They Took Her to the Hospital

@AmbiePam (46152)
United States
March 4, 2017 8:22pm CST
I thought I had posted about this, but I took a look at my discussions & I had not. To recap for people not familiar with me, my almost 80 year old grandmother lives in a house next door to her 61 year old son (she & my late grandfather are the ones who bought his house for him). He takes advantage of her, & she lets him because my her husband is gone, & so is her daughter (my mom) almost two years ago at 55. He's a sociopath, and instead of going to the doctor when his health gets bad he calls her over. While I visited, he called to ask her to come turn his heat up, and then minutes later to turn it back down. She beat breast cancer a few years ago, but she has other health problems. She had back surgery, but it didn't take because he had her do things for him like move his recliner. His 3 ex wives loathe him, and his 3 daughters do too (his daughters are gems and have made great lives for themselves). So 2 weeks ago I called her, but didn't get an answer. She sometimes turns her (cell) phone off without meaning to. The next day she didn't answer and I got worried. Turns out her sisters came by (sisters who tried to get her to put my uncle in a nursing home (which he had been in because during one of his highs (he abuses pain medication) he repeatedly fell, but didn't go to the hospital until my grandmother begged him because she couldn't lift him anymore). Her sisters found her ready to collapse. Long story shorter than it could be, she had to be hospitalized with pneumonia. The first two days she asked her sisters not to tell us (I live 2 1/2 hrs. away). My uncle had the nerve to call her and complain his wheelchair was too small. She was in the hospital for ten days. There is more, but this is already too long.
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@TRBRocks420 (62064)
• Banks, Oregon
5 Mar
That's awful and, prayers going out to her.
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@AmbiePam (46152)
• United States
5 Mar
Thank you.
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@LoriAMoore (9949)
• United States
5 Mar
Oh my, I hope she gets better.
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@GardenGerty (90960)
• Marion, Kansas
6 Mar
I wondered about your post about moving someone out, if it might be related. I am so glad she still has sisters who will check in on her. He is a danger to himself and others and needs to be under a guardian and put in a nursing home with no chance to get out. She needs to be loved and cared for.
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@AmbiePam (46152)
• United States
7 Mar
Things have gone crazy. I don't even know where to start on another post. It's gotten pretty bad. Her health is okay, but she made a really drastic decision that he's to blame for.
@Susan2015 (18631)
• United States
5 Mar
I hope that she gets well soon. And she needs to stop doing things like that for her son.
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@AmbiePam (46152)
• United States
7 Mar
I so agree.
@katsmeow1213 (28917)
• United States
5 Mar
I want to hear more.. I'm enthralled by all this drama, and I'm really hoping that eventually karma bites that uncle in the bum!
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@AmbiePam (46152)
• United States
7 Mar
Oh, I hope it does.
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@DianneN (59078)
• United States
7 Mar
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know your story. What a rat of a man!
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• United States
7 Mar
I feel so sorry for your grandmother who is too old to be doing all this for the son. Hopefully her rest in the hospital will help her see that she can't keep doing this.
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@FayeHazel (11533)
• United States
7 Mar
He sounds like a real piece of work. Any person with a soul wouldn't have put their mom through so much....
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@salonga (27965)
• Philippines
6 Mar
So sorry to hear this. I could only but pray for her.
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@jstory07 (58289)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Mar
I hope your grandmother will recover and be ok.
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@Juliaacv (23076)
• Canada
5 Mar
Oh no, your poor Grandma-I will keep her in my prayers. I had pneumonia last March and it was awful, I hope that they take extra good care of her in the hospital and that she gets stronger and heals quickly. Shame on your uncle.
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@SIMPLYD (75303)
• Philippines
13 Mar
The son is abusive. He should be really just placed in a nursing home or else your grandmother might get into a sadder situation if she keeps on taking care of her 61 year old son. The son has a problem with his mind?
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@SIMPLYD (75303)
• Philippines
14 Mar
@AmbiePam Poor grandmother of yours.
@OreoBrownie (3356)
• Winder, Georgia
10 Apr
She has had a rough time of it.
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• United States
10 Mar
Sounds like a real jerk. I would tell him what he's doing may just be on the line of elder abuse.
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@Tampa_girl7 (21603)
• United States
8 Mar
I hope that your grandmother is doing better now.
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@just4him (91511)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Mar
Your uncle needs to be put away where he won't be a hazard to your grandmother. I hope she's doing better.
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@Fishmomma (11617)
• United States
8 Mar
I'm really sorry things are so bad. Clearly, your Grandmother needs help and hope her plan works, as things must get better.
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@LadyDuck (121416)
• Switzerland
5 Mar
I remember you wrote about the problem of your grandmother. I think that you must do something, because she cannot live with his son, he is absolutely unable to take care of her.
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