Oh God I wanna get rid of Him.... Please help me....

@amandajay (18071)
North Shore, New Zealand
January 18, 2017 4:20am CST
He is my Father in law.. He is coming day after tomorrow to stay with us... I just hate him. I dont like him here in my place. When ever he comes , peace of our minds will blow away by him... He always tell slanders to my husband about me and make him angry and make him talk agaist me. Yes... My husband, for him there is noone other than his father. He believes what ever he says... When he is here, my husband doesnt even care about me... It doesnt matter , he doesnt care me, but scolding me in vain... I cant bear it... This person doesnt let us live in pease. He wants to ruin our lives. No use of explaining to my husband about his behavior... I wanna get rid of him... I wish god will help me and take that person to him asap. You will think Im rude.. But Im fedup and I cant bear anymore... Enough is enough...
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19 responses
@Happy2BeMe (75441)
• Canada
18 Jan 17
I am so sorry that you have to deal with that. I understand that your husband loves his father but he should not allow his father to disrespect you. He should stand up for you. How long is he staying for?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
yes,,, he never stand by my side when his parents are there... even they tell truth or dare,,,he thinks they are always right and im always wrong....
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@Happy2BeMe (75441)
• Canada
18 Jan 17
@amandajay That is so sad. I feel for you. I don't know how you do it. I would be so upset with him.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@Happy2BeMe I do the best I can but I'm at the end of my wits.
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@SIMPLYD (86343)
• Philippines
19 Jan 17
Maybe you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband about your father-in-law about his behavior , so he will subdue his father from making up bad things about you . If he won't believe you, in my opinion, while your father-in-law is there, you go to your parents house and take the children with you .
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Jan 17
Yeah I was also thinking to do that... But my mother stay bit far from our place so its hard to come to the school from there.. Also he is gonna stay with us from tomorrow and then I will have to stay in my mums place for ever...lol
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@SIMPLYD (86343)
• Philippines
20 Jan 17
@amandajay Yes, you better do that if ever your father-in-law stays there forever.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@SIMPLYD haha... Yes thats better... Or else I'll ask my mother to come and stay with us, then he may not come..hahah
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@DianneN (90997)
• United States
18 Jan 17
I am terribly sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure your hubby loves his father, but he should never allow his father to be so rotten and disrespectful to you! You are his wife and he loves you. Keep that in mind when FIL arrives. I would speak to my husband about that. Will he stay long?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
my husband wants him to stay with us hereafter.... Im gonna live n a hell from day after tomorrow. he never understands... at least i get a little relief by writing my problem here because noone in my place to listen to me... ....thanks for your concern...
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@DianneN (90997)
• United States
18 Jan 17
@amandajay It doesn't sound like a good situation to me. Just saying.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@DianneN it's not I just wish there was someway of making it ALL GO AWAY & leave us ALONE.
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@AutumnSnow (4582)
18 Jan 17
Sorry to hear about this hopefully it will go quickly.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
I hope so,,, but if he stays with us hereafter,,,what will I do???
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19 Jan 17
@amandajay Im not sure what to tell but I do understand. I wish you the best.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@AutumnSnow thanks dear.. I understand..
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@PurnaSharma (2175)
• India
19 Jan 17
Show him very obedient and cultured daughter in law.Hope you problem will be resolved.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Jan 17
You think I dont act like that? Yea I do... But still he doesnt like me
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@sans224 (1832)
19 Jan 17
feeling sorry for you. couldnt find a solution. how long he will be there with you?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
He is gonna stay with us hereafter. Uff im gonna live in a hell
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18 Jan 17
it is one of the toughest relationships in this world;
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Yes.. Indeed... I cant bear this anymore.. Oneday he will make us apart for sure if he lives for another 2-3 years.. Thats for sure
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
@HAPPSINGH can you take the contract? Lol
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
@HAPPSINGH to get rid of him...hahahaha
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• United States
18 Jan 17
I'm sorry to hear this How long is he staying and what is the reason for his visit?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
He gonna stay with us hereafter as my husband said... No.reason...they all wanna bother me and take away the peace of my mind...
