Do you celebrate your late parents birthday?

Torch ginger for my late mother
@thelme55 (14010)
Germany
March 6, 2017 3:16am CST
This is a question I usually have in mind when I heard of a relative or friend on celebrating the birthday of a dead parent / sister/ brother / wife / husband and so on. Last Saturday, was my late mothers birthday. Though she is long time gone, we still have family bonding on her birthday. My siblings and their families came to my house where my father live and we "celebrate" my mother's day. Of course we were happy especially that my father was happy seeing us all together for a short time. We have visited my mothers' grave and we employed a friend to lead the prayer in the cemetery. We paid her after lunch before she and her husband went home. It was a good and enjoyable bonding day with my Filipino family. We cooked delicious food and after lunch we had Karaoke bonding until late afternoon. Do you meet your family for this kind of occasion?
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@Happy2BeMe (74406)
• Canada
6 Mar 17
When my Dad passed and there was still mom yes we use to gather at Mom's house on Dad's birthday. Since Mom passed we don't do it anymore. Of course I remember them on their special days and I will find a way to honor their memory but we no longer gather as a family.
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@Happy2BeMe (74406)
• Canada
7 Mar 17
@thelme55 It happens sometimes. Our family has been greatly divided.
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• United States
6 Mar 17
It's nice that your family gets together to celebrate your moms birthday. Both my parents are deceased now but we don't celebrate their birthdays anymore. I do remember both my parents on their special day but it's not a day for family gatherings
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
Every country has its own custom @Marilynda1225. Thanks.
@ridingbet (47294)
• Philippines
7 Mar 17
we offer mass for them. and then we light candles here with their pictures, at the altar. typical Filipino tradition of honoring birthdays of the deceased.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
So true. It is only in the Philippines @ridingbet
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@ridingbet (47294)
• Philippines
11 Mar 17
@thelme55 and we are proud of this tradition that is carried for eons now
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
13 Mar 17
@ridingbet yes, we do.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24967)
• United States
7 Mar 17
No, both of my parents are alive.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
You are very lucky @Tampa_girl7. Enjoy their company.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24967)
• United States
8 Mar 17
@thelme55 I spend as much time with them as I can.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
10 Mar 17
@Tampa_girl7 that is great. I am doing that now with my father. I stay in my home country for a few months.
@salonga (27994)
• Philippines
6 Mar 17
It is typical for Filipinos to do that. Yes we also do and it is a way to bond with siblings and respective families. I love that flower in your photo. I have that plant in my garden and still waiting for it to grow enough and give the same beautiful flower like that.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
7 Mar 17
Yes, it is a typical Filipino tradition. This torch ginger flower is from my front yard and they are giving a lot of blooms. You will enjoy its beauty when yours blooms @salonga.
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@salonga (27994)
• Philippines
7 Mar 17
@thelme55 Does it need a lot of sunshine?
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
@salonga yes, it does.
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@LadyDuck (147879)
• Switzerland
6 Mar 17
No, we do not, this is not something we do. We can remember them with a pray or asking a Priest to celebrate a Mass.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
Yes, we do that in Germany @LadyDuck and I think that is enough.
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@LadyDuck (147879)
• Switzerland
8 Mar 17
@thelme55 Yes, I think that this is the better way to remember them.
@DianneN (74492)
• United States
6 Mar 17
No, we don't celebrate birthdays, but we do remember them and pray for them. We also make a donation to charity.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
That is good @DianneN. A charity donation is great.
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@DianneN (74492)
• United States
8 Mar 17
@thelme55 I always wish them a happy birthday in Heaven, too.
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@ShifaLk (7496)
• India
6 Mar 17
I haven't had that experience in my family But yes in my relatives, They have a Prayer meet
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@ShifaLk (7496)
• India
8 Mar 17
@thelme55 yeah. A day to remember them
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@MALUSE (38088)
• Germany
7 Mar 17
No, I don't and I've never heard of anyone doing this. It must be an Asian custom.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
7 Mar 17
I think it is only a Filipino custom @MALUSE. I have not heard of other countries doing it.
@JudyEv (119138)
• Bunbury, Australia
6 Mar 17
I usually remember my mother and father's birthdays but we don't do more than that. I think your way of celebrating your mother's life is to be commended.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
7 Mar 17
I think that is one way of remembering her and to gather my siblings and their families. There would no family bonding without them @JudyEv.
@jaboUK (53401)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 17
No I don't celebrate as such, but I always remember them on their birthdays.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
It is already enough to remember them on their birthdays and visit their graves @jaboUK.
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@BelleStarr (37118)
• Portland, Connecticut
6 Mar 17
NO we do not celebrate my late father's birthday. I think of him on that day but that is all.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
That is alright. When I am in Germany, I do the same @BelleStarr
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@Juliaacv (29001)
• Canada
6 Mar 17
We do not "celebrate" birthdays of those that have passed, but we do remember them and we try to do something good in their memory.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
That is great @Juliaacv. We have to remember them.
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• Philippines
6 Mar 17
I greet them on their birthday. But my parents are still alive.
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@thelme55 (14010)
• Germany
8 Mar 17
That's great. You are lucky to have them. Enjoy their company @Letranknight2015