Am I A Private Person
January 31, 2017 4:47pm CST
Am I A Private Person? I am too much of a loner to be really private. I have few if any dark secrets. For many years I have openly, candidly discussed my employment issues, my alienation from my family and my strange cult experiences in the 1980’s. If anything my often direct open declarations of my thoughts and feelings can hit people like high-voltage. Many people end up feeling wary if not fraid of me, especially people in positions of authority. I do tend towards very long intense periods of introspection which can leave me detached from the people around me and I can switch in an instant to wild displays of extrovert public activity, and performance bordering on exhibitionism. My daily online diary pages reveal me very candidly to the public and it isn’t that I hold much back, it is just that with me what you see is what you get. I am selective in that I skirt over the real trivia of what colour socks I have on or what I ate for breakfast, unless they are out of the ordinary for me. I like solitude rather than privacy in that I cherish peace, quiet and minimum distraction from the outside World. I prefer a near monastic reclusive hermitude existence to the pandemonium of crowds. I can be alone without feeling lonely for long periods of time. I would cope well in solitary confinement if thus imprisoned. I can put my thoughts and feelings in order if left to my own devises, but I welcome and love the company of my friends too. There are no ‘Private-keep out’ signs around my personality or psyche. Arthur Chappell
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• United States
1 Feb 17
You have a lot of the same qualities I have. But looking at the bigger picture, we are older now. So we do see things way different than years ago. I too like solitude. But there are times I need human interaction. That keeps us fresh and alive. I don't mind being alone for long periods of time either. I think it makes me feel good. But I do go through some bored times as well. And that could be trouble for people like us.
7 Feb 17
I have never been an open book but looking back I think I probably am. Altahough there are things I would not share on line. For privacy and security...Solitude is important to me too. If we are comfortable in our skin life is good.
• Orillia, Ontario
1 Feb 17
I can relate to you well my friend! I never knew you had "strange cult experiences in the 1980's" and also sorry to hear that you have been alienated from your family, that is never a good feeling, I can't relate on that completely. Anyways, thanks for sharing!
1 Feb 17
I am a loner and I am very private. It's not that I don't necessarily want to tell people things, but that I just have no need to. I am quiet, shy, introverted, anxious, nervous, generally content, fairly happy, paranoid, manic, neurotic and physically exhausted by human interaction. We are all complex characters. You sound positively normal to me!
31 Jan 17
We are quite similar, I would say you're still an introvert. It sounds like you love interactions but you can easily get tired and you need to recover by being alone for some time. And that's the same for me, solitude heals me somehow. But then we're humans, we need people in our lives. I also tend to keep my feelings to myself and not reveal much, I'm honest and I'd rather be quiet than telling a lie. So I'm more introvert than you.
You are Arthur is who you are and you revealed it here and if people cannot accept that is who you are then they will not have anything to do with you. I am cool with what you said. You are entitled to be who you are. Thank you Arthur for sharing that with us and revealing to us who you are.