Pain means you care...

Jacksonville, Florida
January 7, 2017 9:48am CST
I was driving through this neighborhood yesterday, and came across this lady screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs at someone. Yelling things like I hate you...etc. etc. I happened to pause for a moment, and I heard the Lord speak to me very clearly. He said: "She loves him you know..." I had to take a step back in my mind, and ponder what I heard. Then the revelation hit me. We as human beings tend to think that if we get angry with someone, we try to convince ourselves that we have no feelings for them, and we don't care. But the opposite is true. Now...let me clarify. I am not speaking about being just judgmental and critical. I am speaking about when the pain is so deep, all you want to do is lash out at them, and/or ignore them. We all can be judgmental and critical, especially with people, and/or circumstances we don't know, and/or have the full knowledge of both sides, to get a proper assessment. But when we hurt deep in our hearts, and/or get disappointed, because someone did not measure up to our standards; we fool ourselves if we think we don't have any feelings for them, of any kind. When was the last time you cried; got hurt/angry deep inside, with someone that did not matter to you? We might get shocked at what they do, but not hurt/angry. That emotion God reserved for the ones that have some significant meaning to us. The trouble is...our pride gets in the way many times, to admit it. We are so busy looking at the speck in the other person's eye, we can not see the logs in our own. We don't see that we play a part in the problem too. But if only one party is willing to admit it, then it is impossible to bring healing back to the relationship. I heard a pastor once say many years ago, especially about those who call themselves Christians. And if we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that we have been guilty of this many times. And that is... "Most people would rather be right, then reconciled."
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@Jessicalynnt (47879)
• Centralia, Missouri
7 Jan 17
anger a lot is misplaced fear or worry, so yeah, you care.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Jan 17
Amen!
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7 Jan 17
I have to agree.
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@inertia4 (27792)
• United States
7 Jan 17
I never heard voices in my head form an entity. And I hope I never do. I am not ready to be put away. LOL. But I know what you mean here. Arguments come in many forms and many levels. If we never argued or got angry we truly don't care. That does mean we care. From the deepest part of ourselves. We are essentially fighting for it.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Jan 17
I believe in God. He can put impressions in our head. But if you have never experienced that, then you have no way of realizing it can happen. And anyone who can hear God this way, is not crazy.
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@inertia4 (27792)
• United States
7 Jan 17
@teresatrotter I never said you or anyone else was crazy. I just am not a believer. However, I do believe that we control our lives and destiny. As long as we listen to ourselves, we will be alright.
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@aninditasen (1791)
• Raurkela, India
7 Jan 17
Yes, you are right, but being right at times helps the person who has hurt you realise his/her mistake.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Jan 17
Being right gets in the way of healthy relations a lot. It may help the other person to see something, but most of the time...we want the other person to feel like a pig over it, and that is not right.
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• Raurkela, India
8 Jan 17
@teresatrotter Yes, it's not right to make your partners feel like a pig. The essence of relationship is respecting each other as a human being.
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