I Needed My Mommy Today

United States
January 10, 2017 5:57pm CST
The neurologist ran me through some tests today. They were memory tests given to people having problems with their memory. Dementia was ruled out. I was relieved. Stress is playing a huge role in my inability to focus and the trickle down effect is giving my memory a run for the money. All I wanted to do was go hug my mother. Whenever I needed my spirits lifted, she was there. Gave me a hug, listened to me. I needed her today. She was in the activity room when I arrived. She was sitting in her wheelchair next to her boyfriend. I smiled seeing that. Glad she has found someone to connect with. Her face lit up when she saw me. I bent down and gave her a kiss and a hug. There was music playing and she was singing. I joined in when Connie Francis, Who's Sorry Now, came over the speakers. The young woman who was in charge of the morning activities shut off the music and everyone let her know they weren't happy with it. But, I guess everything is done on time. It was time for her to read the news from the local paper. Most listened to her as she read. A few would comment to the news. Horoscopes read, Dear Abby too. Then a little trivia was played. Mom asked me for the answers and I whispered them to her. She smile broadly as she shouted out the correct answer. We spoke few words. Mom's focus is short so I try not to overwhelm her. I showed her pictures of my granddaughter at Christmas. She loved them. Told her we are coming to see her this weekend. That made her smile. The group was going off into different directions. Lunch was about to be served. Mom's boyfriend was moved to another area and she was clearly ready to be by his side. I bent down and gave her another hug and kiss. Told her I loved her. She told me she loved me too. A hug and a kiss, it was what I needed, from my Mommy.
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@moffittjc (42194)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Jan 17
That was such a sweet post to read! I'm glad you were able to get that hug from your mommy. I'm sure in that brief moment where you two connected, everything was right with the world.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
It was great Jeff. I savored every moment we spent together even though it was in the company of the other residents. We were still together.
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@moffittjc (42194)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly And I'm sure that when you were with your mother, everybody else was completely tuned out, almost as if it was just the two of you in the room.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
@moffittjc you made me smile because that is exactly how it was.
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@Gillygirl (17277)
• Sutton, England
11 Jan 17
It's a relief you were ruled out as potentially having dementia. My dad had dementia and I lost my mum last year. The love for your mum really shines through on this post.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Thank you Gillian. I of course was a bit panicked when the doctor administered the test. One was mathematical. I told her that it wasn't happening, because without a calculator or pen and paper I couldn't do it. I am not one that excelled in math and never will. Even so, she said it was all stress related and was hindering my ability to focus. So, needless to say, I have to find ways to reduce the stress in my life.
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@Gillygirl (17277)
• Sutton, England
11 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly I hope you find a way to reduce your stress levels
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• United States
11 Jan 17
@Gillygirl It is a big task that I have tried to accomplish for sometime. Convincing myself that I am worthy of being happy and doing what I like is not easy.
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@just4him (113414)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Jan 17
I'm so glad you were able to get that hug and kiss from your mommy.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Add a smile to that and I can tell you that she warmed my heart.
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@just4him (113414)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly Totally Awesome.
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@JudyEv (121368)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Jan 17
This sounds SOOO familiar as my mother ended her days in a hursing home. They would have music, listening to the paper, trivia quizzes and bingo. Mum loved playing bingo. I'm glad you got a hug from our Mum. :)
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• United States
12 Jan 17
They offer bingo, but my mother doesn't participate. She once loved playing it, but I don't believe she has the finger dexterity to put a marker on the number.
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@AmbiePam (48682)
• United States
11 Jan 17
You can move a person.
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@Jessicalynnt (47789)
• Centralia, Missouri
11 Jan 17
well it's neat they have the paper read to them, I know they try to have different activities for seniors, at least at the better places
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• United States
12 Jan 17
The activities seemed to be a little dull. But, they all seemed to enjoy them.
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• Centralia, Missouri
12 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly they may not want super exciting things anymore
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• United States
12 Jan 17
@Jessicalynnt she still wears the elastic bracelet that she made before Christmas. She is quite proud of it.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Sorry you are under such incredible stress my friend. I am glad you have access to your Mom to get much needed love. I hope your situation and symptoms improve.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Hey Lady! Long time no see. I hope you are doing well. Yes, I am crippled by the stress. Trying to remain upbeat and finding my way out of this darkness is not easy.
