~Don't Need Friends Like That~
March 9, 2017 7:16am CST
Good morning everyone. I hope your all doing okay and I hope this discussion will make sense with my exhaustion level. Lol. I was thinking a little bit ago about a friend who says she cares and misses me but yet lives 30 minutes away and never comes to see me and only calls once a month. I don't drive so unfortunately the only effort I'm able to make is calling or texting-which I was doing a lot. You know, I'm getting to the point in my life where I know everyone is in your life for a season-some longer than others. I also know I'm happy with my own family and I don't need people in my life who don't want to be in it... I don't want or need friends who don't actually care. If you want to be a good friend-you have to make an effort of some sort. I have enough real life stress to worry about so not sweating the small stuff.
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Yes I do agree with that. Where she knows that you don't drive she should make the effort to come visit or arrange sometime together. Time slips away and people get busy and lose track of time. I don't have many friends and I am okay with that but sometimes it is nice to have good friends to spend time with or talk with.
• Greencastle, Indiana
that's the way to do it, if someone cared enough to want to be your friend then they SHOULD care enough to stay in touch rather it be 30 mins down the road or a thousand miles away. If they can't come & visit you when they're that CLOSE then you SURE don't need them when you have enough to deal with.
• Pikeville, North Carolina
I have two close friends, one I've known since Junior High and the other I was in the Army with, whom I don't see or talk to very often, sometimes not for months or years, but because they are truly friends, the time between doesn't matter as when we do get the chance to talk or meet, we pick up right where we left off. If your friend isn't that kind of friend, perhaps cutting the tie, if it leads to you being less stressed, is the right thing to do.
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
I don't know your friend so I'm taking a long shot. Is she married? Does she have children? Does she have her own responsibilities to tend too? Life causes that. By the same token, even if you drove, with home-schooling and all your other domestic responsibilities, would you ever have the time to go visit her? Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives that "extra" time escapes us.
• Jacksonville, Florida
@UncleJoe Yes she does have her own family but a phone call or text doesn't take long. I feel as if I'm a burden to her now instead of a friend. I don't want to be that to anyone so I would rather just cut ties for now. Who knows maybe in the future we will reconnect.