Some Of That Nasty Brown Stuff Just Hit The Fan

@celticeagle (117235)
Boise, Idaho
February 17, 2017 6:55pm CST
There has been an issue with my grandson's bedroom door for some time now. It turns and doesn't catch, is hard to close. So we called and had maintenance fix it. But, we also had them put a knob on that didn't have a lock. We have had issue with him having a lock on the door twice just in the last couple of weeks. Once he locked the door and my daughter couldn't get in his room to give him his medication. Another time in the morning he told my daughter to get out of his room in a nasty, rather scary voice and then locked the door. It's hard enough to get him up around in the morning without him locking his door. So, just a few minutes ago he came up here yelling at me about it. I had better have a door put on there that has a lock on it or he is going to take a lock off one of the other doors in the house and put it on there. I told him that our priority is to keep him safe and began to tell him what I wrote in the first paragraph but was not allowed to do so. He slammed my door and went downstairs to talk to my daughter, his mom. I am shaking. He is so intimidating when he gets like this.
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@sallypup (26314)
• Moses Lake, Washington
18 Feb 17
He is mentally abusing you and he knows it. He knows that he can hurt you physically. I know this is not the solution and I don't know you would do it but you so need out of there. I feel just awful for you and worry for your safety.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
I couldn't leave. Leave my daughter here with him. I am here to help her. I can't just leave. She could never do it alone.
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@sallypup (26314)
• Moses Lake, Washington
18 Feb 17
@celticeagle And yet I deeply worry for your safety, emotionally as well as physically.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
@sallypup .....I do too. I can't just walk out and leave my daughter. I am committed to be here. My grandson will continue to be here regardless unless he does something to harm himself or us. Even when he harmed his mom nothing much was done. Has to be some really bad stuff come down before anything is done now days as far as the authorities are concerned.
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@andriaperry (46433)
• United States
18 Feb 17
Its your house? then its your rules. Right?
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
I would think so.
• United States
18 Feb 17
So wait there is no lock on his door now? Oh yes I know him having a lock is not good I get that ... I am so sorry about this that you are shaking..I know how you mean about that.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
No. Now there isn't. Not now.
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• United States
18 Feb 17
@celticeagle Was wondering if he calmed down.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
@TiarasOceanView .....Haven't heard from him on the subject. He took a bath and fell asleep downstairs. I hope school won't be a problem next week. He said he wouldn't go until we changed his door back to one with a lock. I hope he has thought better of that. I guess we will see on Monday night.
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@Jessicalynnt (47790)
• Centralia, Missouri
19 Feb 17
he will get over it, I am sure, once he gets used to it
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Feb 17
Things have been quiet and I hope nothing more is said about it.
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@marsha32 (6689)
• United States
18 Feb 17
A terrible thing to have to put up with...misbehaving children. My 7 yr old grandson that lives here has many anger issues and slams doors and throws things and kicks things on a regular basis.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
I'm sorry to hear that. My grandson is 14 and was upgraded(I guess you'd call it) from ODD to just full blown ADHD. In the clinical eyes he has made strides. He has improved but still has issues. He refuses to go to counseling or work with a PSR. So we are going to try getting my daughter one. See how that goes.
• Preston, England
18 Feb 17
hopefully he will accept the need to be able to access him more easily in time - good new name and profile picture
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Feb 17
Hopefully. Thanks.
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• United States
18 Feb 17
if the door doesn't close right and won't catch it might be the hinge is bent. how old is this kid?sounds like he'd jam the door with something else if you take the locking one off.
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@celticeagle (117235)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 17
No, it isn't the hinge. It's the knob. The maintenance person put a new knob on the door that has no lock.