I am an addictive personality--are you?

Drinking in uniform 61 years ago
Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
February 6, 2017 12:11pm CST
(This is long but then so is an addiction!) This past January 21, it will have been 36 years since any alcohol has passed my lips and/or entered my body. I have not eaten any food cooked in alcohol, touched any over the counter medicines containing alcohol, etc. I have know since I was a child that I was an addictive personality and it wasn't even in our lexicon back then. My addictions ran from cutting classes to go to movies with double features, skipping school to see shows on Broadway, food (if you read my blogs you know THAT story!), cigarettes (after many years of smoking 3 packs a day I stopped cold turkey July 8 2008 ), sex (when I posted how many different sex partners I have had in my lifetime someone remarked that I made Wilt Chamberlain look like an amateur)---name it and I have been addicted to it--moderation didn't exist in my life. At 16 I took diet pills--one a day for 7 days--I lost 6 pounds--so I decided that if I increased the dosage the following week I could lose 12 pounds--long story short--I wound up in the hospital a month later on a maniac high. I recall having my first drink when I was 14 and my dad ordered me a frozen daiquiri at the Sun Luck East restaurant in NY--of course I didn't know there wasn't any rum in it but I still remember to this day how 'adult' I felt, how special--oh I had a sip of wine at family gatherings and such but here I was--'all grown up' having a cocktail before dinner! My drinking basically began when I started going to gay bars that same year--I still remember the laughter of the bartender and a few patrons when I ordered that frozen daiquiri in that 'butch' bar off Sixth Avenue--I, also, learned around that time that my body couldn't handle beer without physical consequences. I drank my way through my teens--mostly vodka--when I was in the Marines I discovered Moscow Mules (vodka and ginger beer in a copper mug)--when I moved to Miami Beach I showed off by making every drink a different one. I like many others clinged to the ideas that I didn't miss work because of alcohol, that I didn't 'need' a drink in the morning when I woke up, that I could go without a drink for days, never appeared drunk to anyone (I was a quiet drunk) and so on. I could go through 55 years of 'incidents --I could talk about being mugged when I was drunk--about blackouts--driving when drunk and causing accidents that I wasn't aware of at the time--sticking friends with big restaurant bills because when I got drunk I would disappear--going to a foreign country on vacation for a month and not remembering a thing about the trip--getting arrested for 'lewd and lascivious' behavior--kicking in a lover's TV--sleepless nights because I was too busy getting out of bed and throwing up--the mornings with unquenchable thirst and a bottomless stomach that I couldn't fill--falling and splitting my eyebrow area--leaving a lover stranded in NY--and the list goes on. I was a 'good' drunk--quiet--bought everyone drinks--bartenders always gave me extra drinks because I was a good tipper and they didn't know I was drunk (If I thought I hadn't tipped or not tipped enough I went back the next day and took care of it.)--I didn't embarrass friends when I was drunk--no one, including myself, knew I was an alcoholic. Something happened the week of January 21, 1981--the first was that I was drunk, drove home, caused an accident that I didn't discover until the next day when I woke up and saw my car. Luckily, and it was just luck, no one had been hurt--it was another in a series of blackouts but this one involved other people. I finally realized that booze controlled me, I didn't control the booze, and I didn't like losing control--that was it--no more drinking. There's a lot more to the story but that's for another day--there is nothing worse than a reformed drunk (so 'they' say) so maybe some of the posters may understand why I get angry, lash out or say something when they post about being out of control when it comes to alcohol and 1) don't realize it or 2) Won't face the facts that they have a problem. PS The same year I gave up drinking I found the love of my life!
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@amadeo (58553)
• United States
6 Feb 17
and what happen after that?MMMMMMMMMM
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
To quote Agnes Gooch in "Mame" I LIVED!!!
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@jstory07 (63983)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Feb 17
I am glad you found the love of your life. That will help you alot.
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
Not really--lost him a few years later LOL BUT I didn't go back to drinking!!
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@jstory07 (63983)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Feb 17
@GreatMartin That is good that you do not drink.
@jaboUK (52727)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 17
A very interesting post from you Martin, I enjoyed reading it.
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
As I've always said you obviously have very good taste!!!
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@jaboUK (52727)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 17
@PatZAnthony (12237)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
8 Feb 17
Many who are 'good drunks' are still drunk a portion of their day. Hard for those never having to deal with this to understand some of your points, but you made some really good ones here.
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
My problem was I didn't see myself as a drunk--I didn't drink every day--I didn't NEED a drink before 5 PM--how is that for rationalization??
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@jstory07 (63983)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Feb 17
@Aushaw (887)
6 Feb 17
Last PS sentence
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
Though it ended I will never regret giving up the drinking and meeting him!
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@Aushaw (887)
17 Feb 17
@GreatMartin Awesome
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@pumpkinjam (5758)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 17
Wow! You have overcome an awful lot (well, I say 'overcome'. I realise that addictions can only be controlled and not cured). I have previously been concerned that I might become addicted to something but I don't think I do have an addictive personality. Although, my other half might tell you that I am addicted to noodles. I can happily have a drink and then not have another for several months. I avoid drinking altogether if I'm feeling low, though, as I believe that is the time I'd be inclined to over-do it. I smoked for a short while. Gave up easily - I decided I didn't need it and couldn't afford it so I stopped. I guess, if I had an addictive personality, I would have found that difficult.
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
After 60 years of smoking 2-3 packs a day I gave it up in 2008 (as I was being wheeled in for an aorta valve operation!!) and when I sit down to do the crossword puzzle or at the Internet to type I still want one--same with drinking, though it doesn't happen that often, when I eat out and the server asks what I would like to drink I can hear myself saying a Dewers on the rocks but it comes out black coffee!! LOL
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@Plethos (9051)
• United States
6 Feb 17
It now seems that your current addictive personality trait is control. Control over yourself.
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
It's a positive addictive trait that I will take over the others.
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• United States
6 Feb 17
Its admirable that you are able to tell your story with success!
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@nomus24g (20261)
• India
6 Feb 17
Good that you defeated all those odds and emerged as a winner
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
My problem is I don't practice moderation--it is all or nothing!
@MALUSE (36946)
• Germany
6 Feb 17
It's admirable how you've managed to get out of the hole all by yourself. Congratulations!
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• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
12 Feb 17
When I feel I HAVE to I am very good at self discipline!!