Why do my parents behave like......
@FathimaSN (95)
Chennai, India
February 12, 2017 4:27am CST
Am 20 but my parents treat me like a baby. They don't allow me to do what I really want. I like to play sports but they want me to study all day. I like to travel different places but they simply want me to sit inside the house. I like to join badminton club but they don't permit me also don't give enough money. What do I have to do?
4 people like this
7 responses
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
2 Dec 19
Yes definitely now everything is fine because my parents understand me and my needs very well.
1 person likes this
@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
14 Feb 17
You're 20 years old and you don't have a job? You're still being supported by your parents?
1 person likes this
@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
15 Feb 17
@FathimaSN - Oh OK. You're studying. Well … as a parent … I'm going to ask you to try to see things their way. Right now they're supporting you and they see you're on the right track. They don't want anything to screw that up! It does sound like they are a bit extreme. But if I were you I would interpret their restrictions as a genuine love, care and concern. I would be willing to bet (if I were a gambler) that you parents are probably very sensible and reasonable people. Their actions are motivated by being very protective of you. You need to work on convincing them that you won't be in danger, you won't get into trouble, you just need some safe social interaction and fun every once in a while. But while you're staying under their roof, obey and respect them, and follow their rules. Try to understand them, because if they care that much about you … they're not The Enemy.
1 person likes this
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
9 Jun 17
Those you said are valuable points to be considered. Trying to get a good relationship with my parents. It is a hard one but I am on the process
1 person likes this
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
14 Feb 17
Nope..I am still studying a degree. Trying to get a part time job...
1 person likes this
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
12 Feb 17
"don't allow me", "don't permit me", "don't give enough money". This is one reason you're treated like a child. An adult is independent. Get a job, make your own money, learn to budget, get your own place. Your age may be that of a legal adult, but that's not always enough for parents. They have to see for themselves that you're able to make it on your own.
1 person likes this
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
12 Feb 17
I want to be independent. For that I ll find a job get my own place. Thanx for adding your opinion
1 person likes this
@mayameen (126)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 17
Ah it's hard but it's so natural for parents to want the best but push things that will seem unfair.
Try and explain how you are feeling and negotiate with them. I know now as a mother how much I want to cushion my Boys. But getting involved in sports and stuff maybe find out why they are stopping you and try to negotiate with them. Maybe they feel it will not benefit you or they are worried about something...
1 person likes this
@mayameen (126)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 17
@FathimaSN absolutely and as frustrating as it is, they do it because they care 
1 person likes this
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
12 Feb 17
Hmm...I' ll try to Negotiate them and talk with them how I feel. They are my parents so I should obey them. I can not live without them after all....
1 person likes this
@destinykst (251)
•
12 Feb 17
U need to talk with them about this.Explain them how their behavior affects you.You need to create a strong communication bond with your parents so that they can better understand you.I hope they will understand you.
1 person likes this
@tenshi_cz (47)
• Philippines
13 Feb 17
because parents know best for their child, let them be it's for your future just study hard, they just wanna put you in a good place, once u finish studying you can do what you want.
1 person likes this
@pammooratan (4668)
• India
12 Feb 17
They do so because they love you a lot.Your tender age has not sufficient experience to face the challenges of outer world.So they think until you not settled economically or get married they will treat you like that.Keep patience that day us about to come.
1 person likes this
@FathimaSN (95)
• Chennai, India
12 Feb 17
May be....It is hard to be patience but I have no other options.
1 person likes this
