Being Supportive depends on the Situation

@Jam4321 (581)
Jamaica
January 15, 2017 6:57pm CST
Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well. I have a friend who has just gotten a little upset with me because I am not too supportive of a certain thing she's doing. So she met this guy some time ago and based on how he responds and treats her, he really loves her. But she is more of wanting to take what the guy has and not really wanting a relationship with him. She doesn't work but he does and in a wonderful job too and he is always giving her everything she needs. I told her straight up that if she doesn't want to be with the guy she should not take what he has and stop making him feel like she really care. She told me I am just jealous of her but I just want to protect her because since recently I have seen a lot of guys attacking and also killing females who do this to them. Am I wrong for not supporting her?
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@Kandae11 (35320)
16 Jan 17
She should be careful, people can get very upset when they find out they are being used.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
So true that is what I am trying to tell her but she's not listening.
@just4him (110331)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Jan 17
No. She needs to open her eyes and listen to you.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
17 Jan 17
I just wish she would but she's not listening.
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@vindhya93 (100)
16 Jan 17
The situation is sort of filmy... Let her be the way. You already done your job by warning her.Its her choice to chose her life.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
Well that's true just hope she's careful.
@diosabella (4822)
16 Jan 17
Your just being a good friend. Not tolerating her is a good thing. You are a real friend. She doesn't realize it right now. She thinks your jealous but she doesn't see the whole picture and the consequences that might happen if the guy finds out he is being used only. What if the guy turned to be a psycho? Hope not!
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
I really hope he doesn't and she really needs to think on the long term consequences if anything should happen.
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@Freelanzer (8308)
• Canada
16 Jan 17
You are doing the right thing and you can only do so much. Ultimately she has to do the right thing but it doesn't seem like she is willing to.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
I tried just hope she will understand what I'm saying.
@cahaya1983 (10060)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 17
What she's doing is obviously wrong and selfish. You did the right thing by giving her that advice. I hope she comes back to her senses and realizes that.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
So true and I hope she really does
@skydream (1146)
• Agate, Colorado
16 Jan 17
You are not wrong for not supporting her. Using someone for what they can give you is wrong especially if you are leading them on and don't really want them in the same way. Being a good friend isn't about 100% support no matter what, a true good friend tells you what you need to hear good or bad especially when you're just watching out for their well being
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
So true I am just trying to show her the right thing because so many things can go wrong in situations like these. It is really not right to take advantage of people.
@Lasckos2 (164)
• United States
16 Jan 17
The only thing you can do is offer your advice but she doesn't have to follow it. She will listen when her mind is open to it. I just hope she is careful.
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@Jam4321 (581)
• Jamaica
16 Jan 17
Well I'm trying but she's really not listening...hope she really remains in top care and be wise.
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