What are your limits and boundaries on MyLot?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (205250)
Walnut Creek, California
February 26, 2017 1:12pm CST
I notice that MyLotters write about diverse things, and I really enjoy that. You probably know who I'm talking about if I say that I've learned about life on a ranch in Australia, painting on slate, how women are treated in India, how to fix certain computer issues, how lovely Switzerland is, how delightfully dry the German sense of humor can be, random gardening tips, weather patterns in Wisconsin and my native Illinois, how I can join up with a MyLot friend in a little "experiment," and so on.
But I've also noticed that people vary widely in how "personal" they get in their MyLot posts. Some discuss current heartbreaks or issues with loved ones; others don't. Some discuss medical issues they're facing right now; others don't.
I've noticed that I treat my MyLot friendships a bit like friendships in the real world. I reveal a bit more (sometimes in PMs) as I get to know people better. For a long time, I didn't want to reveal my real name, but now, anyone who has seen one of my music videos knows my real name. And so on.
Where do you draw the line? Was it a conscious decision on your part? Or have you just "gone with the flow"?
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39 responses
@allknowing (130067)
• India
27 Feb 17
I have not revealed too much about me for example who my parents are and stuff. But I do touch on my passions.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
25 Nov 17
@TheHorse That's funny, pony! (grinning at you!)
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@TheHorse (205250)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Nov 17
@DaddyEvil Have a good one! I'm off to bed.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 17
I think I talk about pretty much anything. I have nothing to hide no secrets necessarily. I am just being me. Of course there are certain subjects that I won't discuss which may be peculiar to British people like how much money I have or earn or want. It is deemed vulgar to talk about such things. I try to avoid politics and religion where possible. IF I wanted to hear about politics I would listen to a party political broadcast and if I wanted religion rammed down my neck I would go to church! Apart from that pretty much anything goes!
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
26 Feb 17
My love life is off limits, family troubles are off limits, life is something that I write about as it happens without getting too detailed. I guess I have a group of close friends on here much as in real life and they perhaps have gleaned a bit more and certainly the ones I have met, know me and are real life friends.
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@RasmaSandra (73203)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 17
I write about most anything I feel like writing. I have written about how I feel about things that have gone on in my life and about things that are going on in my life now. I choose to write about things I think people will find interesting and so on. I don't set any kind of boundaries for myself. I just enjoy writing and sharing.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Feb 17
I'm about to post something a bit 'closer to the bone' (@LoriAMoore -origin?
) than I normally do but I think I still will. I don't normally reveal too much that's too personal - at least I hope not. I guess I judge if I will post some information or not on whether I'd be embarrassed if the person involved were to read it. I'd love to post about our DIL who can't stand us but I won't! I think it is possibly very cathartic for some to air their problems but you always need to think of what the consequences might be.
) than I normally do but I think I still will. I don't normally reveal too much that's too personal - at least I hope not. I guess I judge if I will post some information or not on whether I'd be embarrassed if the person involved were to read it. I'd love to post about our DIL who can't stand us but I won't! I think it is possibly very cathartic for some to air their problems but you always need to think of what the consequences might be.4 people like this
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
27 Feb 17
i think our definition of personal also differs
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
27 Feb 17
@JudyEv and even people from the same culture differ in what they will and will not discuss and reveal.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Feb 17
@hereandthere That is true and cultures come into it too. What can be discussed without embarrassment in one culture might be taboo in another.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
26 Feb 17
Interesting post. I love learning all sorts of things here on my lot. Usually something will happen during the day and I will feel inspired to write about it or some aspect of it. I would love to share more about my family relations but I don't because I know people wouldn't understand, about my (lack of) love life - but there too I don't want to be seen as a complainer and write the same list of complaints over and over again so I will wait for opportune times to write about romance (eg. what would have been my 5 year engagement anniversary is coming up.), and I would love to share about my childhood, but... it was highly unusual and I doubt people would believe me anyway. I have thought on writing it out as a ficitional story. Hey! I would like to see your videos. Is that a flyer for your band? GIg sounds fun - do you get to eat too?
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@librarygeek1980 (3137)
• United States
27 Feb 17
Ha! I think I've posted quite a bit about myself in here, I've got nothing to hide, lol. If you wanna stalk me, fine, if you want to pony up the dough to get to middle of nowhere Utah, then sure! If you wanna PM me, that's awesome too. Please I've seen way too much to really get freaked out over anything. I'm here to socialize, dagnabbitt! The only thing I will not post is anything on politics, as I stated in a post 2 weeks ago. Mostly cause it angries the blood and im not here to cause a war... love, peace and Chicken grease!
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@TheHorse (205250)
• Walnut Creek, California
27 Feb 17
@librarygeek1980 Oh dear. I don't watch much TV.
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@librarygeek1980 (3137)
• United States
27 Feb 17
@TheHorse I eat chicken too! I just had chicken pot pie for dinner. No, that phrase was from that old show in the 90s, House of Buggin, John Leguizamo hosted.
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@GardenGerty (157485)
• United States
27 Feb 17
My name is out there this time around. I try to be general about my work. My health, it is what it is, mostly unrevealed. I do not tell myLot anything I would not tell the local press if we had any. Sometimes I find myself all twisted up in the amount of "stuff " shared.
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@vandana7 (98731)
• India
27 Feb 17
I am an open book..what you see is what you will get..kinda person..lol. I think net is such a rotten thing, the more you try to hide the more people would spend time trying to investigate you...you might as well bore them so much that they don't bother with trying to know you...anyway that is my take. :) If I had robbed a bank or murdered anybody...I would not have told that here you know...somethings are always better kept a secret...for the rest, there is myLot. :)
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@ptrikha_2 (45422)
• India
27 Feb 17
@vandana7 Very much original, though being truthful and honest in India(and many places in world)can be tricky!
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@beenice2 (2967)
• Sackville, New Brunswick
26 Feb 17
I usually try to not go too much in details on what I write. Just to protect the innocent, as i would say, but events and other things, is good to talk about. I try to not write to much of a lengthy novel. It takes too long for people to read it.
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@Tampa_girl7 (48890)
• United States
27 Feb 17
As time has gone by I have put more details about myself online. Hopefully I never regret it. I didn't realize you had music videos. Where might I find them ?
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@Tampa_girl7 (48890)
• United States
27 Feb 17
@TheHorse I will give it a listen thanks for the link. It was enjoyable to hear. You have a great voice
thanks for the link. It was enjoyable to hear. You have a great voice1 person likes this
@TheHorse (205250)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Nov 17
@Tampa_girl7 Thanks! We're working on a new one right now. Did you hear some of the others?
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
27 Feb 17
IDK, pony... Some people know a great deal about me... others obviously don't. Some people know my real name... others don't. I guess it just depends on the person and how I feel about them.
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
26 Feb 17
I am quite open here and tell lot of stuffs which I generally will not disclose to my known people.. I do this because there is none of my friends present in this site..
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@ichchhe_mrityu (1144)
• Bangalore, India
26 Feb 17
@TheHorse tht is better.. facebook is over populated with known faces 
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@TheHorse (205250)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Feb 17
@ichchhe_mrityu Rich. I can talk about friend/family matters here that I couldn't discuss there.
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