Finally getting somewhere with finding my son the care he needs

@shaggin (36328)
United States
March 22, 2017 9:24pm CST
Today is the 6th anniversary of my husbands death so I've been in a pretty big fog today so hopefully this post can be written well enough for you to be able to make sense of. I took my son to his appointment at the new office I chose. It is specifically for children with behavioral and mental health issues. The woman who did the intake was so nice and understanding. My son and I both really liked her. Next time he goes back will be April 7 and he will see a psychiatrist to do an evaluation on him to see if he needs services there for therapy etc. It was an hour drive one way but feeling like we are finally getting somewhere makes the drive well worth it. I have not been to this town since I was a teenager and went with my parents a few times. We saw a gorgeous waterfall, murals on buildings and a bunch of very old miniscule cemeteries as we drove. I look forward to making the drive again in summer when we can stop and take pictures and look for geocaches. The photo I added is cute perler bead designs my kids did. My son did his own to look like minecraft. My daughter looked online to make her cat from someone else's pattern.
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@GardenGerty (96726)
• Marion, Kansas
23 Mar 17
I am glad that this is feeling like a hopeful choice. I will be interested to read more about what happens with this evaluation.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
I am almost worried they will say he does not have anything wrong. It is so obvious to me that he does but in the office he seems good calm and smiles. So different then at home where there are triggers like having to do school work etc.
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@Tina30219 (32880)
• Onaway, Michigan
23 Mar 17
The photo looks very nice they both did a good job. Glad you are finally getting somewhere with your sons care he needs and you are right an hour drive is good if you both liked the person gotta do whats right for the little guy and if he liked this person hopefully the person that sees on for the appointment on Apr.7th is just as good and your son likes him or her.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Yes I am very hopeful the guy he sees will be just as good. They said he will only see him once to do the evaluation for services so then he will see someone else after that I guess. So far so good this makes me feel hopeful we found a great place with how kind everyone was that we met. Seeing that this is specifically a place for kids and they deal with issues like my son's all the time I think they will be more understanding.
@Tina30219 (32880)
• Onaway, Michigan
23 Mar 17
@shaggin Right especially since they handle this kind of stuff. Hopefully once he goes and is evaluated you will no more by easter and he gets approved for more services. Hopefully he will become a happy little man again very soon.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
@Tina30219 I hope so thanks so much!
@LadyDuck (147879)
• Switzerland
23 Mar 17
I am glad that your meeting has been positive. Those bead designs are very good, I love the cat.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
My daughter has been making them since she was about 2. She comes up with a lot of really creative ones on her own often.
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@LadyDuck (147879)
• Switzerland
23 Mar 17
@shaggin I remember that I loved to do this kind of things when I was a kid.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
@LadyDuck I did too. I was always making crafts.
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@marguicha (90632)
• Chile
27 Mar 17
It seems that finally someone is going to help your son as he should. I´m so glad! Even you will help him as I can see by your words that you are so optimist.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
28 Mar 17
I am really hoping I found a good place this time. My days are so stressful with his behavior the sooner he gets help the better! I look forward to his next appointment.
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@marguicha (90632)
• Chile
28 Mar 17
@shaggin Sending you all good vibes!
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
28 Mar 17
@marguicha thank you so much!
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@DianneN (74479)
• United States
23 Mar 17
This sounds so promising! I'm glad you were both off to a good start. The kids did a super job with their bead designs!
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
I enjoy when they do crafts. I had rocks for them to paint and was all excited about it but both pretty much quit before they started.
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@DianneN (74479)
• United States
23 Mar 17
@shaggin Lol! My father loved painting rocks.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
@DianneN A relative started a group in town where people paint the rocks and hide them around town for others to find. It is spreading all over the surrounding counties and was on the news last night. There is over 1000 people who joined the local Facebook group this past month.
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@Shellyann36 (8915)
• United States
12 Apr 17
The right care will make all the difference in the world. They both did a great job at their designs.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
17 Apr 17
My daughter made another really neat design today. It was one she found the pattern online for though. A unicorn. Today I take my son back to the psychologist for an evaluation. It is Monday and the return to cyber school after Spring break so he is miserable.
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• United States
19 Apr 17
@shaggin I know he will be so glad when summer break gets here. I loved unicorns when I was younger. I collected anything with them on it.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
19 Apr 17
@Shellyann36 He and I will both be very glad when summer vacation is here ha ha!
@sol_cee (14333)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Mar 17
Your son must be looking forward for 7th of April to come.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Nope lol he doesn't think he needs to talk to anyone and get help with all these issues. It is me who sees us bad he struggles with his emotions and behavior and know he needs to do this!
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@sol_cee (14333)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Mar 17
@shaggin Is that so? I thought he likes her.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
24 Mar 17
@sol_cee He did but he doesn't like having to talk about how he feels and the issues he's is having.