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• United States
12 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly I wish you all the best my friend..nice to see you too.
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• United States
12 Jan 17
@TiarasOceanView thank you OT.
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@marguicha (92092)
• Chile
11 Jan 17
A beautiful post and a beautiful show of mother and daughter love.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Thank you. I know that moments like this are few and far between. My Mom is in the middle stages of Alzheimer's and isn't often as nice to me as she once was. I cherish the moments when she is.
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@marguicha (92092)
• Chile
11 Jan 17
I know what you mean. But magic memories should be cherished. @ElusiveButterfly
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• United States
11 Jan 17
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@jhechorain (1218)
• Susanville, California
11 Jan 17
Such a sweet story. I miss my mom so much, no hug can compare to hers and I miss them so much.
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• United States
12 Jan 17
Oh Jani, I am sorry. Just remember them with love.
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• Susanville, California
12 Jan 17
I still do, thank you my friend.
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@DianneN (76155)
• United States
11 Jan 17
How precious. You are so lucky to still have your mommy to hug!
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• United States
11 Jan 17
I am blessed.
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@DianneN (76155)
• United States
12 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly You truly are.
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@Babs0630 (487)
11 Jan 17
I don't know why but this really made me cry. It's a wonderful post I guess I'm just happy you have a wonderful connection with your momma. Hugs
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Seeing your name makes me smile. My mother's name is Barbara.
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@Babs0630 (487)
11 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly Awww,I'm glad my name brought a smile to your face love hugs
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@Happy2BeMe (74680)
• Canada
11 Jan 17
Truly heartbreaking. I am glad you got to spend some time with your mom and got that hug and kiss you so needed. I teared up reading your post. Moms are so special and there are moments when we need them. I miss my mom so much. What I wouldn't give for one more hug, one more kiss, one more I love you.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Now you are making me cry. I will be lost when she passes. Until that day, I will spend as much time with her as I can.
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@Happy2BeMe (74680)
• Canada
11 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly That is a great idea. Treasure every moment.
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@Juliaacv (29658)
• Canada
12 Jan 17
I worked as an Activity Director in a home for the aged for over a decade. I miss doing that. I love seniors, they have so much to share. You're lucky that your mother is still alive and able to know you, and I'm glad that you got the kiss and hug from her that you needed. I must have needed one from my Dad last night, he's been gone since 2009 and I had a dream with him in it. Those are my favorite dreams.
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• United States
12 Jan 17
Those are the best dreams. I often think of my grandmother and hear her the sound of her infectious laughter.
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@CRK109 (14465)
• United States
11 Jan 17
How I love this post. It's so obvious the love you two share. You are so blessed to have her around. And I'm thrilled that you've been able to rule out dementia! I had some time when my stress levels were extremely high and my memory was completely shot. And I had worried about that on top of everything else. But as the stress dissipated, my memory came back. I hope yours will, too!
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• United States
12 Jan 17
I do hope that I can alleviate this stress. It is really bogging me down. Hopefully once I get my stress levels down, things will be better.
11 Jan 17
I have no words to write how mom's are.. One hug from her changes everything from negative to positive.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Just getting her to smile when I walk in a room means so much to me.
@sishy7 (27651)
• Australia
11 Jan 17
How beautiful yet it's sad at the same time... At times like this, a hug and a kiss seem to be all that matters over any worldly possessions we could possibly have...
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• United States
11 Jan 17
Quiet moments spent just sitting next to the one you love.
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@IvySaysHi (4344)
• United States
11 Jan 17
Aww Im sorry
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• United States
11 Jan 17
I felt better after being with her. Even if it wasn't in the way we were together years ago, it was enough.
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@Susan2015 (20417)
• United States
11 Jan 17
So happy that you enjoyed your visit with her and got your hug.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
It was nice to see her smile. The hug was nice too.
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@GardenGerty (98203)
• United States
11 Jan 17
It is wonderful that even with her dementia she still could connect that well today, and give you what you needed. My mom has been gone since 2001. This made me miss her.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
I miss the Mom she was 5 years ago. She has changed so much over the years. But today, even without her knowing why I needed her, she was there.
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@Morleyhunt (19723)
• Canada
11 Jan 17
It is lovely to see the relationship you and your mother share. I agree. Sometimes we just need a hug.
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• United States
11 Jan 17
They are worth their weight in gold.
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