Would you take it as a sign that it's time for major change?

By Lynn
United States
March 10, 2017 1:29pm CST
It's been two and a half weeks since we got the notice to terminate. My husband and I have been actively hunting for a new apartment since then, and so far... Nothing. Zip. Zilch. Nada. The management company I emailed about the property we wanted to see never got back to me. I stopped by the property management company's office to follow up on it, and was basically blown off because "emails are the last thing I check during the day." Another promising unit has a 15-person wait list, but it's possible that we might be able to see it since it's been up so long that some of the people on the list may not be interested anymore. The apartment complexes we visited yesterday have wait lists that range from five months to two years. Just for kicks, I spent some time looking at apartments in the Kansas City area last night... halfway across the country from where we are now, and fairly close to a lot of my husband's family members. Tons of available apartments in our price range, with great features and amenities! Oh, and all three of the locations our employer has in the area I looked at have multiple positions open that are equal to or better than the ones we currently hold. Would you jump on that opportunity even if it meant uprooting your family? I've been missing the area since we moved back to Arizona, and it just seems like our options are so limited here...
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@AmbiePam (50251)
• United States
4 Apr 17
That does kind of sound like something meant to be. Meant to be isn't really the right phrase...It's just interesting to think all of these things maybe happening to point you in a different, but better, direction; like you said, a sign. It's hard for me to imagine what I'd do myself, but I'd like to think I'd make the move.
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@Mike197602 (13927)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 17
I can't really say since I don't have a family or kids...I mean family as in wife kids etc, I've got sisters and a dad. I can do whatever I want but for those with added extras such as a family I expect it is difficult. If options are limited where you are I'd maybe consider it. How many friends/family do you have where you are now and do you see them much? If you have limited contact with people I'd go for it but would be more hesitant if it would be a big wrench. Over here it's a little easier as even the other side of the country is a short journey by US standards
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@much2say (40452)
• United States
10 Mar 17
More than just signs, I know you are the type of person who would do the research to make sure it's doable before taking a major leap. From what you say here, it does sound appealing - and could be very doable, especially since it sounds like you are already familiar with the area. Hubby and I were raised here, literally in the same area . . . and our parents are still here too. We do talk about this stuff every now and then . . . that THIS is all we know . . . and how do other people just pack up their stuff and move to other cities, states, or even countries. CA prices are sky high, but again this is all we know . . . we've somehow managed to make it work with the available options. But if we didn't have that, of course we would have had to go with a different Plan B. Gotta do what you gotta do - and sometimes that only thing you can do becomes the best possible solution anyway. I have a cousin who has been here forever too - 3 kids nearly grown though - and husband. They had been living with and burdening my aunt and uncle for the longest time . . . and for whatever reason they moved to Idaho where he is from, a couple years ago. I don't really talk to her except I see things on FB - and it seems they are at least independent now - and seem to be quite happy. She's loving the country life now. Anyway, best of luck on whatever you decide - I know you will do what you feel is best for you and your family!
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
10 Mar 17
It sounds to me like you are [/i][i]supposed to go back there! If nothing is available here and there are better job positions for you both there, then what are you waiting for?! Wouldld you have to move before you applied for a job there or viceversa?
• United States
10 Mar 17
Our big hesitation is that we're not really thrilled with the idea of moving before the end of the school year. The 6-year-old is doing great at her current school, which is a huge improvement over the way kindergarten worked out for her last year. We could definitely apply for positions before moving. We had someone apply for a position a few months ago who was hired and still hasn't made his way to our location from the one he was already working at. We've discussed having my husband travel back first, then fly back here to drive the truck when we move all of our stuff. I'd just drive my own car with the kids. The idea would be that he could deal with getting the rental secured and I could finish tying up the loose ends back here... then again, maybe it would just be better to get everything out of the way at once. Some of his relatives would probably be willing to help drive if necessary.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
10 Mar 17
@owlandbutterfly I think your last idea is best. Getting it all over in one go. I can understand you wanting to wait until the end of the school year and that would gie you plenty of time to pack up everything and get settled in before the new school year started, right?
@Freelanzer (9498)
• Canada
14 Mar 17
It is tough to uproot the family but necessary if it means you have a place to call home and opportunities for employment
@PatZAnthony (13118)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
12 Mar 17
It might be tempting but would really depend on how my we enjoyed where we were now. What does your heart tell you to do?
@Fishmomma (11446)
• United States
11 Mar 17
I think its hard when there are few places to live in where your at now. If I was sure there would be a job in a new location with great pay and family would be closer, then that might be the right decision. How does the rest of your family feel about a move? Good luck with this hard decision. We can all give advice, but we aren't in your families shoes.
@KrauseHome (35514)
• United States
11 Mar 17
Well, if you believe in the Power of Prayer I would be Praying about it. What is your husband thinking and wanting? The right situation will come up. Just be mindful to make sure everything is for the Best.