Is It Convenient Not to Get Married?

@Shavkat (65887)
Philippines
March 3, 2017 12:02pm CST
I had noticed that most couples are not open of getting married nowadays. "Is it being convenient or a trend?" This is a secret of my clan. I am not going to be worried and read by them. In the first place, I solely have the passion in writing and most of the family circle doesn't have the interest. My brother and cousins didn't get married and have their children. But then, not a single soul wanted to get married. My granny is freaking out. She is a religious person and had been devoted to the doctrine of Roman Catholic. I sometimes explain to her that modern days changed the mind of people. Image Credit: pixabay.com
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@Bluedoll (17050)
• Canada
25 Oct 17
Interesting subject. When you mentioned children everything changes? In the eyes of the law with possessions and child you are married? In religion it is symbolic. In society it is trendy yeah.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
25 Oct 17
I do agree on that. Things change with this kind of concern.
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@Bluedoll (17050)
• Canada
25 Oct 17
@Shavkat I'm not sure about convenient unless it is complicated? Getting a divorce from a previous marriage would be a complication. If it is a trial relationship for example then definitely a formal marriage would be best avoided.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
25 Oct 17
@Bluedoll I do think that some married couple falls into such divorce case. Some of my friends experienced this.
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@magallon (18107)
• Philippines
3 Mar 17
Like any other things, being single or not getting into that married stage has the advantages and disadvantages. I think it depends on your viewpoint or on how you accept it.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
I do agree. However, I was thinking since they've been together for so many years; then, they need to seal it officially. On the other hand, some married couple got separated despite the years of being together in years.
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@magallon (18107)
• Philippines
4 Mar 17
@Shavkat Maybe they are not really sure yet about each other that's why they do not want to seal it.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
6 Mar 17
@magallon I do think they needed to talk heart-to-heart their situation right now.
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@pumpkinjam (5800)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 17
A lot of people nowadays see marriage is just a piece of paper which makes no real difference to the relationship. As for being convenient not to get married, depends what you mean. There are advantages of being married as opposed to just co-habiting. Then there is also the cost of a wedding which, to many, is an unnecessary expense.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
29 Mar 17
You have a point. The same flow of thinking was embraced by these couples. In the long run, I understand why. It is how you had described it. I do respect of what people preferred for their personal status.
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• United Kingdom
30 Mar 17
@Shavkat My partner and I plan to get married because we want to. I know couples who married for practical/legal reasons and other couples who have been happily unmarried for decades. Then there are couples who co-habit for years and get married and divorced within a matter of months.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
31 Mar 17
@pumpkinjam I also prefer to get married and settled in the near future. I do respect the others preference on regards to this.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Mar 17
I imagine 'getting married' is sort of like 'a graduation ceremony'---you went to all the needed hours of classroom-study, did all the homework; what do you need a "ceremony" for? except to "prove to everyone you know" that you did all the work & study you needed to 'not need to go to school any more.' Essntially, it's (traditionally, anyway) 'a graduation-ceremony' from childhood---in most cases (traditionally), the woman is living with her parents when the man 'takes her away' from them. And the ceremony serves to establish that 'she' is living with 'the husband,' that the parents are happy with that arrangement, & so now the world can see. Do you need to be married to live together? Just as sure as you need "graduation" to get a job!
@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
You have a point there. If things are working smoothly, marriage is not always the answer to be together.
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Jun 17
@Shavkat Although ... I also kinda realize that the wedding is kind of 'the launch-party' for the marriage-expedition---'a chance for the couple's friends to show them how much they believe in the couple's future-success.'
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
@mythociate I agree. I hope it will last a lifetime.
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@Hannihar (44103)
22 Oct 17
I believe it depends on the people whether they want to get married or not. It is up to them and only them. No one has to right to pressure them like lots of parents do. I wanted to have children so wanted to get married, but, did not end up having children and it did not work out at all.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Oct 17
I guess I will be the same fate, my friend. I am not married and wanted to have children of my own.
@Hannihar (44103)
22 Oct 17
@Shavkat I was married and had a miscarriage and never had a chance again to be a mother.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Oct 17
@Hannihar I am sorry to hear that, my friend. Are you living alone?
@heyheyla (209)
• Aleppo, Syria
25 Oct 17
you are a writer?
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
25 Oct 17
I hope I am. What do you think?
@heyheyla (209)
• Aleppo, Syria
25 Oct 17
@Shavkat i dont know Have you written anything?
@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
25 Oct 17
@heyheyla I had created some documentation before.
@cacay1 (33199)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Jun 17
I like to remain single though sometimes I long to have someone to love and be loved.I have so many loves in the past, all of them gone with the wind, they cheated me.I am happy to be single but not alone.This time, there are so many marriages broken and they have thought to let yesterday come back for they would prefer to be single.What a joke and life.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
Remember, you are my idol. I think I am going to be single forever but not alone, too.
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@cacay1 (33199)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Jun 17
@Shavkat hahahahathank you for that friend.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
@cacay1 Of course, I am still hoping you will find that special trusted person.
@reskyyandi (3689)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 17
I don't thinking about it
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
7 Mar 17
I think we should not think about it. We are still young for this.
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• Indonesia
8 Mar 17
@Shavkat yeah, I am too young to get married
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
@reskyyandi How young are you?
@ourlot (993)
18 Nov
It can be a mess, or it can be heaven. Pick the wrong person to marry and have children and you are done. Your whole life is ruined. Choose wisely, it can be the most important decision in your life. Even more important than your job.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
21 Nov
I agree. We need to think a couple of times before settling oneself to someone. It makes or breaks a decision for a lifetime.
@SAM774 (4178)
25 Oct 17
Yeah.... I think it varies from person to person... I believe marriage is an one day issue.... All matter is after that... So as long as one is not comfortable to marry even if they are dating.... It's not a big deal... Just my thought lol
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
25 Oct 17
I think people had changed its preferences.
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@sjvg1976 (18403)
• Delhi, India
22 Oct 17
It is more convenient for a single to spend life than a married person as after getting married one has lots of responsibilities . You have to see your kids and wife too after marriage.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Oct 17
You said it right. A married life is really difficult if the person will not accept the responsibilities fully.
@YrNemo (14768)
24 Jun 17
Some females feel more secured if they have a piece of paper to prove to the world that their partners love them enough to go that far. (Same with some males I guess). But if one of the couple doesn't want to do it, and the other is so frightened of losing their love, then he/she resigns to that state of de-facto. If both partners don't want it, then it is perfect then. Easier to walk away from each other when the time comes.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
24 Jun 17
It is most likely women in Asian countries prepare to have a marriage contract. It is a big NO for some parents if the couple didn't get married.
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@Madshadi (8991)
• Brussels, Belgium
3 Mar 17
If they are living together and raising their children then there is not much difference between them and any other married couple. But some societies do not view unmarried couples with children as a good thing. So it is better to get married in that case.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
For the sake of being accepted in the society, they need to get married.
@Corbin5 (119040)
• United States
3 Mar 17
I think a person can have a great life if not married. Yes, I can imagine that some parents and grandparents worry if their relatives do not marry.
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@cacay1 (33199)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Jun 17
@Corbin5 , agree especially if their daughter or son got no job hehehe.They want someone to feed their son or daughter, lols.
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• Philippines
3 Mar 17
It is very inconvenient because the reward and great plans of God in their lives are totally hinder by their actions and decisions. It's is a disobedience to God. Though it is a trend now... Still God doesn't change his laws. And the kids will suffer.
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@Shavkat (65887)
• Philippines
22 Jun 17
I also think of that. It should be sealed in marriage to stay happy and according to God's commandments.