to me very clearly. He said: "She loves him you know..." I had to take a step back in my mind, and ponder what I heard. Then the revelation hit me. We as human beings tend to think that if we get angry with someone, we try to convince ourselves that we have no feelings for them, and we don't care. But the opposite is true. Now...let me clarify. I am not speaking about being just judgmental and critical. I am speaking about when the pain is so deep, all you want to do is lash out at them, and/or ignore them. We all can be judgmental and critical, especially with people, and/or circumstances we don't know, and/or have the full knowledge of both sides, to get a proper assessment. But when we hurt deep in our hearts, and/or get disappointed, because someone did not measure up to our standards; we fool ourselves if we think we don't have any feelings for them, of any kind. When was the last time you cried; got hurt/angry deep inside, with someone that did not matter to you? We might get shocked at what they do, but not hurt/angry. That emotion God reserved for the ones that have some significant meaning to us. The trouble is...our pride gets in the way many times, to admit it. We are so busy looking at the speck in the other person's eye, we can not see the logs in our own. We don't see that we play a part in the problem too. But if only one party is willing to admit it, then it is impossible to bring healing back to the relationship. I heard a pastor once say many years ago, especially about those who call themselves Christians. And if we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that we have been guilty of this many times. And that is... "Most people would rather be right, then reconciled."