This is not an advice..
January 7, 2017 12:04pm CST
"This is not an advice. It's merely how I do things." I've noticed that people often mistakenly thinking I am giving them advice, when I'm merely explaining my thought processes on things. Often, people would ask "so how you would handle X situation?", I tell them my process, they automatically assume it's advice. I'd like to clarify, well.. it ain't! We all deal with situations differently, there's no the right or the wrong way. There's only the way that... well, works or don't work for you. I can tell you what works for me, but by no means, I assume it will work for you! So, deploy at your own risk... Do you ask for advice? Do you give advice? Do you take advice?
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• Gainesville, Florida
7 Jan 17
Yes, to all three of your questions. But if I want advice, I will specifically ask for it. And if I give advice, it's only if somebody else has asked for it. I am always open to receiving advice, because I like to keep an open mind on how I can always improve myself.
9 Jan 17
@moffittjc there's nothing wrong with being content, and as long as you maintain a curiosity to life and a desire to experience diversity, your life will never be stagnant. That's not the same as working on your self as if it's an old shed, where renovation is a must.
10 Jan 17
Asking questions is effective sometimes. I have noticed a strange thing: when I am asked for an opinion, I usually have some questions in order to learn the full story. The last question is about the outcome, what they want to achieve by the situation they are into. And most people don't know what they want.
• Manchester, England
9 Jan 17
I refuse to accept your advice to deploy your 'advice' at my own risk. Oh hang on. That wasn't advice was it? That was you saying that deploying your own advice at your own risk works for you but may not necessarily work for me. So at who's risk should I deploy your advice. If advice is what it was. Which it probably wasn't!! I'm confused!
9 Jan 17
Interesting topic. I ask very often my friend's opinions on important issues, I find it very interesting to listen how other people would react in the situation that I am facing or the choices that they would make. I usually gather information and eventually take my own decisions, that might be a combination of the individual opinions. Some people are diplomatic, others are straightforward, but I really enjoy it when people think out of the box and surprise me with their reactions. I also give my opinion or advice honestly and openly when I am asked.
8 Jan 17
I still ask for advice or guidance sometimes. Its up to me if I'm taking it or not.But about giving advice, I just give it to people who I really know and matter. Its hard to give advice to a stranger. I could give more of a guideline because Im not really sure the real situation.
• Bunbury, Australia
7 Jan 17
I might ask what others would do in my situation but if I'm asked I usually end up saying 'but that's just my way' or whatever. Some people get pretty sensitive and think a person is being critical when they don't mean to be at all.