How Much Are You Willing To Help A 'Needy' Stranger?

@waflay (2717)
Nairobi, Kenya
February 21, 2017 1:23am CST
We live in a tiny world and meeting with someone more than once in life is not a strange thing. However, it might turn strange if you helped someone outer a tight corner once and you find yourself helping him out one more or endlessly times later as fate would call it. Well, there is one person whom I met last December, a few days to Christmas. The guys explained to me that he just lost his money and other valuables in a robbery incident and that he needed my help. Since he was a stranger, I did give him some cash and left. Yesterday, we happened to meet again in another spot while I was going around my business. Oops! The stranger approached me and called for my attention. Ofcourse I recognized him at once. The guy was like, due to economic downstream in my country, he lost his properties to auctioneers after failing to pay up the loan from the Bank. He said he was paying well until his family member was diagnosed with cancer and that the situation became worse after public health doctors downed their tools about three months ago. He explained his financial situation, his family and the reason he was raising funds to cater for both--- medical bills and family needs. Obviously, I was touched! To verify my doubts, I had to ask him about our previous meeting because the two stories were like sky and earth—no relation whatsoever. Anyway, he was confused without a word to counter my simple question. But he tried to explain his need to lure me back to my easy sympathy spot but it was already too late. He thanked me and walked away. How was I to tell if this guy was a genuine person in need of money or a conman in hunt for easy cash? I just wonder how some easy it is to lie about diseases in the family while they know very well that all is for money. Damned crazy earth!
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
21 Feb 17
I am very cautious with people who ask for money. I can help with food, clothing etc but I rarely give cash.
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@waflay (2717)
• Nairobi, Kenya
21 Feb 17
I guess I have so much to learn in the subject 'Realities of Life', I have a problem with trusting people easily, and this makes me so vulnerable to conmen. Time to assume everyone out there is a conman unless he or she produces facts to back up the story.
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@besweet (7230)
• Greece
21 Feb 17
@waflay I tend to be the opposite of trusting. I think I might even be hard on people, because I have been in a difficult position myself and I had to work hard to get back on my feet. Losing money or spending it is easy, earning them with real work is the most difficult for some people. This guy can go out there and ask for a job instead of free cash.
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@waflay (2717)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Feb 17
@besweet I understand very well how it feels by having nothing, and this is something that makes me think that by helping someone with little I have makes it a little change in someone's life. But it is now very clear that most of the people who are asking for help are there because they are afraid of working hard for their money, instead, they opt for an easy way to make a living.
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• United States
21 Feb 17
That was a scam it seems. You are a good heart to help when you did. Yes, we must not help in detriment to ourselves.
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@waflay (2717)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Feb 17
So sad that we have others people who really need something to sustain their lives... just so difficult to determine the genuine person from fake characters.
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@browneyed (2526)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 17
Yeah, it sounds like he wasn't genuine. I mean, maybe he genuinely couldn't remember the details of the last convo he had with you - it is a possibility - but my feeling is that he wasn't being genuine from the start. I think you should continue to be a compassionate person; don't change that about yourself --- but trust your gut more - if you have a niggle, trust it.
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@waflay (2717)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Feb 17
Yep, a liar forgets easily about his previous lies but the victim lives to remember every single detail of that false move. Thanks for your say!
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