Unexpected Pregnancy - Abortion is the only solution???

@amandajay (18072)
North Shore, New Zealand
January 22, 2017 5:43am CST
Ayodya called me last night. At that time I was on the bed as I was injured. She is my best friend. She already has 3 kids and the little one is still 6 months old. She called me to tell that she is pregnant again. But it was an unexpected pregnancy. They have used some proctections, but somehow this has happend.. She is now 4 weeks pregnant and they are planning for a medical abortion. Since abortion is illegal in my country, they have to find some illegal place to get the pills. Somehow thay have find misoprostol tablets from a pharmacy. But now she is afraid to take it. Asking me for an advice... I dont know what to say... Im confuced...
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@mohdovi (1091)
22 Jan 17
Abortion is same like killing, very bad to kill before born and its very risky without doctor guidance ,Ask not to do this and i hope u guide her better.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
Yes.. Even its illegal here.. But in her situation I cant force her for anything... To do or not to do... I asked her to take the decision...
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@mohdovi (1091)
22 Jan 17
@amandajay Ask her to consult doctor before taking tablets or taking any step because her life is also very important because she had three kids.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
@mohdovi you are correct. That should be done.. But abortion is illegal here.. Doctors will.not advice on this
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@inertia4 (27665)
• United States
22 Jan 17
There are options. At least here in america right now. But abortion is not the only thing she can do. She can give the child up for adoption or just have the baby and get her tubes tied. This is a hard one to advise anyone on. After all, it all comes down to the woman's choice.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yeah. Lets leave it for them... Here adoption is also not that easy
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@inertia4 (27665)
• United States
24 Jan 17
@amandajay It's not easy anywhere. But at least there are options.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
25 Jan 17
@inertia4 yeah i agreed... They have done the abortion...
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@shaynas (5529)
• India
22 Jan 17
How are you injured? I know abortion is not good, but i feel its better than giving your kids a miserable life. If you can't keep your babies properly, no use having many of them. You should stand by your friend in whatever she decide. But you must suggest her to be very careful not to get pregnant if she doesn't want a kid anymore.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
Yes i told her to take a permanant solution... Ill be with her , no doubt.. Im still not ok.. Can walk, but doctor asked me to rest. But how can I? Even that old man is here, he needs me to do everything...
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@shaynas (5529)
• India
22 Jan 17
@amandajay But you are not well, he can see that. Tell your husband you can't and make him do his own tasks.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@HAPPSINGH you too
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@reskyyandi (3690)
• Indonesia
22 Jan 17
Abortion not a solution. It just makes you feel bad
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yes... Its not a good decision.. But if they dont have any other option, what to do
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• Indonesia
24 Jan 17
@amandajay just take their responsibilty
@msiduri (5750)
• United States
22 Jan 17
I'm like you. I wouldn't know what to say, other than to offer my support to my friend regardless of what she chooses . Three children and the youngest one still an infant—that's got to be tough financially as well as emotionally. On the other hand...
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
Yeah even I told her to take any decision and I'll be with her for anything
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@msiduri (5750)
• United States
22 Jan 17
@amandajay I think if she were my friend, that is precisely what I would say. I couldn't help her beyond that. No decision will be a happy one. I just hope whatever she decides, it's one she and her husband can accept.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
22 Jan 17
@msiduri yeah tbey will get the best decision... I hope everything will be ok with them
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@avi256 (4372)
• Pune, India
23 Jan 17
No matter what others can suggest, it is too personal decision and I think she needs to take the decision without any influence, and whatever decision needs to be taken, she must not feel guilty.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yes you are correct... She has to take the decision... Btw she has decided to abort
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@avi256 (4372)
• Pune, India
23 Jan 17
@amandajay Am sure this must have been a hard decision on her part, its important that she is not made feel guilty and she does not stay with this emotional baggage for too long. Need to be careful next time.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@avi256 yeah they have to be careful... I told her...
• United States
23 Jan 17
Hard to give advice... Does her husband / significant other know?
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yes. He knows... Yeah even for me, it was difficult to answer
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• United States
23 Jan 17
@amandajay Yeah it is very hard.. I am sure a child is a blessing but is it financially?
