feelings are complicated

@sissy15 (5012)
United States
January 15, 2017 7:47am CST
Relationships are complicated. That's something I've come to realize over the years. You can be so angry with someone, but you don't stop loving them. I get upset with my boyfriend a lot, sometimes to the point I'd like to smack the stupidity out of him, of course I don't, but it's definitely an urge I get. Despite that I don't want anything bad happening to him. I can be so angry and want him to just leave me alone, but at the same time I still love him and his well being trumps my feelings of anger. It's so complicated how it all works, how you can want to physically smack someone, but not want any real harm to come to them. Anger is such a powerful emotion, but so is love. There's this meme going around about being upset but still caring, and an old man and woman are sitting separated on a bench with the old man still holding an umbrella over his wife so she doesn't get wet, and I keep thinking about how accurate that is. When you truly love someone, anger doesn't get in the way of your ability to care. It definitely makes things more complicated, but you don't stop caring. If you do, then that may be saying something. You can yell and scream at someone, but drop everything the instant they are hurt. Of course that doesn't make everything go away, but it gets put on the back burner until you know they're OK, you don't get to just forget everything, because if nothing gets solved it will just be an issue later. It has just always amused me the way feelings work. The statement love trumps hate, that's true. Love trumps anger, and it trumps hate, there's a difference between anger and hate, but usually hate has a lot to do with anger. We can be very hateful when we're angry and say things we don't mean. I've always been one to try and watch what I say, because once you say something they can't be unsaid. Anger is a horrible emotion, but I'm pretty sure we've all felt it at some point, and it's a normal emotion, we all have at last one thing that bothers us to the point of anger. Anger can be an extremely powerful emotion, but love is even more powerful. When you truly love someone you won't let a feeling like anger get in the way of that. It's just sad that sometimes the only thing to make you realize how much you love someone is something bad happening.
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• India
15 Jan
Love is blind. Love is always a complicated affair. I mean but it's equally important to respect each others feelings though.
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@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
15 Jan
It is, and you can respect another's feelings, and still have your own feelings. Anger is natural within relationships, because no one is going to completely agree on everything, and it's important to realize that despite your differences of feelings and opinions that you still love them, and that doesn't change no matter how angry you are, and if it does you probably didn't love them in the first place.
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• India
15 Jan
@sissy15 True to the core
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@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
15 Jan
@concept001 Thank you.
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15 Jan
Feelings are always very complicated.
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15 Jan
@HAPPSINGH It's something that we can't control or fight back.
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@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
15 Jan
@HAPPSINGH Well...yeah lol.
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15 Jan
@sissy15 Do you can control yours?
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@PurnaSharma (1771)
• India
16 Jan
O that is all love love love
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
Yeah
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• India
16 Jan
@sissy15 ...keep faith in eachother
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
@PurnaSharma You pretty much have to or everything else breaks away.
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@SAM774 (1992)
16 Jan
so accurate. well written. But you know what I feel. sometimes this anger makes us realize how actually you care for that one person. and i believe this anger emotion is necessary that balance the relationship anyway. If you love somebody no matter how angry you are, you end up loving that person anyway because you love him and that's a true love.And that conflict between anger and love make the relationship more and more stronger. I love my boyfriend, I get angry bt i know anyway i am going to love that idiot at the end of the day no matter what ..
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
lol, and that's how it should be. You will always get angry whether you love the person or not, but it's important that you can put your anger on the back burner when it's necessary, because sometimes a person's pain matters more than your anger. It's good that you can express your feelings in a relationship, if you never fight in a relationship that's not healthy, of course it's not healthy if all you do is fight either. There's a line. Love is rarely calm and rational, and it really shouldn't be. There's a point where it gets calmer and easier, but it's never entirely calm or easy, it just gets a little easier until it gets harder and then it usually gets easier again, at least real love I think. My boyfriend and I argue a lot, we've been through a lot, but ultimately we keep working on it and things start to get better. I can be so angry with him, but when he's in pain emotional or other wise I can put my anger on hold until I know he's OK. Just because you're angry doesn't mean you stop caring.
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• New Delhi, India
16 Jan
@sissy15 Very well said
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
@hangover123456 thank you
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• New Delhi, India
15 Jan
Its obvious and happens with every normal human being
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
15 Jan
It does.
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• New Delhi, India
15 Jan
@sissy15 take a chill and try to control anger the next time
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
15 Jan
@amitkokiladitya I do control my anger...I am actually pretty calm most of the time even in anger, or as calm as a person can be in anger. I'm at the very least rational.
@celticeagle (112838)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jan
I think that getting exasperated with your significant other is normal. Making up is nice. And, good communication is so important in these cases. Being able to express your anger is very helpful.
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
I agree, it's not a matter of it being a bad thing, but it's healthy that you can feel angry but still stop everything when you need to, because you know what matters the most. You should be able to express everything with your significant other, and if you can't that should be something you work on.
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@celticeagle (112838)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Jan
@sissy15 .....Communication helps to keep the anger down. It's when you let things fester and you don't communicate that it gets bad.
@vindhya93 (100)
16 Jan
You really rocked.Nicely put in words.Love is an unconditional desire for someone to be happy..
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
Thank you, and yeah it is, or that's definitely what I believe to be true anyway.
• New Delhi, India
16 Jan
@sissy15 every word that you have written, is true and has happened with me more than one time, but in the end, i think we all like this, cant do much.
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
Thanks, and it's not a bad thing that you can love and be angry, because life isn't perfect, it's complicated and love should trump anger.
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• Satna, India
16 Jan
Love is Awesome feeling
@sissy15 (5012)
• United States
16 Jan
It is.
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