Expecting me to take care of her

@ricki_911 (20073)
Toronto, Ontario
March 19, 2017 5:50pm CST
My mother claims she is going for surgery for her hernia. I said I have to work everyday that week unlike my siblings who work part time. But her reasoning is they are married or have boyfriend/ girlfriends whereas I don't. My reply was I support myself unlike them. SO I have bills to pay and not taking days off. She will be fine and it's a very basic surgery but thinks she needs all this attention like she's going to die. I can't see how she thinks after sitting making fun of me and comparing me to my siblings like I'm going to help her. She then says well if my Dad dies she's moving in with me, and I laughed because she wont be. The only one who would do it is my older brother and that is pushing it. I said no not happening there is a reason none of us want to be around her.
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@Courtlynn (54965)
• United States
19 Mar 17
It sucks when families are like this.. but I can see a little bit of why you wouldn't want her living with you. And i definitely understand the whole needing to work thing when the others really aren't. Sorry.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
20 Mar 17
She thinks she's entitled and everything is hers. So hence why I wont want her here. There is a reason everyone is avoiding her.
@Courtlynn (54965)
• United States
20 Mar 17
@ricki_911 I'm sorry
@jstory07 (72280)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 Mar 17
I think your mother will be just fine. And your Dad is there to take care of her.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
20 Mar 17
He works and she will blame him for everything.
• United States
19 Mar 17
Hope things work out and that your mom won't need as much help as she expects.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
20 Mar 17
She will be fine she just thinks everyone should drop their lives for her.
@Freelanzer (9536)
• Canada
19 Mar 17
Hope your mom's surgery is a success and hope you are able to work out your differences with her.
@ricki_911 (20073)
• Toronto, Ontario
20 Mar 17
After what she says about me - never happening. I think it's because she's jealous, as all my other siblings depend on someone to support themselves as did my mother she cannot pay a bill or support herself (has major debt). Yet, Iam the opposite and Iam the only one she verbally attacks and abusive behaviour.
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 17
I feel for y o u , it has to be bad w hen the others also w ant no thing to do with her; I had hernia surgery three years ago and I was mostly recovered before they could notify y son I had nobody being nursemaid to me as I did not want that Mty son is my only family and he did come to see me but we have always had a close bond,could your mom be jealous of how y support yourself while the others had help all the time from your parents
@allknowing (72862)
• India
20 Mar 17
Why can't mother's behave such that their children sacrifice for them?
• United States
20 Mar 17
Hopefully someone will be able to help her , after a hernia surgery you do need help.. It is hard when a family member is demanding, or expecting you to do something you can't do.
@shivamani10 (11170)
• Hyderabad, India
19 Mar 17
when a patient is having a fear complex it becomes necessary to convince her. Try to explain everything to her and remove all her fears about the surgery. The doctor also can do this job in convincing the parents and remove her fear about the surgery.