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby yeah.. Its hard to have 4 kids. What happend this new pregnacy gives twines? Lol
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@syeow1 (4909)
• India
22 Jan 17
Oh no .How did you get injured.how are you feeling now.i did not think abortion is solution.you are not doctor so that I did not think you should go to provide any suggestion regarding to health.yeh if you want to suggest her something tell her control your feelings next time.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
I slipped in the bathroom. Yeah better to control or else get a permenant birth control system..
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@syeow1 (4909)
• India
23 Jan 17
@amandajay yeh .I think his husband is a soldier who believe on do or die.his husband did promise I did not give up till last breath..
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@syeow1 haha lol.. Whats up?
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@sans224 (1833)
22 Jan 17
i prefer you dont support abortion. not only that it is illegal in your country, it is unethical too. A 4month pregnancy means there is a new life, abortion is pure killing . just think of thousands of couples not lucky enough to get a single child.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Not 4 months.. Its 4 weeks. Yes unethical too.. I know that... I didnt encourage her. But i left the decision on her..
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@sans224 (1833)
23 Jan 17
@amandajay Ok, You are right. Its upto her . may be the kid will be someone bringing fortune to her!!!
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
@sans224 yeah may be.. How was the day?
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
22 Jan 17
Is abortion illegal in Sri Lanka.? In India it is allowed upto 20 weeks pregnancy. If the parents are not confident of nurturing the would be child it is better to get aborted.
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
22 Jan 17
Yes. I made a search and got this page which says that it is illegal to abort in Sri Lanka.
Abortion is only permitted to save the life of the woman.
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
22 Jan 17
@ravisivan To obtain one these medicines, one could for example say that your grandmother has rheumatoid arthritis so severely that she is visiting and she forgot her medicines and is in pain, and that you do not have money to pay for a doctor to get the prescriptions for the tablets or that the doctor is on a holliday. If there are problems to get the medicine in one pharmacy, try another pharmacy, or send a male friend or partner, as they might have less problems obtaining them. Or, perhaps you can find a doctor willing to prescribe them. Usually one has more luck at the smaller pharmacies that do not belong to a large chain. Misoprostol can also be ordered over the internet (see list internet pharmacies) THIS INFO I got from the site suggesting ways to get the medicine.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yes it is illegal
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
23 Jan 17
I don't think it should be your burden to give an opinion on such a serious subject. I wouldn't consider that option, your friend should probably be more careful with protection.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
24 Jan 17
Yes they should. They have decided to abort
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
24 Jan 17
@amandajay I wish all the best for both of them. Your friend will probably need your full support right now. I hope everything goes well with the process.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
20 Feb 17
That's a tough choice, but only she can make the choice as she has to live with it. I'd be very worried about doing it that way since it's not safe, and as far as I'm aware, pills are not enough. She'd need a D&C after to ensure she doesn't get an infection or some other type of illness/injury in her uterus. I hope it all works out for the best!
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
20 Feb 17
Oh thanks for the comment. She is done with the abortion and safe too
• Philippines
26 Jan 17
Hey it is not hard to give advise. Abortion is a sin that God wrath will surely pour out to that house. Come on. They can get support if they only know how to pray and trust God with everything they are in. Let the baby live. I hope this is not late. I never saw one woman who overcomes the guilt and had a proper mourn to the child that they killed themselves.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
27 Jan 17
Yes you are right. But they have decided to abort and they have done it already...
@tech40 (9260)
• Philippines
23 Jan 17
Abortion isn't good.. specially we're killing someone inside of us..
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Ywah i know its a kind of murder.. But decision up.to them
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@sishy7 (27647)
• Australia
22 Jan 17
I would never even consider it... but that's just me...
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
Yeah i can understand..
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@DianneN (78056)
• United States
22 Jan 17
That's for her and her husband to decide.
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@amandajay (18072)
• North Shore, New Zealand
23 Jan 17
So true. I can only stand by her side
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@divssri (987)
• Bangalore, India
23 Jan 17
Yes it happens sometimes precaution not works and it's a really bad situation.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 17
There is no such abortion. If God wants that baby to be alive it will live and it will cost terrible consequence in their lives. They might give the child deformity... And the baby will feel rejected once they got born and it might brought him to anger and despised. Every child is a blessing. They should not abort the child for God will surely avenge for every unborn child. Those parents will never experience the abundance blessing of that child that they are planning to abort... Blessing that only that child can give them and none of those who they let live.