The Girl Has Become a Bridezilla!

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Laguna Woods, California
February 13, 2017 10:41pm CST
One of our daughters, who is in her mid 30s, goes to a lot of weddings ... sometimes as many as seven or eight a year. She has stayed in touch with most of her friends from high school and college. She used to be a buyer for a major department store chain and has a gorgeous wardrobe. Because of this, I was very surprised when a former college roommate, a girl she has known since she was four years old, sent out an email to all the female guests who will be attending her wedding next month, asking them to text her a photo of the dress they plan to wear. Our daughter sent a photo of herself wearing a very elegant black cocktail dress. The bride wrote back that she is asking all her guests to wear long dresses in jewel colors. I want to add here that our daughter and her husband are already spending $1500 to fly across country to attend the wedding. They are bringing their two young sons, but my husband and I will babysit them during the wedding. With all the weddings our four daughters have attended, only one other time has the bride dictated what a few of the guests should wear. On that occasion, the bride asked the small number of girls in her "house party" to wear black cocktail dresses to the wedding. Both our daughter and one of the Bush twins were part of the house party and spent the night before the wedding with the bride. Even that bride did not make any special clothing requests of her other guests, only the house party. Have you ever heard of a bride who emailed all her guests to tell them what they should wear to the wedding? I have known this young woman since she was four years old and have always liked her. She was my daughter's friend whom I liked the best. When she briefly attended a college near us, she often came and stayed with us, even when our daughter was not home. I like the girl ... but I'm afraid she has become a Bridezilla! What do you think?
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@hereandthere (33342)
• Philippines
14 Feb 17
i've heard of one asking guests not to wear anything black.
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Feb 17
@hereandthere - Yes, I have heard of asking the female guests not to wear black, and I've been told that it is considered impolite for a guest to wear white. However, I have never heard of a bride telling their guests what colors to wear and how long their dresses should be. Do you think that is OK?
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• Philippines
14 Feb 17
@DeborahDiane some do say it's the bride's day, so it's like respecting the host, but yeah, it seems to be turning into a major production. presenting a great image seems to be very important nowadays, but at the end of the day, for me it's more important that everyone enjoyed the occasion, that they didn't have to spend extra, or wear something uncomfortable.
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@LadyDuck (187471)
• Switzerland
14 Feb 17
@hereandthere I did not ask not to wear black because I knew that no Italian women would have done this. We never wear black at a wedding.
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@JudyEv (140822)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Feb 17
I really think this is going way, way too far. It seems it's all about the wedding but not about the marriage. I really find it hard to believe - not that I doubt you for a moment but I'm really shaking my head. I'd be tempted to take no notice!
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@JudyEv - That is what I told my daughter. I said to her, "Wear what you want. What is the bride going to do? Send you home?" LOL
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@JudyEv (140822)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Feb 17
@DeborahDiane I hope she does wear what she wants - just as a protest. What will they come up with next?
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@JudyEv - I agree! My daughter is already spending $1500 for her and her family to fly across country so they can go to the wedding. I think that is quite enough!
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@Morleyhunt (19263)
• Canada
14 Feb 17
As the former owner of a bridal salon I have seen and heard many odd requests.....one bride requested all of the guests to wear white or Ivory (odd for sure). Another wanted all of the guests in black.....one wanted the guests in jeans..... There were actually a lot less bridezillas than one would expect.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@Morleyhunt - I'm glad to hear that there are a lot fewer bridezillas than one would expect. I'm also surprised that other brides have dictated what their guests should wear.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Feb 17
I do think she is overdoing it for sure thats going too fare wow
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• Laguna Woods, California
14 Feb 17
@Hatley - I agree that it seems to me she is going too far!
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@MarymargII (10798)
• Toronto, Ontario
15 Feb 17
Wow- the only time I've heard of choosing outfits would be for the wedding party?! My own daughter would have plenty to say about that request- What do you do though? I think at the very least, I would ask her why!
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• Laguna Woods, California
16 Feb 17
@Marymargll - The wedding is in a month. Our daughter is flying here from the East Coast to attend, so I'll be curious what she decides to wear. I'm trying to stay out of it.
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@MarymargII (10798)
• Toronto, Ontario
16 Feb 17
@DeborahDiane That's the best plan- it's hard not to give an opinion- but she'll tell you what she's decided for whatever reason--weird though!
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• Laguna Woods, California
17 Feb 17
@MarymargII - I'll have to tell everyone what my daughter wore when the wedding happens next month!
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@Happy2BeMe (75441)
• Canada
14 Feb 17
I think that is being a bit ridiculous. I wouldn't even be attending her wedding if I had to get approval from the bride on what I should or should not wear.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe - Our daughter and her husband are already spending $1500 for the four of them to fly across country to attend the wedding. Having the bride dictate what she should wear seems excessive to me!
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@Happy2BeMe (75441)
• Canada
15 Feb 17
@DeborahDiane I would think so when they are spending so much money to travel there.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe - Going to weddings can be very expensive these days, especially when you have to travel to get there!
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@just4him (132006)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
14 Feb 17
I've never heard of anyone asking their guests to wear certain colors. That's going a bit far.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@just4him - I agree that it is going a bit too far.
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@jstory07 (72165)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Feb 17
If I was told wha to wear I would not go to the wedding.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@jstory07 - I told my daughter she should just wear what she wants to wear!
@DianneN (91125)
• United States
17 Feb 17
In all my years, I have never ever heard of such a thing! The only dress requirement would be black tie. Even so, the female guests can choose a gown or cocktail dress.
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• Laguna Woods, California
17 Feb 17
@DianneN - I agree. I have always loved this girl, and I know my daughter does, too. She just think her friend is being "weird." My daughter has a month until the wedding. I'll be curious to see what she decides to do.
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17 Feb 17
wow, i have never heard of such a thing!
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• Laguna Woods, California
17 Feb 17
@jillybean1 - I never heard of a bride doing this, either.
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@paigea (22673)
• Canada
14 Feb 17
I think that is definitely overdoing it!
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
@paigea - I'm glad I am not the only one who thought that was a bit extreme!
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@pammooratan (4676)
• India
14 Feb 17
What should I say everyone has his own interests.
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• Laguna Woods, California
15 Feb 17
Yes, I guess it is true that everyone has their own interests.