He wanted me to shut my mom out
By chev marsh
January 12, 2017 6:09pm CST
Good day Mylotters! So I met this guy some time ago and I must admit he was really nice. We talked over the phone a few times and also met up on a few occasions just to talk in person over lunch or just a simply talk in a park. We were going well and decided that we wanted to take it to another level and the full agreement was there. However, things took another turn when one Saturday morning he called me and asked if I could go to lunch with him. I had to decline because I had to accompany my mom to her doctor's visit for that day. He got so upset over the phone and at one point is exact words were "so isn't she old enough to go by herself? Are you really putting your mom over me?" I was so shocked because I was thinking how could this guy want me in a relationship but yet not want my mom to be a part of my life. He apparently hung up the phone on me and and sent a message stating as soon as I value him more than my mom, I can call him again. Best believe he didn't get that call at all! I can't believe he was rude enough to even say that. Since lately he has been calling my phone but oh please...he can go to hell for all I care! That stupid man and his selfish ego!
17 people like this
• United States
I dated a guy who was like that. He would fly into a rage if I had to cancel going to see him because one of my kids got sick. I think this guy did you a blessing showing what he is like. Now you know he is not who you want to be with if he reacts like that.
• United States
It's not unreasonable for a person in a committed relationship with you to expect you to put them first, not a parent. That said, to call and expect you to drop plans that were already in place just because they want to do something with you is out of line. To start getting verbally abusive because you decide to honor that commitment is ridiculous, and you're absolutely right to have nothing more to do with him.
it was promising, but it's good that you learned this about each other this early. it makes me wonder how he and his siblings treat their own parents. and how he envisions his own senior years. i wonder if he's expecting his wife to dedicate her life to him and only him. but what if her health fails first? would he be there 200% for her ?