Butting Heads

@MissNikki (2459)
Canada
January 22, 2017 1:40pm CST
I'm having a hard day today. I had a fight with my mother, and I hate fighting with her. It just feels absolutely horrible and is very depressing. I'm almost 30 years old, this shouldn't be happening anymore. I'm feeling very sad, and wish everything was different... Why can't we just have a simple, happy relationship? Do you ever have issues with your mother? (Photo free for public use from Pixabay.com)
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@Daljinder (19767)
• India
30 Jan
I am 29 years old. Yep I fight Mom too. It's inevitable. It happens. We go back to normal as usual. But yeah Mom has this annoying habit of having the last word whether she is in the wrong or not. It's better to let her have that and end the fight or go on fighting. Since I am not a confrontational person. I just have my say and I am done....pretty much.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
31 Jan
Yep, it's happening right now again ... ugh.
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@Daljinder (19767)
• India
1 Feb
@MissNikki Dayum!
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
1 Feb
@Daljinder Yup. We have an interesting relationship. LoL
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@GardenGerty (90223)
• Marion, Kansas
22 Jan
No, my mother is deceased. I try not to have this issue with my kids who are adults. I think I succeed.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
Sounds like you're doing a good job.
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@princemaxp (2064)
• Bhubaneshwar, India
23 Jan
yes...sometimes....I also hate fighting....because then I have to cook and do all the household work myself....
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
That's the only reason you don't like to fight? Because then you have to do house work?
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• Bhubaneshwar, India
28 Jan
@MissNikki well not entirely....I also love my mom..
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
@princemaxp LoL well that's good
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@dodo19 (27730)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Jan
Trust me, I still bud heads with my mom as well. I'm almost 29 years old and we don't always agree. Although it's been a while since we've had an actual fight, but I still understand how you feel. My mom and I disagree on quite a few things, to say the least. Hopefully you and your mom can talk this through.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
We have talked it through but it still ended up with me taking all the blame, as usual.
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@dodo19 (27730)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
28 Jan
@MissNikki I hate it when that happens. It will happen between my parents and I. I'll usually take all the blame. It's frustrating.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
30 Jan
@dodo19 Seems to be a common thing ...
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@VivaLaDani13 (16117)
• Perth, Australia
7 Feb
@MissNikki I am so sorry that you had a hard time due to the argument with your mum. I really don't think it matters what age you are or even how much you can love someone. Arguments still can happen between the best of friends, or with the closest family member. I hope things have been resolved now.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
7 Feb
Yes, we are okay now thankfully
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• Perth, Australia
7 Feb
@MissNikki That's good. I'm glad things have worked out.
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@moffittjc (34702)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Jan
I pretty much cut my mother out of my life about 15 years ago. I'll still communicate with her sometimes, but it is superficial stuff like "how's the weather?" and stuff like that. She's made some life choices that I don't agree with or support, and it's slowly killing her, but I told her she could choose between family and her destructive lifestyle. She chose the lifestyle. I still love her, but I have cut her loose to deal with her own demons.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
I'm so sorry to hear about that Jeff, but I do understand why you would do that. I have realized I need to keep some type of space between me and my mom. I have to try harder to realize when she and I have been spending too much time together ...
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@Happy2BeMe (66863)
• Canada
22 Jan
Sorry to hear aboit you and your mom. My mom has passed away but I never argued with her. My children and I get along. We don't fight with each other.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
Well, I'm glad you don't have that problem.
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@Happy2BeMe (66863)
• Canada
29 Jan
@MissNikki me too
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22 Jan
Yeah, If I need... Yes. I also talk to my father.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
I don't have a relationship with my so called 'father'.
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28 Jan
@MissNikki Oh, ok.
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@epiffanie (8342)
• Australia
24 Jan
I had some fights with my mother when I was growing up .. and even as an adult, I had some words I wish I didn't say to her .. She's gone now and I wish I had a better relationship with her .. I wish she left me with beautiful memories to cherish now that she's gone ....
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
I'm sorry about your mother ... I'm sure she loved you and knew that you loved her very much.
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@rina110383 (21957)
23 Jan
Yep, we have issues from time to time. Good thing I live far from my parents. Less contact, less issues.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
28 Jan
Yes, space between us seems to help.
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• Chennai, India
1 Feb
I love my mom a lot.. and we fight as well..! We don't take this to next level .. we fight .. we stare .. we scold and we hug and everything fades then
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
1 Feb
Sounds like everyone fights with their mom, LoL
@PatZAnthony (11730)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
31 Jan
People with different opinions will often argue. It just happens.
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@MissNikki (2459)
• Canada
31 Jan
That's true.
@lokisdad (4307)
• United States
2 Mar
I think everyone goes through that with their parents at one point in time or another. Even us men when we decide to see someone and our mother doesn't like them it makes things harder because you want to keep the peace and sometimes they go at it and you are stuck in the middle trying not to take sides between your mother and your significant other/spouse. I was fairly lucky my mother and spouse got along for the most part and well my wife isn't afraid to speak up for herself. She tries to bite her tongue and isn't sensitive so she can take a lot but when she has had enough she will put my mother in her place.
• Bucharest, Romania
27 Feb
I had my fights with my mother too. The best thing is to move out if you can
@just4him (89176)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jan
I used to. Not anymore. She passed in 2015.