Remembering What Might Have Been

@KrauseHome (35037)
United States
March 17, 2017 9:08am CST
There are things in my life that have happened over time that some might know about me while many do not. Things I usually don't talk about much but today I felt I should. These are Memories I many times now even though sad, know it was for the best. I had a miscarriage back in September of 1986. I was 3 months along or there abouts even though all the tests back then said I was not pregnant. The baby would be 30 yrs old now. He or she was due right around March 15th. Looking back and knowing what I know it was a blessing in discuise. The guy I was engaged to at the time 2 yrs later had a crush on his boss and I heard other rumors of things besides borrowing women's clothes so he could go out dressed as a woman. I also know he did eventually get married to a gal. Not sure of anything else and do not care. So in reality yes it sometime hurt as I had a couple more yrs later after this to the point when I met and married my husband I knew I cold not have kids. But at times like now when I sit here reflecting it would be nice to have a 30 yr old but I know at the same time God was in control. Who else here has been where I have and how old would your child be today?
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@Happy2BeMe (74743)
• Canada
17 Mar 17
I am sorry that you went through that. I am lucky that I never experienced such a think. I have five sisters and my mom lost her only boy when he was one day old. He was born premature and too small to survive. I often wonder what it would have been like to have a brother. Had he lived he would be 60 this April.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
22 Mar 17
It is something I have learned to live with and most of the time never bothers me like it did this yr. Could be because of being 30 yrs, and also had someone from our church 6 day old baby die that same day this yr.
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@Happy2BeMe (74743)
• Canada
22 Mar 17
@KrauseHome yes that would bring back a flood of memories.
@ilocosboy (34325)
• Philippines
17 Mar 17
We have 5 kids and thanks goodness we have not experienced any miscarriages.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
23 Mar 17
That is a blessing. Mine were quite some time ago or I would have kids all over 21, but I know it all happened for a reason.
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Mar 17
Gosh you have been through it. Mine would have been my last two Daughers 28 on the 15th of March. The Doctor told me that there was a whole spate of miscarriages and they were baffled as to why it happened. Acutally their Birthday would be on july the 7th but it did not get that far. So we are on and almost even par except mine miscarried in 1989 but on the same date. Feel for you as I know that I will meet them again some day that is what I do know.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
22 Mar 17
Yes, that is something we do have to look forward too as that has been promised. And I know God allowed this for a reason, and I would have never met my wonderful husband so even with the painful memories from time to time God is good.
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• Pamplona, Spain
22 Mar 17
@KrauseHome My daughters for me exist. Its hard to explain but i saw a photo of a young girl with her hair all in braids plaited around her head and this is how I feel she looks. My Mother was really beautiful but she never looked after herself at all.
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@Tampa_girl7 (25735)
• United States
18 Mar 17
God does work things out for the best. I am sorry that you went through this.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Thank You, and I do believe God does work things out for the Best.
@shivamani10 (11232)
• Hyderabad, India
17 Mar 17
undergoing miscarriage is really a pity. But, sometimes, it should be taken up if one really does not have proper healthy like lack of blood and poor Iron deficiency, vitamin Deficiency, poor facilities etc., When my wife was carrying for the second time I took him to a doctor and sought his opinion about the condition of health. The doctor tested her thoroughly and found that she won anemic and suggested better to for the alternative. Though people may think bad about it, I discussed the issue with my wife and made it clear that she was important to me than given another child. So we dropped the idea of having a second child. It is only after recovered sufficiently, we had another child to have.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Well, mine was 30 yrs ago and back then there was not near the knowledge etc that there is now, and my issues stem back from childhood with little knowledge by many what issues it might cause.
@Corbin5 (106702)
• United States
17 Mar 17
Yes, God does decide those things that happen to us. I have not had this experience, but I know it is one that never really goes away. It happened to my brother and his wife and their son would be age 47 now. So sorry this happened to you.
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@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
22 Mar 17
Well, it is a learning experience and Yes, it is not always something I wish on anyone, but truly believe God had a reason or I would have never met my wonderful husband.
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