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• United States
19 Jan 17
@amandajay no reason?? for how long!?
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• United States
19 Jan 17
@amandajay what? Wouldn't he want to stay with his wife??
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• New Delhi, India
18 Jan 17
I'm so sorry for you..but at present I simply cannot figure out what to say.. Just stay calm and as they say let the water flow. God will help you for sure. I really wish I could do something for you.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Thanks kokil... Im really worried... I dont know how to face this problem. I got a headache once I got to know that he is coming...
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• New Delhi, India
18 Jan 17
@amandajay I can understand.. But I m feeling so sorry that i cannot help you
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
@amitkokiladitya yeah kokil,, thanks for concern,,, at least you are here to listen,,,,
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@just4him (131899)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Jan 17
I quite understand. My late father-in-law didn't like me either. Now he and my X are passed from earth to their eternal abode.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@just4him this isn't who you think it is this is sugartoes ? yeah I am on her acct doing her replies so bear with me here K?
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@just4him (131899)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
19 Jan 17
@amandajay How can you be on someone else's account?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@just4him me? Nope.. Someone using my account
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@divssri (977)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 17
I can understand how bad you feel as you say about him he is really very person, I never understandwhat benefit people get to tease other.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
21 Jan 17
Yes.. Thata what Im also wondering.. He should be happy to see his son happy... But this person dont like to see us happy... Shame... I wish I could get rid of him soon
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@divssri (977)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jan 17
@amandajay That person also very clever he easily make your husband against you.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
@divssri yeah thats true.. Very cunning
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• Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic
18 Jan 17
I wouldnt blame your father inlaw, he seems ignorant bur your husband is to blame, he should stand up for you and defend, cherish, and love his wife. I probably wont get along with either of them for being soo closed minded and putting you down for no reason, you deserve better
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@BACONSTRIPSXXX thank you that means a lot to me
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• Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic
19 Jan 17
@amandajay anytime, just keep your head up and try and stay positive
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Jan 17
@BACONSTRIPSXXX yeah i will...thanks
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18 Jan 17
Nevermind...it happens in most of the families...theres someone or the other...even my mom hates my dads side relatives...
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Haha... Yes.. Its normal but it will be ok if the husband is in wifes side... In my case he only believe his relatives
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18 Jan 17
@amandajay nevermind...that happens...and it will pass...good luck...hehe...take care of all though...
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
@immilind113 yeah i hope so... will see
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• United States
22 Jan 17
I am sorry you have to deal with this every time your father in law visits. It seems as if he is not a very nice man at all. Is there no way for you to be gone for most of his visit?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
Actually he is gonna stay with us..its not just a few days matter.. Thats why.... I just hate him.
@SAM774 (4188)
22 Jan 17
feeling sorry for you .... how long he is going to be here????
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@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
20 Jan 17
I never liked my in-laws either, but at least my husband listened to me when I complained about them. Hope you can find a solution to your problem.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
21 Jan 17
He never listen...thats the problem.... I hope he will understand one day
@shaynas (5527)
• India
18 Jan 17
I can understand what you feeling. Hope he goes back soon. Just be patient and calm, the day will pass.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
19 Jan 17
@shaynas thank you love
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@allknowing (72672)
• India
18 Jan 17
Can you not seek counsel and expose the issue?
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
haha,, thats so funny.. once I told my husband about this and ended up with a fight again,,,, according to him, his father is always right and he is the best person on the world, and also he never make mistakes,,,,,lol.... so finally Im the bad guy here....
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@TRBRocks420 (85597)
• Banks, Oregon
18 Jan 17
Sorry to hear this I hope he doesn't stay long or cause any problems.
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@amandajay (18071)
• North Shore, New Zealand
18 Jan 17
Even when he is not here..he makes problems... So how can I think he will not do anything after coming here..
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