Forgiving the Unforgivable

Philippines
January 31, 2017 7:24am CST
have heard a friend talking about forgiveness. She said that we should not let the sun go down without forgiving people we have wronged and in the process you are also forgiving yourself. Looking at her saying that, I sensed the sincerity in her words but sad to say, she had never talked to another friend nor seen her eye to eye after an exchange of words which hurt them both! I was caught in the middle! I was about to say something but chose not to express it anymore for it might not help. I was only there for her, listening intently...waiting for her to realize that this tension of opposites is working on her. And she is the only one who can figure out how to deal with this because she needs time....she must work it out inside of her before she can detach herself from the cuffs she put on herself. Forgiveness, I believe also needs time. You just cannot say you had forgiven someone then never forget what pain she had caused you...and from time to time every time you see the object of that kind of affection, it takes you back in time when you know exactly you have not healed yet inside. Guilt takes in which only worsen the situation. Forgiveness cannot be achieve.
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@Salonis (177)
• Amritsar, India
31 Jan 17
I forgive everyone every time but always keep in mind what he did to me.. then i start maintaining a distance from the person .. because i don't want to give another chance to anyone to hurt me again
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• Philippines
1 Feb 17
It seems like I am reading my own thoughts here. Thanks.
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@Salonis (177)
• Amritsar, India
1 Feb 17
@cherigucchi it means i am on right track..thanks
@Kandae11 (35267)
31 Jan 17
One can forgive, but it is hard to forget.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 17
I am a perfect example of that.
@shaggin (36341)
• United States
31 Jan 17
It is rare that I am able to forgive someone right away it does take time and sometimes it takes a long time! Sometimes it can never be resolved if the other person cannot see what they did wrong and apologize sincerely.
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• Philippines
31 Jan 17
That is true. It does take time and sometimes the process is so long and agonizing.
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@LadyDuck (147877)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 17
Most of those who say those great things are the first not to follow their own rules.
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@pureme (1475)
31 Jan 17
funny, but you are right.
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@LadyDuck (147877)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 17
@pureme It happens all the time.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 17
That is right! You made me smile saying this.
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@prinzcy (5063)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 17
It is easier to say than done it. Forgiving takes a lots a accepting whatever been done. It is hard to do that when you still hurt by it. If that person earnestly apologize, I can say I try to forgive. But I probably will still remember it afterward.