@JudyEv (119003)
• Bunbury, Australia
23 Mar 17
The bead designs are cute and you must feel quite relieved to have found that lady.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Yes I felt a huge sense of relief driving home yesterday after meeting with her. I hope the psychologist he meets with for the evaluation in April is just as nice.
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@JudyEv (119003)
• Bunbury, Australia
24 Mar 17
@shaggin I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
24 Mar 17
@JudyEv thank you very much I really appreciate it!
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@Nawsheen (22942)
• Mauritius
23 Mar 17
Glad to hear that your son will be getting the support he needs. Yes you should definitely take pictures the next time. Would love to see them. The cat design is very impressive
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
I will be going back with him on April 7 it may be nice enough to take pictures in the area by then.
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@Nawsheen (22942)
• Mauritius
23 Mar 17
@shaggin definitely. Looking forward to see the pictures
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@CRK109 (14419)
• United States
23 Mar 17
My love to you on this very sad day. I know how it hurts your heart. And I'm also so glad you're moving forward and making strides to help your son! You know your husband is smiling down on all of you every single day.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Thank you very much. It is just so painful he is not here to see our children grow and spend time with them doing things they enjoy that he also enjoyed.
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@CRK109 (14419)
• United States
24 Mar 17
@shaggin Yes, I know. It's always sad to lose a member of the family. It's so hard to keep going forward without them.
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@LeaPea2417 (19181)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Mar 17
I do hope your son gets the help he needs. I wish him the best.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Thank you very much. I am feeling hopeful about this for the first time in a very long time.
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@LeaPea2417 (19181)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Mar 17
@shaggin Your welcome.
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@Gillygirl (17278)
• Sutton, England
23 Mar 17
It must have been a difficult day for you. I am glad you and your son are making some headway now and hope 7th April will go well for you both. I love the bead designs.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
It was a tough day but it made me feel a little better to see we are finally getting somewhere with my son. It is so lot of stress to deal with his issues all the time. Today is a busy day I look forward to this day being over as well so I can just sit and relax before bed.
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@Gillygirl (17278)
• Sutton, England
23 Mar 17
@shaggin I'm sure it must have been. I hope you get some rest tonight and put your feet up.
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@BelleStarr (37119)
• Portland, Connecticut
31 Mar 17
I am glad that you are getting the help that you need and so sorry about the loss of your husband.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
1 Apr 17
Thank you very much! I had some good news yesterday with his cyber school so I am hoping for some better days the next few months.
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@andriaperry (46584)
• United States
28 Mar 17
I am glad you are getting what you need for your son, we also have to drive an hour to get proper doctors. I am sorry about your husband.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
29 Mar 17
It is hard when my kids go to bed at 8 to do this driving an hour one way on school nights. At least once my son does asynchronous at cyber school we can schedule appointments a little earlier.
@Tampa_girl7 (24938)
• United States
25 Mar 17
I bet that your children had fun making their crafts.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
25 Mar 17
They did :-) They insisted they needed more colors especially black so we went to armoire and bought a bag of black perler beads. My daughter started working on another design when we got home but then she quit soon after. They don't stick with one thing very long but that's okay they will use them again eventually.
• Midland, Michigan
23 Mar 17
Well that will be great if you're able to move ahead with his care especially in these difficult years. Does your son enjoy looking for geocaches with you too? That's not something I've ever done before, nor am I necessarily looking forward to doing it one day. But, I have no problem with others getting involved with it either.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
I love geocaching. My kids did for about a month then got sick of it. They hate the outdoors so they never want to go geocaching with me anymore. Since my son is home doing cyber school all the time I do not have the time to myself to do it but that's okay.
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@FayeHazel (16605)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Those beads are cool. I am sorry about the loss of your husband. I am happy to hear that you are getting somewhere finding some help for your son
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
The perler beads have been a lot of fun over the years. Thank you for your kind words it is much appreciated!
@carebear29 (28395)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
23 Mar 17
this is good to hear.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Yes it is great news for once :-)
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@jstory07 (65387)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Mar 17
Both of the pictures your kids did look good. I hope your son gets the help that he needs.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Thank you very much. I have a picture of another set of perler beads they made that I will post maybe next time I write a new discussion.
@Jackalyn (6620)
• Oxford, England
23 Mar 17
How lovely to see what your kids made. I am so glad that you may be finding the help your son needs. It is not easy when mental health issues are involved. It sounds like you have had things difficult for a long time and coping without your husnand cannot be easy.
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@shaggin (36328)
• United States
23 Mar 17
Yes I have been dealing with a lot for along time and with my own depression and anxiety it is getting to be a lot to handle. I am hopeful that things will get better for my son from here on out.
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