He wanted me to shut my mom out

@Jam4321 (589)
Jamaica
January 12, 2017 6:09pm CST
Good day Mylotters! So I met this guy some time ago and I must admit he was really nice. We talked over the phone a few times and also met up on a few occasions just to talk in person over lunch or just a simply talk in a park. We were going well and decided that we wanted to take it to another level and the full agreement was there. However, things took another turn when one Saturday morning he called me and asked if I could go to lunch with him. I had to decline because I had to accompany my mom to her doctor's visit for that day. He got so upset over the phone and at one point is exact words were "so isn't she old enough to go by herself? Are you really putting your mom over me?" I was so shocked because I was thinking how could this guy want me in a relationship but yet not want my mom to be a part of my life. He apparently hung up the phone on me and and sent a message stating as soon as I value him more than my mom, I can call him again. Best believe he didn't get that call at all! I can't believe he was rude enough to even say that. Since lately he has been calling my phone but oh please...he can go to hell for all I care! That stupid man and his selfish ego!
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@DianneN (57241)
• United States
14 Jan
Better to find out his true character early on than too late. He certainly is not what I consider a kind, thoughtful, caring, gentleman. He showed his true colors. I'd do the same as you. Goodbye and good riddance!
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
The thing is he showed so many good qualities at first and then he just snapped. I am glad I found out early indeed because he could have possibly done something crazy if it went any further.
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@DianneN (57241)
• United States
14 Jan
@Jam4321 He was charming at first to win you, but his true colors came out. Can you imagine him snapping like that over and over again in the future? You did the right thing. Trust me.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
@DianneN That's exactly what he did and he sure would have been abusive
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@Kandae11 (25515)
13 Jan
A lunch could be easily postponed - your mom's doctor's visit should take precedence.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
Of course and I did go to my mom's visit. If he didn't like it too bad for him.
@diosabella (4843)
13 Jan
Sounds like he's narcissist. Good for you. You don't need a guy like that.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
He is indeed and I sure have no space for him.
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14 Jan
@Jam4321 I salute you.
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@sunrisefan (16606)
• Philippines
13 Jan
You made the right decision of letting go of him. You'll find another man who'll love you and all that you love.Good thing it came up early while you were still not tied up with him.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
So glad it ended early indeed. It would only mean trouble if I continued.
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@sunrisefan (16606)
• Philippines
13 Jan
@jstory07 (56969)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Jan
Does'nt that man have a mother to. How rude of him.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
Really rude and yes his mom is still alive...can just imagine now how he treats her and the others
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• United States
13 Jan
Wow he sure is needy! I would never call that guy back. Not worthy to speak to you - good luck to him.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I felt so angry at him for even thinking much less saying something like that...he was definitely thrown to the curb...
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• United States
13 Jan
@Jam4321 Yep glad the relationship didnt start beyond, imagine what would happen? He is not worth being angry at. You deserve much better.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
@infatuatedbby So right about that...hope the next person he meets just be careful and get to know before they make it too serious.
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@melissa1024 (2356)
• Beckley, West Virginia
13 Jan
I would have done the same thing as you. Family comes first, especially your parents. A date for lunch can always happen when you are both free. Sounds like to me, he wants to be in control of everything.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
He really seemed to have been the controlling type. Glad it ended so early.
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• Beckley, West Virginia
13 Jan
@Jam4321 Yes, it's a good thing it did end in the early stages. Nobody needs to be with someone whom is going to control them and keep them from their family. Good thing you realized it before it was too late.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
@melissa1024 So true! I also wish any other lady he is talking to they can identify as well before it is too late.
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@Happy2BeMe (66584)
• Canada
13 Jan
You do not need somebody like that in your life. You did the right thing.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
You are so right...I'm glad he is out of the way.
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@Happy2BeMe (66584)
• Canada
13 Jan
@Jam4321 he will have a hard time finding a girlfriend with an attitude like that.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
@Happy2BeMe So true and the girl that finally decide to say yes must be careful
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@shaggin (25207)
• United States
14 Jan
I dated a guy who was like that. He would fly into a rage if I had to cancel going to see him because one of my kids got sick. I think this guy did you a blessing showing what he is like. Now you know he is not who you want to be with if he reacts like that.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
Guys like these are sickening...I am glad he showed early. My family is really important to me.
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@shaggin (25207)
• United States
15 Jan
@Jam4321 That is wonderful!
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13 Jan
That guy is really disgusting. He don't deserves you.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I know right...every time I get a glimpse of him or even hear about him...I get disgusted.
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15 Jan
@Jam4321 i understand.
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@yukimori (8542)
• United States
13 Jan
It's not unreasonable for a person in a committed relationship with you to expect you to put them first, not a parent. That said, to call and expect you to drop plans that were already in place just because they want to do something with you is out of line. To start getting verbally abusive because you decide to honor that commitment is ridiculous, and you're absolutely right to have nothing more to do with him.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
Was he wanted was too much and the way he responding was not respectful. I am glad it all unfolded so early before the relationship went any further.
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@yukimori (8542)
• United States
13 Jan
@Jam4321 No kidding. Like we say here, you dodged a bullet with that one.
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@allknowing (55106)
• India
14 Jan
Good you found out before there was a commitment.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
So true!
@JudyEv (96613)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Jan
I'm glad you didn't let yourself be bullied by him. What an awful person but a shame too that he turned out so nasty. Better to find out now though than later.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
That's true...I'm really glad I found out this early because he sure seemed to be an abusive one.
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@BelleStarr (31073)
• Portland, Connecticut
14 Jan
Better to find this out now than later!! Not worth wasting your time on.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
14 Jan
So true! I am glad it ended so early and also hope other females can learn his way early as well.
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@quantum2020 (8335)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
13 Jan
You did the right thing. Your Mom is as important as any personal relation
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
Mom is part of my world and if couldn't accept that...then away with him.
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@SAM774 (2010)
13 Jan
surely you don't need anybody like that. that one behavior shows how the guy is .
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
You are so right. I'm really glad it ended that quick or else if I didn't know he could have hurt me later on.
@hereandthere (23011)
• Philippines
13 Jan
it was promising, but it's good that you learned this about each other this early. it makes me wonder how he and his siblings treat their own parents. and how he envisions his own senior years. i wonder if he's expecting his wife to dedicate her life to him and only him. but what if her health fails first? would he be there 200% for her ?
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I can just imagine how for real...I hope if this is how he pledges to continue other ladies can know about him before they make some dreaded mistake.
@paigea (21013)
• Canada
13 Jan
Best to set him straight and move on it sounds like
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I am totally done with him...no way could i continue with a relationship like that.
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@katsmeow1213 (28820)
• United States
13 Jan
Sounds pretty clingy.. I think you dodged a bullet there.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I believe so too and really glad it went that way...obviously he was up to be a difficult one to deal with.
@cahaya1983 (8120)
• Malaysia
13 Jan
Bravo for doing the right thing! His behavior was simply immature, who knows what else he could say or do if the relationship had gone any further.
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@Jam4321 (589)
• Jamaica
13 Jan
I'm glad it ended that time...it might have gotten worse over time for real.
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