Some Progress Was Made

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Sorry to bore my regular friends here, but here is my recap of my family "drama" before I update the situation. My 60 year old uncle lived next door to my grandmother (80) who despite numerous backs surgeries and walks bent over with a cane, was waiting on him hand and foot. She finally moved into an assisted living facility so she could be healthy and he wouldn't wear her down, which what he was doing. He's a sociopath and doesn't realize why she moved (Did I ever tell you he faked that he had lupus? For years we thought he had it.) My mom (who died at 55 from dementia, almost 2 yrs. ago) was the executor of my grandmother's will. When my mother developed dementia they switched that responsibility to my sister (my Nana sure weren't going to trust my uncle), who despite being cold to me, if perfect for the job as she is very smart and efficient. So my sister has been heavily stressed because my grandmother put every single thing on her shoulders. My sister had to find her a facility that took her insurance (my grandmother has to pay an additional sum of $100 for this particular facility, her preference). My sister had to get a realtor to look at my grandmother's house (she wanted to sell my uncle's house, but he got mad, so she backed off). She also had to handle the paperwork for my grandmother to move, and helped my grandmother go through the house, and pick what she wants to keep, and what she wants to give away. My sister and her husband also had to go through my Nana's garage and storage shed and deal with that. And now, my sister is responsible for my grandmother's bank account, and paying her bills. Anyone guess something good is about to be said? My brother-in-law did the honors of telling my uncle that his mother (my Nana) would no longer be paying his bills. He would have to pay for his things including his cable, his food, and his prescriptions. The man doesn't even have to pay rent since my grandmother owns the house. I also found out he gets twice what I get a month. Which is understandable because he spent more time in the workforce that I did (he's now on disability because of his own actions). So he should have plenty of money for everything. My uncle whined, "How am I supposed to pay my bills?" My brother-in-law told him he'd just have to pay for them because my Nana was no longer an option. I don't know what he uses his money for. He is the only one in my family who smokes, but I know cigarettes must be expensive. He has no internet, so there isn't a ton of shopping he can do, and he doesn't do much home shopping from TV. He has to pay more to his housekeeper now (used to come once a week) because now that my grandmother moved he needs someone to do his bidding. So she's getting the calls in the middle of the night to come over. My grandmother can't even slip him money because my sister explained to her all money had to be accounted for. She can spend her own money no problem, but she doesn't because she depends on others to get around because she sold her car so she had no way to drive to my uncle's house and do his bidding (I remember when my grandmother paid his child support for years (he has 3 kids from his 3 previous marriages) ). So there is a silver lining. There has been more going on, but I'll save that for another post. Now you can see why I previously told you about my sister. She didn't help me during my mom's 9 year illness, but she's stepped up for my grandmother right now (even though they argue all the time).